Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Hey folks, I'm a little privy to some things currently going down and I'm not pleased at the moment. For those who are at high risk to this plague because that's what it is a plague, please, please, please take precautions where you can. I don't want to be an alarmist however knowing what I know now y'al...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

We do not have to hold onto the "Victim Card." We can receive the love we need and really want by owning our power. Through this program, we learn we can stand on our own two feet... even if sometimes it feels good to lean. We come to understand that the people we are leaning on are not necessarily holding us...

DavidG · DavidG

I have always been saying that we get closer to our HP in the present moment- without the clutter. An hour ago I was heading out to get some yard work done. But I decided to stay and rest! Not a logical choice really. But I got a call from our medical centre. Here, over the age of 65, we get a free flu jab...

Lyne · Lyne

The first sentence of the reading for Monday, 3/23, says a lot: Alcoholism has contributed to many dashed hopes, broken dreams, and considerable pain in my life. The writer says that alanon enables them to feel the pain, mourn the loss, and then move on. The author goes on to say how important it is t...

Fedora · Fedora

Hi everyone. I just had to come here briefly and vent before I go home (I'm at my office). AH has been trying to cut down his drinking from 6 huge (like 8 oz pours) vodka drinks to less, and he's down to around 2. Which is great. But of course nothing else about his mindset has changed and he's sad and insecure...

Temple · Temple

Our daughter lives in Florida. Her daughter was in college in Georgia, and came home last weekend. They are going to do online schooling I thought good--they will be together and that was comforting. And our granddaughter, who is introverted, has never wanted to be anywhere but at home. Just got...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about practicing program tools and keeping an open mind about using them. The writer describes how initially, she did not know how to meditate and considered it a crutch in dealing with the circumstances of life. Her sponsor reminded her that we humans ofte...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

The province we live in has declared a state of emergency. We have been directed not to gather in groups larger than 5. It's interesting, and as one member put it to me, in reference to groups not being allowed to hold meetings, "disappointing but necessary". Nancy and I are still alive, no symptoms ye...

Overcome · Overcome

With the isolation from the corona virus I have not been able to get to f2f meetings. I was thinking that others have probably had the same experience. Why not start up our on-line MIP meetings again. Would anyone be interested in this?

Overcome · Overcome

http://12stepforums.net/alanon_family_group_online_meeting.html

Aloha · Aloha

Hi everyone - thought I'd start a post to first welcome those coming here for the first time in lieu of their local face-to-face meeting(s) closing due to health precautions. Glad you're here. You'll notice this board does not operate like a normal meeting. While in general, most members try to stick...

a4l · a4l

I'm still kind of sad to post without Betty on board. But I figure I'd be sabotaging step 12 to give in to that grief. It's real though and I'm glad of it because it reminds me I'm human. Life's pretty good again. Still studying, now working in the legal field as a part time paralegal where I have my own key...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm reminded to practice the Serenity Prayer today and especially in the days and weeks ahead. Being mindful of what is and isn't within my reach will be important. Serenity is always with in my reach as is my higher power who is only a prayer away. God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot ch...

Freetime · Freetime

While working Step Four, today's author explored the topic of self-worth. Basing their self-worth on their accomplishments and other people's opinions meant that they always had to work hard to be the center of attention, and that never brought lasting satisfaction. Instead, basing their self...

JerryF · JerryF

This is totally not about me or my wife as we have self contained within our house as directed by he state. We won't have a problem with it as everything and one else is also self contained because of the coronavirus. We felt the affect until this morning as if we had it ourselves and my Higher Power is s...

Sally Smith · Sally Smith

Hello All, I am very new and this is my first post. I am attending Alanon meetings in Atlanta, GA and I love some online podcasts I have found but am looking for an online sponser. Can anyone help point me in the right direction?

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Sorry for the later than usual post - I slept in and am so grateful for the extra rest. Today's reading is all about staying on our side of the street and minding our own business. The writer shares how the compulsion to focus on others was 'strong' upon arrival to Al-Anon. The same wr...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family... I Came here today in Grief of another Loved one lost to the Disease of Addiction... A Fellow that I Grew up with and Tried SO Hard to Save from his Own Inner Demons...We went to School together since the 1st Grade, and Later in Life Became Neighbors, We had So Many Fun Loving, and Crazy Memo...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Greetings MIP family. Been away for a bit, busy working and what not. But with the pandemic thing, a lot of the groups in our area, have shut down. I did have a self-help group going at my place but even that is now an online group, in keeping with the whole social distancing thing. My place of employmnt,...

