Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

So on Monday March 23, 1998, Nancy and I had our first date. It started with us going for coffee at Tim Hortons and then to an open AA speaker meeting. Every year, as close to the date as we can get, we re-enact the evening. This year, the date fell on the same day of the week so we had planned to do it exactly the...

DavidG · DavidG

Inside the rooms we get closer than outside, mostly... Our oldest old-timer is terminally ill- with five groups in our valleys, three are still functioning. The member was coming to a combined meeting next Monday- but our virus regulations makes that impossible. And a non starter. In the hey-...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I am holding the fort, over in the Steps Board since we lost Betty. Picking up where Betty left off took some study and reflection. It helped that i had been a part of the board and had worked with Betty a fair bit. There is safety in numbers- and in my world, having differing viewpoints is a s...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I shared earlier, but the original poster must have deleted the post about alternatives to face to face meetings. These are available for anyone who doesn't have access to F2F meetings and/or doesn't have a ride, childcare, or a meeting that works with life/work/school schedule. Great resource...

iris52 · iris52

I am a former member and have not been to the online meetings for a long time.Are they still going on?Tried to go to the chatroom,but it was weird,not like I remember. Thanks, Iris52

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

There have been a lot of changes in the way we do things since the outbreak began. And not just here. It's a global thing. I know that. Up until yesterday, I was an Attendant in a home for men in recovery. Due to circumstances I have no control over, I don't have that job anymore. Certain things about that...

Aloha · Aloha

I've been on self-quarantine now for the last week and a half or so. Currently I'm home alone while working. My roommate is likely going to be starting to work from home in a little while, however, so I won't have this complete alone-time for too much longer. In any case, I found myself feeling really ang...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello, everyone! I hope you are having a good day. Today's author was just surviving from crisis to crisis until they joined the Al-Anon family. They learned from the Traditions how a healthy group or family functions. The Traditions provided a guide for dealing with other people and growing as a...

flower19 · flower19

This outbreak has made it impossible to suppress the unresolved issues that live inside me. I am plagued with fear and regret. Resentments are coming up to talk to me. My demons want to play again and all I want to do is run from them. But I cant. My sponsor saids that it is normal and to make the best out of th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! We have another mild, spring-like day and that's so refreshing! Today's reading is about progress, not perfection. In Al-Anon, we discover that many of us have spent 'waiting for the past to change'. Many of us have chosen to do 'nothing different' or nothing...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning MIP! Today's sharing is from Today's Hope (My C2C is still in my office) The author shares about similarities between fighting the slow onslaught of flood waters to dealing with active alcoholism. The author had received torrents of rain in just three days, which was leading to a buil...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Hey folks, I'm a little privy to some things currently going down and I'm not pleased at the moment. For those who are at high risk to this plague because that's what it is a plague, please, please, please take precautions where you can. I don't want to be an alarmist however knowing what I know now y'al...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

We do not have to hold onto the "Victim Card." We can receive the love we need and really want by owning our power. Through this program, we learn we can stand on our own two feet... even if sometimes it feels good to lean. We come to understand that the people we are leaning on are not necessarily holding us...

DavidG · DavidG

I have always been saying that we get closer to our HP in the present moment- without the clutter. An hour ago I was heading out to get some yard work done. But I decided to stay and rest! Not a logical choice really. But I got a call from our medical centre. Here, over the age of 65, we get a free flu jab...

Lyne · Lyne

The first sentence of the reading for Monday, 3/23, says a lot: Alcoholism has contributed to many dashed hopes, broken dreams, and considerable pain in my life. The writer says that alanon enables them to feel the pain, mourn the loss, and then move on. The author goes on to say how important it is t...

Fedora · Fedora

Hi everyone. I just had to come here briefly and vent before I go home (I'm at my office). AH has been trying to cut down his drinking from 6 huge (like 8 oz pours) vodka drinks to less, and he's down to around 2. Which is great. But of course nothing else about his mindset has changed and he's sad and insecure...

Temple · Temple

Our daughter lives in Florida. Her daughter was in college in Georgia, and came home last weekend. They are going to do online schooling I thought good--they will be together and that was comforting. And our granddaughter, who is introverted, has never wanted to be anywhere but at home. Just got...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about practicing program tools and keeping an open mind about using them. The writer describes how initially, she did not know how to meditate and considered it a crutch in dealing with the circumstances of life. Her sponsor reminded her that we humans ofte...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

The province we live in has declared a state of emergency. We have been directed not to gather in groups larger than 5. It's interesting, and as one member put it to me, in reference to groups not being allowed to hold meetings, "disappointing but necessary". Nancy and I are still alive, no symptoms ye...

