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Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go___Wanting what you CANT have
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Melodie talks about the guy who walks into a room/party and falls in love with the ONE woman there who is not available: engaged..married or whatever...he told Melodie about this and she laughed and explained to him that that miserable, deprived places feels so "comfortable and familiar to us" e...
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From Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go___PERFECTIONISM
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YYou are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go. Melodie talks about perfectionism: Recovery from codependency is an individual process that means making mistakes is NECESSARY....also so is struggling through problems adn facing tough issues... She says expecting ourselves to be pe...
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C2C, 4/13, kindness
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The reading for Monday, 4/13, suggests that if one doesn?t know exactly how to respond to a situation, why not try responding with kindness? Respect and courtesy can always be offered even during a disagreement. You can honor your own decisions without being defensive, and stick to your own princ...
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Lyne
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Midweek share...
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Our dad had lots of reasons to go to the pub- a birthday, to "wet the baby's bottom" which was a birth. or 'the see a man about a dog'. The classic was when he was leaving home- "no wonder i have to go to the pub- just look at this B##### place!" So i don't really need to have a reason to share. I need to kick bac...
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DavidG
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Going to bed early
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After just putting my wife to sleep. Just took her temperature and it was normal...her pulse rate was high as she complained about being shaky. She is fear based so this is normal also and what is best for me to do to support is apathy, compassion, patience and all the other soft, love behaviors. A...
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Courage to Change 04/11/20
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Today's Reminder: "The amount of time I've spent in Al-Anon is less important than what I am doing with that time today." Today's reading talks about how the slogan 'Keep Coming Back!' holds truth. No matter how long someone has been in this program, they are only human. They are not perfect. They stil...
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Update on my BFF
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Tests came back and its bad: cancer in both lungs, fluid building in the right lung and the cancer is "feeding off" it... Docs said it was incurable but they can "hold it off" with chemotherapy...We don't know , yet, when treatments will start, she has meet with oncologist on Monday to set up a treatment...
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Grateful... our grandparents!
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DavidG
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Happy Easter
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Happy Easter to all those who celebrate this day and to those that don't, Happy Sunday. I'm usually at work, but as fate would have it, I'll be available to cook the turkey. I'm only cooking for 2 today because the powers that be have asked us not to have large family gatherings this year and if I've learne...
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The Bond you share with a sponsor
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I feel like im projecting some or maybe all of my mommy issues onto my sponsor. But shes like a mentor/ mother to me. And weirdly enough she shares the same name with my mom. The point is this woman has given me alot and our stories are almost parallel. I just want clarification of the bond one shares with th...
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HELP! My family is on the last straw with my brother and Covid-19 is causing even more tension!
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Hi my brother is 21 years old is schizophrenic and is a drug addict (mostly weed but other drugs as well). He currently lives with my 80 year old grandparents and over the years they've all grown to hate each other. My brother is completely disrespectful, he doesn't do anything around the house refuses...
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Hope for Today Apr 12
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Good morning everyone, and for all who celebrate, Happy Easter! Todays reading is about the powerful role that sponsorship plays in the program. It is written from the point of view of someone who has been a sponsor, and how valuable a part of the healing process that is. I have not sponsored anyone...
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yanksfan51
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The 1st Step questions from the perspective of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
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Im having a little trouble applying what I went through as a child to the questions. I am trying the best I can. I feel like its not good enough like I need to convince myself it wasnt that bad. Like a week ago in my heart I genuinely believed the 1st step since Ive been in Al anon which is like a year and half ag...
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Our tradition 7 giving for 2020.
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Our MIP Alanon group has always been the biggest here. I have raised a question on the combined business board- about our giving this year. I know that a lot of us are distracted- by world wide events at this time! ... And maybe my query- is just David being hyper-vigilant! But this is an honest pr...
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My share for today....
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Progress, not perfection... ..."half measures avail us nothing". I always tend to quit before getting to the finishing line. Working with thi sat the moment. Making sure I finish a task- before going on to the next one. Growing up on a farm- I had always to take care of the animals first. Then the t...
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DavidG
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Hope For Today, 4/10
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I was delighted to discover today's page in Hope For Today. The main topic is service, how the writer grew more and more by taking on increasingly responsible service positions, and eventually had such a strong program that they had something to give away. The Traditions, Concepts, and Service Ma...