DavidG · DavidG

I get to live more in the present, these days... ...it's Monday morning and now i have fresh veggies in the bottom of the fridge. Was at a rowing regatta over the weekend- and two grand-kids did well. One got a bronze medal! It is unlikely there will be a national regatta this year- because our g...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Like many others, I'm at home for a while - ended up with some flu-like symptoms, and supposed to stay home and isolate. Thankfully, I'm already starting to feel better, I know many others aren't as lucky. My Courage to Change book is in my office at work, and I can't get to it. Checked the loc...

Lyne · Lyne

So where I live with my A is in a virus hot spot. Half the week I live near my son in a more remote location. Its a no brainer to live temporarily in the remote location could possibly keep my virus-free. My A wont come with me because she and the kids are at odds with each other, going on 4 years. I am in terr...

flower19 · flower19

My group has daily meetings. Admist this virus outbreak I can't help but to feel anxious and paranoid. My sponsor saids that I'm already dead inside so why fear death. Am I over exagerrating? I call my doctor to ask if I should stay home as I have bronchitis twice in the span of ten months. The second attac...

Smukke · Smukke

Dear all, I am a grateful member of Al-Anon and have cut down on my social life because of the virus. I don't know, whether I am vulnerable to it, but I meet so many people that I can easily be a multiplier. So, I have cut down on meetings and want to stay in touch with the programme. I joined Al-Anon almost 8 ye...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/16, reflects upon how difficult it can be to recognize progress. And if our expectations are unrealistic, or we are thinking we will have rapid improvement, we can be disappointed. The writer suggests comparing our present situation only to where we have been in the past...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

I hope everyone is doing well with the circumstances as they are in the world. I have been doing well until just now. Im trying to land and be still. Trying to bring it back to me and find serenity. I know I can chose not to participate in AH craziness. Im finding it hard. Im working from home like everyone el...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Since my post about a small victory for me (regarding minding my own business - FINALLY) helped a few folks, I thought I'd post another episode. My newly-sober but broke and almost homeless adult son moved much closer to where I live about 2 1\2 years ago, after being halfway across the country for mo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading gives us the analogy of life and the ocean. The waves that come in are all of the situations we try to navigate. We are provided a surfboard in the form of alanon slogans, and we can use these to surf over big waves of negative thinking onto the shore of healthier thin...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning, MIP family! I hope today finds you healthy, and in good spirits! Today's reading talks about Alcoholics doing 'what alcoholics do.' It uses a parabole of person sitting under a flock of pigeons and then getting angry when they were soiled upon. How dare those pigeons! Yes, it sucks to b...

VisibleT · VisibleT

I am engaged to be married this summer and my fiance is a recovering alcoholic, along with recreational drugs. He has been sober for over 30 years. This has been a hectic month for us, new, sudden grandchildren, moving parents out of their home into ours. We just remodeled our place and didn't expect...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading suggests that Step 7 -- "Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings" -- can be taken with joy and humor. Being able to laugh about a shortcoming is a sign of being humble enough to ask for it to be removed. If we can see one of our past actions as ludicrous, it means our higher power has les...

Juliette22 · Juliette22

Just reading these messages on this forum have started to help me. I have been with my husband for 10 years. He was sober when I met him but battled here and there with his sobriety since we have been together. The last 7 months have been rough though. We had a daughter 6 months ago and during that time he was...

texas yankee · texas yankee

My adult son had a lot of problems related to his driver's license and car registrations over the years while he was drinking and using - it got better when he got sober, but there always seemed to be a problem of one sort or the other - almost constant tickets, insurance lapses, expired registrations, e...

texas yankee · texas yankee

My wonderful Sister (three years younger than me) inherited a lot more wisdom from our parents than I did, and she has learned a lot more about life than I have. She's not had any negative impact from drugs and alcohol with any of her loved ones, except me, and she's always loving and patient and always t...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all (or happy day if you're beyond US)...Today's reading talks about detachment with love. I love the opening line - "What does another person's mood, tone of voice, or state of inebriation have to do with my course of action? Nothing, unless I decide oth...