Overcome · Overcome

With the isolation from the corona virus I have not been able to get to f2f meetings. I was thinking that others have probably had the same experience. Why not start up our on-line MIP meetings again. Would anyone be interested in this?

Overcome · Overcome

http://12stepforums.net/alanon_family_group_online_meeting.html

Aloha · Aloha

Hi everyone - thought I'd start a post to first welcome those coming here for the first time in lieu of their local face-to-face meeting(s) closing due to health precautions. Glad you're here. You'll notice this board does not operate like a normal meeting. While in general, most members try to stick...

a4l · a4l

I'm still kind of sad to post without Betty on board. But I figure I'd be sabotaging step 12 to give in to that grief. It's real though and I'm glad of it because it reminds me I'm human. Life's pretty good again. Still studying, now working in the legal field as a part time paralegal where I have my own key...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm reminded to practice the Serenity Prayer today and especially in the days and weeks ahead. Being mindful of what is and isn't within my reach will be important. Serenity is always with in my reach as is my higher power who is only a prayer away. God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot ch...

Freetime · Freetime

While working Step Four, today's author explored the topic of self-worth. Basing their self-worth on their accomplishments and other people's opinions meant that they always had to work hard to be the center of attention, and that never brought lasting satisfaction. Instead, basing their self...

JerryF · JerryF

This is totally not about me or my wife as we have self contained within our house as directed by he state. We won't have a problem with it as everything and one else is also self contained because of the coronavirus. We felt the affect until this morning as if we had it ourselves and my Higher Power is s...

Sally Smith · Sally Smith

Hello All, I am very new and this is my first post. I am attending Alanon meetings in Atlanta, GA and I love some online podcasts I have found but am looking for an online sponser. Can anyone help point me in the right direction?

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Sorry for the later than usual post - I slept in and am so grateful for the extra rest. Today's reading is all about staying on our side of the street and minding our own business. The writer shares how the compulsion to focus on others was 'strong' upon arrival to Al-Anon. The same wr...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family... I Came here today in Grief of another Loved one lost to the Disease of Addiction... A Fellow that I Grew up with and Tried SO Hard to Save from his Own Inner Demons...We went to School together since the 1st Grade, and Later in Life Became Neighbors, We had So Many Fun Loving, and Crazy Memo...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Greetings MIP family. Been away for a bit, busy working and what not. But with the pandemic thing, a lot of the groups in our area, have shut down. I did have a self-help group going at my place but even that is now an online group, in keeping with the whole social distancing thing. My place of employmnt,...

DavidG · DavidG

I get to live more in the present, these days... ...it's Monday morning and now i have fresh veggies in the bottom of the fridge. Was at a rowing regatta over the weekend- and two grand-kids did well. One got a bronze medal! It is unlikely there will be a national regatta this year- because our g...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Like many others, I'm at home for a while - ended up with some flu-like symptoms, and supposed to stay home and isolate. Thankfully, I'm already starting to feel better, I know many others aren't as lucky. My Courage to Change book is in my office at work, and I can't get to it. Checked the loc...

Lyne · Lyne

So where I live with my A is in a virus hot spot. Half the week I live near my son in a more remote location. Its a no brainer to live temporarily in the remote location could possibly keep my virus-free. My A wont come with me because she and the kids are at odds with each other, going on 4 years. I am in terr...

flower19 · flower19

My group has daily meetings. Admist this virus outbreak I can't help but to feel anxious and paranoid. My sponsor saids that I'm already dead inside so why fear death. Am I over exagerrating? I call my doctor to ask if I should stay home as I have bronchitis twice in the span of ten months. The second attac...