Lrf22 · Lrf22

Its too long of a story so I wont even try. Suffice to say after many failed attempts hubby had gotten sober almost a month ago. Was going to AA. Had some medical issues. Missed a few days. Im fairly certain he went and drank tonight instead of going to his meeting. Like 95%. Im trying hard to take care of mys...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Speaking only for myself, I am selfishly sad over the loss of Betty. I say selfishly because I wish she were still here - with me and with us. I've been sitting with my sadness and have concluded that I've got a mini battle of the will going on - my will vs. the God of my understanding's will! I will subm...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the power of laughter. In speaking with an Alanon friend, our author contemplated the defaults of character that were hard to shake. Laughter can be a tool to make our frailties seem easier to bear and a path toward forgiving ourselves for our imperfections...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 3/9, the writer struggles to know what is Gods will and what is theirs. Serenity can slip away, a war can be going on in their mind, and sometimes a loud voice is heard. Doubt is often along for this ride. The author thinks that when they feel a desperate urge to act, that it mu...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sorry for the late entry, MIP Family! I am sick this morning (not with COVID-19) and just couldn't wake up earlier. The reading today talks about having faith that your Higher Power (whomever/whatever you choose that to be) has got your back. It talks about if you are having doubts, try this mantra:...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, I was reading many of the sharings before, about the effects of Alcoholism and the Effects. I found them all relative to how I feel when the Disease raises it's ugly head in my life, and how it effects me. It can always get me through one of my Loved Family Members.I have both the active Phase, and th...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... -the mornings are getting cooler here- and i have my hoody on! "Stream of consciousness" seems to work well... ...and to make use of the opportunity here- I say 'to claim space'. Filling meetings full of rigmarole used to annoy me. I always preferred ESH, if possibl...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hi family: Peter wrote me and gave me the time, locations of her wake and her funeral service.. here it is: Betty's Wake will be at: The Peter Jarema Funeral Home129 East 7th Street,(between Avenue A and First Avenue)Thursday, March 5, from 2 PM until 9 PM The Funeral Service will be at:Immaculat...

2HP · 2HP

I can remember how hard life was before al-anon, arriving with such hopelessness, dark thoughts and feelings. On my own, I did not know how to crawl out. After attending F2F meetings, I felt real glimmers of hope. Like yesterday, I recall the suggestion of journaling. I began writing abo...

mamalioness · mamalioness

https://www.legacy.com/guestbooks/nydailynews/betty-king-condolences/195567927?

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I have been reading the many tributes to Betty and thinking about all of the lives she touched so profoundly. How better to understand the power of this program than to know that many of us did not ever meet Betty in person but she most definitely helped us in our journeys. Todays...

DavidG · DavidG

My dream was to be a good example of Alanon recovery... ...at the moment I am looking at the example Betty gave us. REding her recent posts- on the message board, the Steps forum and on the MIP business board. I am sure there is a way forward. As far as Betty is concerned... Yesterday I went to a memor...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning, MIP Family! Today's topic is about Problem Solving: The reading talks about how having a problem is not the end of the world. It does not have to be negative or horrible. It doesn't mean a person is deficient. Everyone has problems from time to time that they must work through. In recovery...

DavidG · DavidG

...Is love of course. Unconditional love. I have just been back to Betty's facebook page, and had a little cry... ... I spend time on my own on the MIP Steps Group... and see that Betty completed the 12 Steps last year. And she had started on Step One. She had left a few kind words to our NA member- who...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author has learned that they cannot expect their needs to be met unless they first explain what those needs are. Before program, they did not express their feelings, but expected others to read their mind. When others did not meet their needs, they ended up angry, hurt, pouting, or fuming....

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to Everyone, I would just like to say that I will be thinking of Everyone that can/is going to Betty's Funeral Service. Also, I didn't know Betty for a long time, but what I did know of her, that she was strong in Programme, Loved Alanon,and gave to all who wanted what she had. She gave so much Love and Ca...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses the writer's anxiety on approaching inventory step work in Al-Anon and how the slogan, 'Keep it Simple' brought relief! The writer felt nervous at the thought of having their character defects removed. The want to get better helped the writer believe what others had sh...