Smukke · Smukke

Dear all, I am a grateful member of Al-Anon and have cut down on my social life because of the virus. I don't know, whether I am vulnerable to it, but I meet so many people that I can easily be a multiplier. So, I have cut down on meetings and want to stay in touch with the programme. I joined Al-Anon almost 8 ye...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/16, reflects upon how difficult it can be to recognize progress. And if our expectations are unrealistic, or we are thinking we will have rapid improvement, we can be disappointed. The writer suggests comparing our present situation only to where we have been in the past...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

I hope everyone is doing well with the circumstances as they are in the world. I have been doing well until just now. Im trying to land and be still. Trying to bring it back to me and find serenity. I know I can chose not to participate in AH craziness. Im finding it hard. Im working from home like everyone el...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Since my post about a small victory for me (regarding minding my own business - FINALLY) helped a few folks, I thought I'd post another episode. My newly-sober but broke and almost homeless adult son moved much closer to where I live about 2 1\2 years ago, after being halfway across the country for mo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading gives us the analogy of life and the ocean. The waves that come in are all of the situations we try to navigate. We are provided a surfboard in the form of alanon slogans, and we can use these to surf over big waves of negative thinking onto the shore of healthier thin...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning, MIP family! I hope today finds you healthy, and in good spirits! Today's reading talks about Alcoholics doing 'what alcoholics do.' It uses a parabole of person sitting under a flock of pigeons and then getting angry when they were soiled upon. How dare those pigeons! Yes, it sucks to b...

VisibleT · VisibleT

I am engaged to be married this summer and my fiance is a recovering alcoholic, along with recreational drugs. He has been sober for over 30 years. This has been a hectic month for us, new, sudden grandchildren, moving parents out of their home into ours. We just remodeled our place and didn't expect...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading suggests that Step 7 -- "Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings" -- can be taken with joy and humor. Being able to laugh about a shortcoming is a sign of being humble enough to ask for it to be removed. If we can see one of our past actions as ludicrous, it means our higher power has les...

Juliette22 · Juliette22

Just reading these messages on this forum have started to help me. I have been with my husband for 10 years. He was sober when I met him but battled here and there with his sobriety since we have been together. The last 7 months have been rough though. We had a daughter 6 months ago and during that time he was...

texas yankee · texas yankee

My adult son had a lot of problems related to his driver's license and car registrations over the years while he was drinking and using - it got better when he got sober, but there always seemed to be a problem of one sort or the other - almost constant tickets, insurance lapses, expired registrations, e...

texas yankee · texas yankee

My wonderful Sister (three years younger than me) inherited a lot more wisdom from our parents than I did, and she has learned a lot more about life than I have. She's not had any negative impact from drugs and alcohol with any of her loved ones, except me, and she's always loving and patient and always t...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all (or happy day if you're beyond US)...Today's reading talks about detachment with love. I love the opening line - "What does another person's mood, tone of voice, or state of inebriation have to do with my course of action? Nothing, unless I decide oth...

Lrf22 · Lrf22

Its too long of a story so I wont even try. Suffice to say after many failed attempts hubby had gotten sober almost a month ago. Was going to AA. Had some medical issues. Missed a few days. Im fairly certain he went and drank tonight instead of going to his meeting. Like 95%. Im trying hard to take care of mys...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Speaking only for myself, I am selfishly sad over the loss of Betty. I say selfishly because I wish she were still here - with me and with us. I've been sitting with my sadness and have concluded that I've got a mini battle of the will going on - my will vs. the God of my understanding's will! I will subm...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the power of laughter. In speaking with an Alanon friend, our author contemplated the defaults of character that were hard to shake. Laughter can be a tool to make our frailties seem easier to bear and a path toward forgiving ourselves for our imperfections...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 3/9, the writer struggles to know what is Gods will and what is theirs. Serenity can slip away, a war can be going on in their mind, and sometimes a loud voice is heard. Doubt is often along for this ride. The author thinks that when they feel a desperate urge to act, that it mu...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Sorry for the late entry, MIP Family! I am sick this morning (not with COVID-19) and just couldn't wake up earlier. The reading today talks about having faith that your Higher Power (whomever/whatever you choose that to be) has got your back. It talks about if you are having doubts, try this mantra:...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, I was reading many of the sharings before, about the effects of Alcoholism and the Effects. I found them all relative to how I feel when the Disease raises it's ugly head in my life, and how it effects me. It can always get me through one of my Loved Family Members.I have both the active Phase, and th...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... -the mornings are getting cooler here- and i have my hoody on! "Stream of consciousness" seems to work well... ...and to make use of the opportunity here- I say 'to claim space'. Filling meetings full of rigmarole used to annoy me. I always preferred ESH, if possibl...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hi family: Peter wrote me and gave me the time, locations of her wake and her funeral service.. here it is: Betty's Wake will be at: The Peter Jarema Funeral Home129 East 7th Street,(between Avenue A and First Avenue)Thursday, March 5, from 2 PM until 9 PM The Funeral Service will be at:Immaculat...