2HP · 2HP

and I am having thoughts of Betty joyfully swimming in the ocean of infinity for her well-deserved rest from this life... smiling.. free... unencumbered... swimming... floating... swirling... feeling pity for us, still here. I personally feel her loud encouragement to never forget why I c...

JerryF · JerryF

I have a lot of "self" work including finishing saying good morning here to my family. I still have Betty on my mind too. I have personal improvement tasks also which includes program and other which are necessary for my age of 77. I have been using the VA to help me inventory and tune up my systems....

DavidG · DavidG

3-3 is a big day, at your home, Temple. Hoping the day brings back tender sweet memories. ... The day you arrived in this world, the world was filled with love. ...

Lyne · Lyne

It is with a heavy heart that Im telling you Betty died early this morning. I have asked Peter if there are any details of her funeral he wants shared on the board. This is devastating news for me, and Im sure for many of you. Lyne

JerryF · JerryF

If you go to the Funeral Home site you can find a picture of Betty there and the name of a surviving sister to including in your condolences. There is a bit of additional information also. I will attempt a cultural send of from Clovis CA even though I am about as far away from home country as can be. Th...

Kez · Kez

Hello everyone, I hope you are of good spirits. I need help, please. I have been out of an emotionally abusive marriage now for 6 years but lately have been what I am calling 'invaded' with bad dreams of situations I suffered while in the marriage. I have done so much work on myself and have found my value...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about the slogan "Think". The author shares that they were always puzzled by this slogan - wasn't it "stinking thinking" that had gotten them into "this" mess? The, one day, the author heard a neighbor's child repeating a safety message they had learned in school...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I am thinking of Betty this morning. This writing is offered up to her. Todays reading is about the complicated nature of detaching with love. The writer describes that having seen the successful recovery program of her father, she prayed for the same for her life partner. W...