2HP · 2HP

I can remember how hard life was before al-anon, arriving with such hopelessness, dark thoughts and feelings. On my own, I did not know how to crawl out. After attending F2F meetings, I felt real glimmers of hope. Like yesterday, I recall the suggestion of journaling. I began writing abo...

mamalioness · mamalioness

https://www.legacy.com/guestbooks/nydailynews/betty-king-condolences/195567927?

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I have been reading the many tributes to Betty and thinking about all of the lives she touched so profoundly. How better to understand the power of this program than to know that many of us did not ever meet Betty in person but she most definitely helped us in our journeys. Todays...

DavidG · DavidG

My dream was to be a good example of Alanon recovery... ...at the moment I am looking at the example Betty gave us. REding her recent posts- on the message board, the Steps forum and on the MIP business board. I am sure there is a way forward. As far as Betty is concerned... Yesterday I went to a memor...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning, MIP Family! Today's topic is about Problem Solving: The reading talks about how having a problem is not the end of the world. It does not have to be negative or horrible. It doesn't mean a person is deficient. Everyone has problems from time to time that they must work through. In recovery...

DavidG · DavidG

...Is love of course. Unconditional love. I have just been back to Betty's facebook page, and had a little cry... ... I spend time on my own on the MIP Steps Group... and see that Betty completed the 12 Steps last year. And she had started on Step One. She had left a few kind words to our NA member- who...