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	OT - Coronavirus Safety (Preview) Hey folks, I'm a little privy to some things currently going down and I'm not pleased at the moment. For those who are at high risk to this plague because that's what it is a plague, please, please, please take precautions where you can. I don't want to be an alarmist however knowing what I know now y'al...	SerenityRUS	12	1303	Mar 25, 2020 by andromeda
	Daily Reflection 3/21/20 (Preview) We do not have to hold onto the "Victim Card." We can receive the love we need and really want by owning our power. Through this program, we learn we can stand on our own two feet... even if sometimes it feels good to lean. We come to understand that the people we are leaning on are not necessarily holding us...	PosiesandPuppies	5	1257	Mar 24, 2020 by mamalioness
	HP call is always different... (Preview) I have always been saying that we get closer to our HP in the present moment- without the clutter. An hour ago I was heading out to get some yard work done. But I decided to stay and rest! Not a logical choice really. But I got a call from our medical centre. Here, over the age of 65, we get a free flu jab...	DavidG	1	452	Mar 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 3/23 (Preview) The first sentence of the reading for Monday, 3/23, says a lot: Alcoholism has contributed to many dashed hopes, broken dreams, and considerable pain in my life. The writer says that alanon enables them to feel the pain, mourn the loss, and then move on. The author goes on to say how important it is t...	Lyne	9	1148	Mar 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	wish I could take a vacation from AH and his dramas (Preview) Hi everyone. I just had to come here briefly and vent before I go home (I'm at my office). AH has been trying to cut down his drinking from 6 huge (like 8 oz pours) vodka drinks to less, and he's down to around 2. Which is great. But of course nothing else about his mindset has changed and he's sad and insecure...	Fedora	21	1979	Mar 23, 2020 by Bo
	The CV has "come home" to our family, in a way (Preview) Our daughter lives in Florida. Her daughter was in college in Georgia, and came home last weekend. They are going to do online schooling I thought good--they will be together and that was comforting. And our granddaughter, who is introverted, has never wanted to be anywhere but at home. Just got...	Temple	13	2712	Mar 23, 2020 by Temple
	Hope for Today Mar 22 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about practicing program tools and keeping an open mind about using them. The writer describes how initially, she did not know how to meditate and considered it a crutch in dealing with the circumstances of life. Her sponsor reminded her that we humans ofte...	yanksfan51	5	706	Mar 22, 2020 by bud
	Checking in (Preview) The province we live in has declared a state of emergency. We have been directed not to gather in groups larger than 5. It's interesting, and as one member put it to me, in reference to groups not being allowed to hold meetings, "disappointing but necessary". Nancy and I are still alive, no symptoms ye...	Wolfie55	4	1454	Mar 22, 2020 by bud
	On-line meetings (Preview) With the isolation from the corona virus I have not been able to get to f2f meetings. I was thinking that others have probably had the same experience. Why not start up our on-line MIP meetings again. Would anyone be interested in this?	Overcome	8	1338	Mar 22, 2020 by bud
	Meeting starting now (Preview) http://12stepforums.net/alanon_family_group_online_meeting.html	Overcome	1	2362	Mar 22, 2020 by Freetime
	Did your face-to-face meeting close? (Preview) Hi everyone - thought I'd start a post to first welcome those coming here for the first time in lieu of their local face-to-face meeting(s) closing due to health precautions. Glad you're here. You'll notice this board does not operate like a normal meeting. While in general, most members try to stick...	Aloha	11	1891	Mar 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	Just dropping in (Preview) I'm still kind of sad to post without Betty on board. But I figure I'd be sabotaging step 12 to give in to that grief. It's real though and I'm glad of it because it reminds me I'm human. Life's pretty good again. Still studying, now working in the legal field as a part time paralegal where I have my own key...	a4l	7	1086	Mar 21, 2020 by mamalioness
	For Today and Any Day (Preview) I'm reminded to practice the Serenity Prayer today and especially in the days and weeks ahead. Being mindful of what is and isn't within my reach will be important. Serenity is always with in my reach as is my higher power who is only a prayer away. God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot ch...	tiredtonite	9	1652	Mar 21, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, March 20 (Preview) While working Step Four, today's author explored the topic of self-worth. Basing their self-worth on their accomplishments and other people's opinions meant that they always had to work hard to be the center of attention, and that never brought lasting satisfaction. Instead, basing their self...	Freetime	4	516	Mar 20, 2020 by Bo
	Self Contained Monday morning. (Preview) This is totally not about me or my wife as we have self contained within our house as directed by he state. We won't have a problem with it as everything and one else is also self contained because of the coronavirus. We felt the affect until this morning as if we had it ourselves and my Higher Power is s...	JerryF	16	812	Mar 20, 2020 by Bo
	Online sponsor (Preview) Hello All, I am very new and this is my first post. I am attending Alanon meetings in Atlanta, GA and I love some online podcasts I have found but am looking for an online sponser. Can anyone help point me in the right direction?	Sally Smith	3	436	Mar 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 3/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Sorry for the later than usual post - I slept in and am so grateful for the extra rest. Today's reading is all about staying on our side of the street and minding our own business. The writer shares how the compulsion to focus on others was 'strong' upon arrival to Al-Anon. The same wr...	Iamhere	5	597	Mar 19, 2020 by DavidG
	Sometimes Grief is Never Ending! (Preview) Hello Family... I Came here today in Grief of another Loved one lost to the Disease of Addiction... A Fellow that I Grew up with and Tried SO Hard to Save from his Own Inner Demons...We went to School together since the 1st Grade, and Later in Life Became Neighbors, We had So Many Fun Loving, and Crazy Memo...	Jozie	8	1581	Mar 19, 2020 by grace225
	Back again (Preview) Greetings MIP family. Been away for a bit, busy working and what not. But with the pandemic thing, a lot of the groups in our area, have shut down. I did have a self-help group going at my place but even that is now an online group, in keeping with the whole social distancing thing. My place of employmnt,...	Wolfie55	5	2287	Mar 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	Got my shopping done... (Preview) I get to live more in the present, these days... ...it's Monday morning and now i have fresh veggies in the bottom of the fridge. Was at a rowing regatta over the weekend- and two grand-kids did well. One got a bronze medal! It is unlikely there will be a national regatta this year- because our g...	DavidG	5	2239	Mar 18, 2020 by DavidG
	Today's Hope March 18 (Preview) Hello MIP! Like many others, I'm at home for a while - ended up with some flu-like symptoms, and supposed to stay home and isolate. Thankfully, I'm already starting to feel better, I know many others aren't as lucky. My Courage to Change book is in my office at work, and I can't get to it. Checked the loc...	Skorpi	2	981	Mar 18, 2020 by Iamhere
	Trying to turn it over (Preview) So where I live with my A is in a virus hot spot. Half the week I live near my son in a more remote location. Its a no brainer to live temporarily in the remote location could possibly keep my virus-free. My A wont come with me because she and the kids are at odds with each other, going on 4 years. I am in terr...	Lyne	6	1414	Mar 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Spons suggests I still go to face to face meetings (Preview) My group has daily meetings. Admist this virus outbreak I can't help but to feel anxious and paranoid. My sponsor saids that I'm already dead inside so why fear death. Am I over exagerrating? I call my doctor to ask if I should stay home as I have bronchitis twice in the span of ten months. The second attac...	flower19	7	478	Mar 17, 2020 by Aloha
	Share (Preview) Dear all, I am a grateful member of Al-Anon and have cut down on my social life because of the virus. I don't know, whether I am vulnerable to it, but I meet so many people that I can easily be a multiplier. So, I have cut down on meetings and want to stay in touch with the programme. I joined Al-Anon almost 8 ye...	Smukke	4	736	Mar 16, 2020 by flower19
	C2C, 3/16 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/16, reflects upon how difficult it can be to recognize progress. And if our expectations are unrealistic, or we are thinking we will have rapid improvement, we can be disappointed. The writer suggests comparing our present situation only to where we have been in the past...	Lyne	2	373	Mar 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Need Peace (Preview) I hope everyone is doing well with the circumstances as they are in the world. I have been doing well until just now. Im trying to land and be still. Trying to bring it back to me and find serenity. I know I can chose not to participate in AH craziness. Im finding it hard. Im working from home like everyone el...	sunmustshine	2	425	Mar 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	MORE Progress, in VERY small steps, and small victories . . . . (Preview) Since my post about a small victory for me (regarding minding my own business - FINALLY) helped a few folks, I thought I'd post another episode. My newly-sober but broke and almost homeless adult son moved much closer to where I live about 2 1\2 years ago, after being halfway across the country for mo...	texas yankee	3	469	Mar 15, 2020 by 2HP
	Hope for Today Mar 15 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading gives us the analogy of life and the ocean. The waves that come in are all of the situations we try to navigate. We are provided a surfboard in the form of alanon slogans, and we can use these to surf over big waves of negative thinking onto the shore of healthier thin...	yanksfan51	2	353	Mar 15, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 3/14/20 (Preview) Good morning, MIP family! I hope today finds you healthy, and in good spirits! Today's reading talks about Alcoholics doing 'what alcoholics do.' It uses a parabole of person sitting under a flock of pigeons and then getting angry when they were soiled upon. How dare those pigeons! Yes, it sucks to b...	PosiesandPuppies	4	782	Mar 15, 2020 by DavidG
	Marriage Go On? (Preview) I am engaged to be married this summer and my fiance is a recovering alcoholic, along with recreational drugs. He has been sober for over 30 years. This has been a hectic month for us, new, sudden grandchildren, moving parents out of their home into ours. We just remodeled our place and didn't expect...	VisibleT	8	1363	Mar 14, 2020 by 2HP