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	More Changes (Preview) So on Monday March 23, 1998, Nancy and I had our first date. It started with us going for coffee at Tim Hortons and then to an open AA speaker meeting. Every year, as close to the date as we can get, we re-enact the evening. This year, the date fell on the same day of the week so we had planned to do it exactly the...	Wolfie55	2	1350	Mar 28, 2020 by Bo
	Losing somebody close... (Preview) Inside the rooms we get closer than outside, mostly... Our oldest old-timer is terminally ill- with five groups in our valleys, three are still functioning. The member was coming to a combined meeting next Monday- but our virus regulations makes that impossible. And a non starter. In the hey-...	DavidG	5	1949	Mar 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Step Work Board... Step 3. (Preview) Hi y'all... I am holding the fort, over in the Steps Board since we lost Betty. Picking up where Betty left off took some study and reflection. It helped that i had been a part of the board and had worked with Betty a fair bit. There is safety in numbers- and in my world, having differing viewpoints is a s...	DavidG	1	1285	Mar 28, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Online Meetings & Phone In Meetings (Preview) I shared earlier, but the original poster must have deleted the post about alternatives to face to face meetings. These are available for anyone who doesn't have access to F2F meetings and/or doesn't have a ride, childcare, or a meeting that works with life/work/school schedule. Great resource...	Iamhere	1	2040	Mar 28, 2020 by mamalioness
	meetings (Preview) I am a former member and have not been to the online meetings for a long time.Are they still going on?Tried to go to the chatroom,but it was weird,not like I remember. Thanks, Iris52	iris52	0	1262	Mar 27, 2020 by iris52
	Accepting Change Is Not Something I'm Good At, But I'm Adapting (Preview) There have been a lot of changes in the way we do things since the outbreak began. And not just here. It's a global thing. I know that. Up until yesterday, I was an Attendant in a home for men in recovery. Due to circumstances I have no control over, I don't have that job anymore. Certain things about that...	Wolfie55	7	696	Mar 27, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Newly discovered advantage to working at home alone (Preview) I've been on self-quarantine now for the last week and a half or so. Currently I'm home alone while working. My roommate is likely going to be starting to work from home in a little while, however, so I won't have this complete alone-time for too much longer. In any case, I found myself feeling really ang...	Aloha	3	617	Mar 27, 2020 by andromeda
	Courage to Change, 3/27 (Preview) Hello, everyone! I hope you are having a good day. Today's author was just surviving from crisis to crisis until they joined the Al-Anon family. They learned from the Traditions how a healthy group or family functions. The Traditions provided a guide for dealing with other people and growing as a...	Freetime	2	1160	Mar 27, 2020 by Lyne
	Cant run from myself anymore (Preview) This outbreak has made it impossible to suppress the unresolved issues that live inside me. I am plagued with fear and regret. Resentments are coming up to talk to me. My demons want to play again and all I want to do is run from them. But I cant. My sponsor saids that it is normal and to make the best out of th...	flower19	9	659	Mar 26, 2020 by a4l
	C2C - 3/26 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! We have another mild, spring-like day and that's so refreshing! Today's reading is about progress, not perfection. In Al-Anon, we discover that many of us have spent 'waiting for the past to change'. Many of us have chosen to do 'nothing different' or nothing...	Iamhere	2	517	Mar 26, 2020 by Lyne
	Today's Hope March 25 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's sharing is from Today's Hope (My C2C is still in my office) The author shares about similarities between fighting the slow onslaught of flood waters to dealing with active alcoholism. The author had received torrents of rain in just three days, which was leading to a buil...	Skorpi	5	601	Mar 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	OT - Coronavirus Safety (Preview) Hey folks, I'm a little privy to some things currently going down and I'm not pleased at the moment. For those who are at high risk to this plague because that's what it is a plague, please, please, please take precautions where you can. I don't want to be an alarmist however knowing what I know now y'al...	SerenityRUS	12	1420	Mar 25, 2020 by andromeda
	Daily Reflection 3/21/20 (Preview) We do not have to hold onto the "Victim Card." We can receive the love we need and really want by owning our power. Through this program, we learn we can stand on our own two feet... even if sometimes it feels good to lean. We come to understand that the people we are leaning on are not necessarily holding us...	PosiesandPuppies	5	1379	Mar 24, 2020 by mamalioness
	HP call is always different... (Preview) I have always been saying that we get closer to our HP in the present moment- without the clutter. An hour ago I was heading out to get some yard work done. But I decided to stay and rest! Not a logical choice really. But I got a call from our medical centre. Here, over the age of 65, we get a free flu jab...	DavidG	1	510	Mar 24, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 3/23 (Preview) The first sentence of the reading for Monday, 3/23, says a lot: Alcoholism has contributed to many dashed hopes, broken dreams, and considerable pain in my life. The writer says that alanon enables them to feel the pain, mourn the loss, and then move on. The author goes on to say how important it is t...	Lyne	9	1250	Mar 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	wish I could take a vacation from AH and his dramas (Preview) Hi everyone. I just had to come here briefly and vent before I go home (I'm at my office). AH has been trying to cut down his drinking from 6 huge (like 8 oz pours) vodka drinks to less, and he's down to around 2. Which is great. But of course nothing else about his mindset has changed and he's sad and insecure...	Fedora	21	2110	Mar 23, 2020 by Bo
	The CV has "come home" to our family, in a way (Preview) Our daughter lives in Florida. Her daughter was in college in Georgia, and came home last weekend. They are going to do online schooling I thought good--they will be together and that was comforting. And our granddaughter, who is introverted, has never wanted to be anywhere but at home. Just got...	Temple	13	2951	Mar 23, 2020 by Temple
	Hope for Today Mar 22 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about practicing program tools and keeping an open mind about using them. The writer describes how initially, she did not know how to meditate and considered it a crutch in dealing with the circumstances of life. Her sponsor reminded her that we humans ofte...	yanksfan51	5	765	Mar 22, 2020 by bud
	Checking in (Preview) The province we live in has declared a state of emergency. We have been directed not to gather in groups larger than 5. It's interesting, and as one member put it to me, in reference to groups not being allowed to hold meetings, "disappointing but necessary". Nancy and I are still alive, no symptoms ye...	Wolfie55	4	1574	Mar 22, 2020 by bud
	On-line meetings (Preview) With the isolation from the corona virus I have not been able to get to f2f meetings. I was thinking that others have probably had the same experience. Why not start up our on-line MIP meetings again. Would anyone be interested in this?	Overcome	8	1459	Mar 22, 2020 by bud
	Meeting starting now (Preview) http://12stepforums.net/alanon_family_group_online_meeting.html	Overcome	1	2631	Mar 22, 2020 by Freetime
	Did your face-to-face meeting close? (Preview) Hi everyone - thought I'd start a post to first welcome those coming here for the first time in lieu of their local face-to-face meeting(s) closing due to health precautions. Glad you're here. You'll notice this board does not operate like a normal meeting. While in general, most members try to stick...	Aloha	11	2102	Mar 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	Just dropping in (Preview) I'm still kind of sad to post without Betty on board. But I figure I'd be sabotaging step 12 to give in to that grief. It's real though and I'm glad of it because it reminds me I'm human. Life's pretty good again. Still studying, now working in the legal field as a part time paralegal where I have my own key...	a4l	7	1155	Mar 21, 2020 by mamalioness
	For Today and Any Day (Preview) I'm reminded to practice the Serenity Prayer today and especially in the days and weeks ahead. Being mindful of what is and isn't within my reach will be important. Serenity is always with in my reach as is my higher power who is only a prayer away. God Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot ch...	tiredtonite	9	1798	Mar 21, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, March 20 (Preview) While working Step Four, today's author explored the topic of self-worth. Basing their self-worth on their accomplishments and other people's opinions meant that they always had to work hard to be the center of attention, and that never brought lasting satisfaction. Instead, basing their self...	Freetime	4	591	Mar 20, 2020 by Bo
	Self Contained Monday morning. (Preview) This is totally not about me or my wife as we have self contained within our house as directed by he state. We won't have a problem with it as everything and one else is also self contained because of the coronavirus. We felt the affect until this morning as if we had it ourselves and my Higher Power is s...	JerryF	16	896	Mar 20, 2020 by Bo
	Online sponsor (Preview) Hello All, I am very new and this is my first post. I am attending Alanon meetings in Atlanta, GA and I love some online podcasts I have found but am looking for an online sponser. Can anyone help point me in the right direction?	Sally Smith	3	517	Mar 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 3/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Sorry for the later than usual post - I slept in and am so grateful for the extra rest. Today's reading is all about staying on our side of the street and minding our own business. The writer shares how the compulsion to focus on others was 'strong' upon arrival to Al-Anon. The same wr...	Iamhere	5	673	Mar 19, 2020 by DavidG
	Sometimes Grief is Never Ending! (Preview) Hello Family... I Came here today in Grief of another Loved one lost to the Disease of Addiction... A Fellow that I Grew up with and Tried SO Hard to Save from his Own Inner Demons...We went to School together since the 1st Grade, and Later in Life Became Neighbors, We had So Many Fun Loving, and Crazy Memo...	Jozie	8	1721	Mar 19, 2020 by grace225
	Back again (Preview) Greetings MIP family. Been away for a bit, busy working and what not. But with the pandemic thing, a lot of the groups in our area, have shut down. I did have a self-help group going at my place but even that is now an online group, in keeping with the whole social distancing thing. My place of employmnt,...	Wolfie55	5	2478	Mar 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	Got my shopping done... (Preview) I get to live more in the present, these days... ...it's Monday morning and now i have fresh veggies in the bottom of the fridge. Was at a rowing regatta over the weekend- and two grand-kids did well. One got a bronze medal! It is unlikely there will be a national regatta this year- because our g...	DavidG	5	2450	Mar 18, 2020 by DavidG