	Courage to Change 3/13 (Preview) Today's reading suggests that Step 7 -- "Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings" -- can be taken with joy and humor. Being able to laugh about a shortcoming is a sign of being humble enough to ask for it to be removed. If we can see one of our past actions as ludicrous, it means our higher power has les...	Freetime	2	1421	Mar 14, 2020 by Lyne
	What to do?? (Preview) Just reading these messages on this forum have started to help me. I have been with my husband for 10 years. He was sober when I met him but battled here and there with his sobriety since we have been together. The last 7 months have been rough though. We had a daughter 6 months ago and during that time he was...	Juliette22	4	2080	Mar 14, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Progress, in VERY small steps, and small victories . . . . (Preview) My adult son had a lot of problems related to his driver's license and car registrations over the years while he was drinking and using - it got better when he got sober, but there always seemed to be a problem of one sort or the other - almost constant tickets, insurance lapses, expired registrations, e...	texas yankee	11	1422	Mar 13, 2020 by Iamhere
	Wisdom from my Sister (Preview) My wonderful Sister (three years younger than me) inherited a lot more wisdom from our parents than I did, and she has learned a lot more about life than I have. She's not had any negative impact from drugs and alcohol with any of her loved ones, except me, and she's always loving and patient and always t...	texas yankee	4	1309	Mar 13, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 3/12 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all (or happy day if you're beyond US)...Today's reading talks about detachment with love. I love the opening line - "What does another person's mood, tone of voice, or state of inebriation have to do with my course of action? Nothing, unless I decide oth...	Iamhere	5	1480	Mar 12, 2020 by DavidG
	Husband new to Recovery; me too (Preview) Its too long of a story so I wont even try. Suffice to say after many failed attempts hubby had gotten sober almost a month ago. Was going to AA. Had some medical issues. Missed a few days. Im fairly certain he went and drank tonight instead of going to his meeting. Like 95%. Im trying hard to take care of mys...	Lrf22	16	2066	Mar 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Tribute to Betty - Because We Can (Preview) Speaking only for myself, I am selfishly sad over the loss of Betty. I say selfishly because I wish she were still here - with me and with us. I've been sitting with my sadness and have concluded that I've got a mini battle of the will going on - my will vs. the God of my understanding's will! I will subm...	Iamhere	19	1213	Mar 12, 2020 by serenity47
	Courage to Change March 11 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the power of laughter. In speaking with an Alanon friend, our author contemplated the defaults of character that were hard to shake. Laughter can be a tool to make our frailties seem easier to bear and a path toward forgiving ourselves for our imperfections...	Skorpi	4	505	Mar 11, 2020 by Freetime
	C2C, 3/9 (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 3/9, the writer struggles to know what is Gods will and what is theirs. Serenity can slip away, a war can be going on in their mind, and sometimes a loud voice is heard. Doubt is often along for this ride. The author thinks that when they feel a desperate urge to act, that it mu...	Lyne	4	1051	Mar 11, 2020 by KT2015
	Saturday 3/7/20 (Preview) Sorry for the late entry, MIP Family! I am sick this morning (not with COVID-19) and just couldn't wake up earlier. The reading today talks about having faith that your Higher Power (whomever/whatever you choose that to be) has got your back. It talks about if you are having doubts, try this mantra:...	PosiesandPuppies	4	1285	Mar 11, 2020 by Maresie888
	Heartache (Preview) Hi, I was reading many of the sharings before, about the effects of Alcoholism and the Effects. I found them all relative to how I feel when the Disease raises it's ugly head in my life, and how it effects me. It can always get me through one of my Loved Family Members.I have both the active Phase, and th...	WendyP	6	791	Mar 11, 2020 by Maresie888
	Sharing... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... -the mornings are getting cooler here- and i have my hoody on! "Stream of consciousness" seems to work well... ...and to make use of the opportunity here- I say 'to claim space'. Filling meetings full of rigmarole used to annoy me. I always preferred ESH, if possibl...	DavidG	2	387	Mar 10, 2020 by DavidG
	Betty's wake and funeral service (Preview) Hi family: Peter wrote me and gave me the time, locations of her wake and her funeral service.. here it is: Betty's Wake will be at: The Peter Jarema Funeral Home129 East 7th Street,(between Avenue A and First Avenue)Thursday, March 5, from 2 PM until 9 PM The Funeral Service will be at:Immaculat...	mamalioness	18	1747	Mar 9, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Journaling (Preview) I can remember how hard life was before al-anon, arriving with such hopelessness, dark thoughts and feelings. On my own, I did not know how to crawl out. After attending F2F meetings, I felt real glimmers of hope. Like yesterday, I recall the suggestion of journaling. I began writing abo...	2HP	4	646	Mar 9, 2020 by DavidG
	Betty's obituary page (Preview) https://www.legacy.com/guestbooks/nydailynews/betty-king-condolences/195567927?	mamalioness	2	625	Mar 9, 2020 by 2HP