	Today's Hope March 18 (Preview) Hello MIP! Like many others, I'm at home for a while - ended up with some flu-like symptoms, and supposed to stay home and isolate. Thankfully, I'm already starting to feel better, I know many others aren't as lucky. My Courage to Change book is in my office at work, and I can't get to it. Checked the loc...	Skorpi	2	1102	Mar 18, 2020 by Iamhere
	Trying to turn it over (Preview) So where I live with my A is in a virus hot spot. Half the week I live near my son in a more remote location. Its a no brainer to live temporarily in the remote location could possibly keep my virus-free. My A wont come with me because she and the kids are at odds with each other, going on 4 years. I am in terr...	Lyne	6	1551	Mar 17, 2020 by mamalioness
	Spons suggests I still go to face to face meetings (Preview) My group has daily meetings. Admist this virus outbreak I can't help but to feel anxious and paranoid. My sponsor saids that I'm already dead inside so why fear death. Am I over exagerrating? I call my doctor to ask if I should stay home as I have bronchitis twice in the span of ten months. The second attac...	flower19	7	541	Mar 17, 2020 by Aloha
	Share (Preview) Dear all, I am a grateful member of Al-Anon and have cut down on my social life because of the virus. I don't know, whether I am vulnerable to it, but I meet so many people that I can easily be a multiplier. So, I have cut down on meetings and want to stay in touch with the programme. I joined Al-Anon almost 8 ye...	Smukke	4	812	Mar 16, 2020 by flower19
	C2C, 3/16 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/16, reflects upon how difficult it can be to recognize progress. And if our expectations are unrealistic, or we are thinking we will have rapid improvement, we can be disappointed. The writer suggests comparing our present situation only to where we have been in the past...	Lyne	2	440	Mar 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Need Peace (Preview) I hope everyone is doing well with the circumstances as they are in the world. I have been doing well until just now. Im trying to land and be still. Trying to bring it back to me and find serenity. I know I can chose not to participate in AH craziness. Im finding it hard. Im working from home like everyone el...	sunmustshine	2	482	Mar 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	MORE Progress, in VERY small steps, and small victories . . . . (Preview) Since my post about a small victory for me (regarding minding my own business - FINALLY) helped a few folks, I thought I'd post another episode. My newly-sober but broke and almost homeless adult son moved much closer to where I live about 2 1\2 years ago, after being halfway across the country for mo...	texas yankee	3	547	Mar 15, 2020 by 2HP
	Hope for Today Mar 15 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading gives us the analogy of life and the ocean. The waves that come in are all of the situations we try to navigate. We are provided a surfboard in the form of alanon slogans, and we can use these to surf over big waves of negative thinking onto the shore of healthier thin...	yanksfan51	2	417	Mar 15, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 3/14/20 (Preview) Good morning, MIP family! I hope today finds you healthy, and in good spirits! Today's reading talks about Alcoholics doing 'what alcoholics do.' It uses a parabole of person sitting under a flock of pigeons and then getting angry when they were soiled upon. How dare those pigeons! Yes, it sucks to b...	PosiesandPuppies	4	839	Mar 15, 2020 by DavidG
	Marriage Go On? (Preview) I am engaged to be married this summer and my fiance is a recovering alcoholic, along with recreational drugs. He has been sober for over 30 years. This has been a hectic month for us, new, sudden grandchildren, moving parents out of their home into ours. We just remodeled our place and didn't expect...	VisibleT	8	1480	Mar 14, 2020 by 2HP
	Courage to Change 3/13 (Preview) Today's reading suggests that Step 7 -- "Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings" -- can be taken with joy and humor. Being able to laugh about a shortcoming is a sign of being humble enough to ask for it to be removed. If we can see one of our past actions as ludicrous, it means our higher power has les...	Freetime	2	1547	Mar 14, 2020 by Lyne
	What to do?? (Preview) Just reading these messages on this forum have started to help me. I have been with my husband for 10 years. He was sober when I met him but battled here and there with his sobriety since we have been together. The last 7 months have been rough though. We had a daughter 6 months ago and during that time he was...	Juliette22	4	2232	Mar 14, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Progress, in VERY small steps, and small victories . . . . (Preview) My adult son had a lot of problems related to his driver's license and car registrations over the years while he was drinking and using - it got better when he got sober, but there always seemed to be a problem of one sort or the other - almost constant tickets, insurance lapses, expired registrations, e...	texas yankee	11	1535	Mar 13, 2020 by Iamhere
	Wisdom from my Sister (Preview) My wonderful Sister (three years younger than me) inherited a lot more wisdom from our parents than I did, and she has learned a lot more about life than I have. She's not had any negative impact from drugs and alcohol with any of her loved ones, except me, and she's always loving and patient and always t...	texas yankee	4	1440	Mar 13, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 3/12 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all (or happy day if you're beyond US)...Today's reading talks about detachment with love. I love the opening line - "What does another person's mood, tone of voice, or state of inebriation have to do with my course of action? Nothing, unless I decide oth...	Iamhere	5	1593	Mar 12, 2020 by DavidG
	Husband new to Recovery; me too (Preview) Its too long of a story so I wont even try. Suffice to say after many failed attempts hubby had gotten sober almost a month ago. Was going to AA. Had some medical issues. Missed a few days. Im fairly certain he went and drank tonight instead of going to his meeting. Like 95%. Im trying hard to take care of mys...	Lrf22	16	2214	Mar 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Tribute to Betty - Because We Can (Preview) Speaking only for myself, I am selfishly sad over the loss of Betty. I say selfishly because I wish she were still here - with me and with us. I've been sitting with my sadness and have concluded that I've got a mini battle of the will going on - my will vs. the God of my understanding's will! I will subm...	Iamhere	19	1276	Mar 12, 2020 by serenity47
	Courage to Change March 11 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the power of laughter. In speaking with an Alanon friend, our author contemplated the defaults of character that were hard to shake. Laughter can be a tool to make our frailties seem easier to bear and a path toward forgiving ourselves for our imperfections...	Skorpi	4	593	Mar 11, 2020 by Freetime
	C2C, 3/9 (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 3/9, the writer struggles to know what is Gods will and what is theirs. Serenity can slip away, a war can be going on in their mind, and sometimes a loud voice is heard. Doubt is often along for this ride. The author thinks that when they feel a desperate urge to act, that it mu...	Lyne	4	1167	Mar 11, 2020 by KT2015
	Saturday 3/7/20 (Preview) Sorry for the late entry, MIP Family! I am sick this morning (not with COVID-19) and just couldn't wake up earlier. The reading today talks about having faith that your Higher Power (whomever/whatever you choose that to be) has got your back. It talks about if you are having doubts, try this mantra:...	PosiesandPuppies	4	1400	Mar 11, 2020 by Maresie888
	Heartache (Preview) Hi, I was reading many of the sharings before, about the effects of Alcoholism and the Effects. I found them all relative to how I feel when the Disease raises it's ugly head in my life, and how it effects me. It can always get me through one of my Loved Family Members.I have both the active Phase, and th...	WendyP	6	844	Mar 11, 2020 by Maresie888
	Sharing... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... -the mornings are getting cooler here- and i have my hoody on! "Stream of consciousness" seems to work well... ...and to make use of the opportunity here- I say 'to claim space'. Filling meetings full of rigmarole used to annoy me. I always preferred ESH, if possibl...	DavidG	2	455	Mar 10, 2020 by DavidG
	Betty's wake and funeral service (Preview) Hi family: Peter wrote me and gave me the time, locations of her wake and her funeral service.. here it is: Betty's Wake will be at: The Peter Jarema Funeral Home129 East 7th Street,(between Avenue A and First Avenue)Thursday, March 5, from 2 PM until 9 PM The Funeral Service will be at:Immaculat...	mamalioness	18	1865	Mar 9, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Journaling (Preview) I can remember how hard life was before al-anon, arriving with such hopelessness, dark thoughts and feelings. On my own, I did not know how to crawl out. After attending F2F meetings, I felt real glimmers of hope. Like yesterday, I recall the suggestion of journaling. I began writing abo...	2HP	4	715	Mar 9, 2020 by DavidG
	Betty's obituary page (Preview) https://www.legacy.com/guestbooks/nydailynews/betty-king-condolences/195567927?	mamalioness	2	708	Mar 9, 2020 by 2HP
	Hope for Today Mar 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone- I have been reading the many tributes to Betty and thinking about all of the lives she touched so profoundly. How better to understand the power of this program than to know that many of us did not ever meet Betty in person but she most definitely helped us in our journeys. Todays...	yanksfan51	3	606	Mar 8, 2020 by DavidG
	A pathway forwards... (Preview) My dream was to be a good example of Alanon recovery... ...at the moment I am looking at the example Betty gave us. REding her recent posts- on the message board, the Steps forum and on the MIP business board. I am sure there is a way forward. As far as Betty is concerned... Yesterday I went to a memor...	DavidG	3	554	Mar 8, 2020 by Lyne
	The Thought for Saturday 2/22 (Preview) Good morning, MIP Family! Today's topic is about Problem Solving: The reading talks about how having a problem is not the end of the world. It does not have to be negative or horrible. It doesn't mean a person is deficient. Everyone has problems from time to time that they must work through. In recovery...	PosiesandPuppies	8	1867	Mar 6, 2020 by DavidG
	THE GREATEST GIFT... (Preview) ...Is love of course. Unconditional love. I have just been back to Betty's facebook page, and had a little cry... ... I spend time on my own on the MIP Steps Group... and see that Betty completed the 12 Steps last year. And she had started on Step One. She had left a few kind words to our NA member- who...	DavidG	3	1161	Mar 6, 2020 by DavidG
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