	Hope for Today Mar 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone- I have been reading the many tributes to Betty and thinking about all of the lives she touched so profoundly. How better to understand the power of this program than to know that many of us did not ever meet Betty in person but she most definitely helped us in our journeys. Todays...	yanksfan51	3	540	Mar 8, 2020 by DavidG
	A pathway forwards... (Preview) My dream was to be a good example of Alanon recovery... ...at the moment I am looking at the example Betty gave us. REding her recent posts- on the message board, the Steps forum and on the MIP business board. I am sure there is a way forward. As far as Betty is concerned... Yesterday I went to a memor...	DavidG	3	487	Mar 8, 2020 by Lyne
	The Thought for Saturday 2/22 (Preview) Good morning, MIP Family! Today's topic is about Problem Solving: The reading talks about how having a problem is not the end of the world. It does not have to be negative or horrible. It doesn't mean a person is deficient. Everyone has problems from time to time that they must work through. In recovery...	PosiesandPuppies	8	1726	Mar 6, 2020 by DavidG
	THE GREATEST GIFT... (Preview) ...Is love of course. Unconditional love. I have just been back to Betty's facebook page, and had a little cry... ... I spend time on my own on the MIP Steps Group... and see that Betty completed the 12 Steps last year. And she had started on Step One. She had left a few kind words to our NA member- who...	DavidG	3	1045	Mar 6, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change, 3/6 (Preview) Today's author has learned that they cannot expect their needs to be met unless they first explain what those needs are. Before program, they did not express their feelings, but expected others to read their mind. When others did not meet their needs, they ended up angry, hurt, pouting, or fuming....	Freetime	4	553	Mar 6, 2020 by Lyne
	Farewell to Betty, (Preview) Hi to Everyone, I would just like to say that I will be thinking of Everyone that can/is going to Betty's Funeral Service. Also, I didn't know Betty for a long time, but what I did know of her, that she was strong in Programme, Loved Alanon,and gave to all who wanted what she had. She gave so much Love and Ca...	WendyP	4	1553	Mar 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 3/5 (Preview) Today's reading discusses the writer's anxiety on approaching inventory step work in Al-Anon and how the slogan, 'Keep it Simple' brought relief! The writer felt nervous at the thought of having their character defects removed. The want to get better helped the writer believe what others had sh...	Iamhere	3	1477	Mar 5, 2020 by DavidG
	morning has broken... (Preview) and I am having thoughts of Betty joyfully swimming in the ocean of infinity for her well-deserved rest from this life... smiling.. free... unencumbered... swimming... floating... swirling... feeling pity for us, still here. I personally feel her loud encouragement to never forget why I c...	2HP	3	1114	Mar 5, 2020 by Iamhere
	It's an on and off morning and day. (Preview) I have a lot of "self" work including finishing saying good morning here to my family. I still have Betty on my mind too. I have personal improvement tasks also which includes program and other which are necessary for my age of 77. I have been using the VA to help me inventory and tune up my systems....	JerryF	7	570	Mar 5, 2020 by JerryF
	Happy Birthday, Temple... (Preview) 3-3 is a big day, at your home, Temple. Hoping the day brings back tender sweet memories. ... The day you arrived in this world, the world was filled with love. ...	DavidG	7	1424	Mar 4, 2020 by Temple
	Betty (Preview) It is with a heavy heart that Im telling you Betty died early this morning. I have asked Peter if there are any details of her funeral he wants shared on the board. This is devastating news for me, and Im sure for many of you. Lyne	Lyne	38	1742	Mar 4, 2020 by SerenityRUS
	Additional to Betty (Preview) If you go to the Funeral Home site you can find a picture of Betty there and the name of a surviving sister to including in your condolences. There is a bit of additional information also. I will attempt a cultural send of from Clovis CA even though I am about as far away from home country as can be. Th...	JerryF	10	689	Mar 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	I Need Help (Preview) Hello everyone, I hope you are of good spirits. I need help, please. I have been out of an emotionally abusive marriage now for 6 years but lately have been what I am calling 'invaded' with bad dreams of situations I suffered while in the marriage. I have done so much work on myself and have found my value...	Kez	12	2100	Mar 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change March 4 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about the slogan "Think". The author shares that they were always puzzled by this slogan - wasn't it "stinking thinking" that had gotten them into "this" mess? The, one day, the author heard a neighbor's child repeating a safety message they had learned in school...	Skorpi	3	409	Mar 4, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today 3/1 (Preview) Good morning everyone- I am thinking of Betty this morning. This writing is offered up to her. Todays reading is about the complicated nature of detaching with love. The writer describes that having seen the successful recovery program of her father, she prayed for the same for her life partner. W...	yanksfan51	7	2393	Mar 3, 2020 by Maresie888
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