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4/9 C2C Detachment with Love
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Thoughts and prayers with IamHere as she tends to family matters... Another great page today, this on the topic of Detachment with love, the important qualifier. The writer admits having previously known only how to perform the often easier, but less healthy and effective, detachment with indiff...
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Stuck home with the A
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Some days are good and others, not so much. Today is difficult. I just want to be alone. I will try to work out social distancing within the house! Im entitled to be in a bad mood, but with program I know I have the choice to change this. And I will. I think I just need a brief pity party. She is a dry drun...
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Today's Hope April 8
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how they were puzzled when, after college, they moved out on their own and realized that they had many deep seeded resentments due to their tendency to put other's needs first. The author didn't understand this resentment, because they though...
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C2C, 4/6
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The reading for Monday, 4/6, takes a look at accepting that not only the alcoholic has symptoms, but we affected by the disease also display symptoms, such as obsession, anxiety, anger, denial, and guilt. Our reactions to alcoholism have affected our relationships and our quality of life. We beg...
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Lyne
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How to let go of a feeling of hurtness?
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Something I perceived as very hurtful happened at an Al-Anon meeting tonight. Someone who I had known for a few years and come to trust expressed frustration at me for trying to carry out a decision the group had voted on the week before (she herself had been in favor of it last week, but apparently chang...
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Hope for Today Apr 5
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus of the acronym HALT. When things feel unsettled or there is a level of anxiety, its a quick check to see if we are Hungry Angry Lonely or Tired. The writer describes a time of life when he/she believed it was possible to go for days without food or sleep. ...
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Recovery Revisited
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Hello all, its been a very long time and bumpy road. AH is attending his first AA visit online as a provision of his DUI probation but since F2F is suspended indefinitely in our area he's drinking a beer whilst online. His probation seems to be ramping up the drinking but I'm hopeful that he'll get some go...
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Saturday 4/4/20
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Better bend than break. ~Scottish proverbOur program is based on bending. We call it -surrender. We surrender our self-will to the care of our personal Higher Power. We learn to sit quietly and listen to that tiny voice deep within us... that is our Higher Power. Over time, we learn to follow the sugg...
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Let's share some happy happenings
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Hi all! With everything that is going on between the Covid-19 and the economic fallout, friends losing jobs, people being furloughed, living in tight quarters with our alcoholics or addicted loved ones, etc......it can be so overwhelming to process everything and find peace. Let's start a litt...
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A meeting is a meeting is a meeting.....
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Lots of changes with all this corona virus stuff. I belong to two fellowships and both of them closed their meetings. So, we started online meetings. At first, we were all using a popular video conferencing app. then, there was talk of a lawsuit because the app was sharing information about its users...
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Feedback...
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The days are slowly getting shorter... ...hi y'all... But had have had warm afternoons- which is a great consolation. I was hoping to take a rough corner off of my recovery over the next 6 or 8 weeks. I have extreme resistance to doing this. My steps 10 and 11 tell me why... but getting leverage, a...
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Courage to Change, 4/3
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Many of us feared going to our first Al-Anon meeting because of worries that our boss, neighbors, or the alcoholic would find out. Today's author had this fear, and when they arrived at their first meeting, they saw one of their neighbors -- and panicked. They wanted to run away, but then they noticed...
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Recovery Revisited
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Hello all, its been a very long time and bumpy road. AH is attending his first AA visit online as a provision of his DUI probation but since F2F is suspended indefinitely in our area he's drinking a beer whilst online. His probation seems to be ramping up the drinking but I'm hopeful that he'll get some go...
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Oh, sad, but grateful...
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Oh glad to be sad- close to weeping... just got news that our local old timer passed away last night. So close on the heals of our Betty. our members, are just so gallant- in the face of adversity. Ten or 12 days ago we had a Zoom meeting- with 10 of us, and Gwen... and it was a simple meeting format with the...
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A Prayer visualization & Meditation
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Just passing along a suggestion from one of my groups in response to the pandemic. Take what you like and leave the rest. Practice after waking in the morning and before bedtime. Sit in a straight-back chair facing east or north. Close your eyes and take in a deep breath and exhale, three times. ...
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C2C - April 2
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Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading is all about the slogan 'Easy Does It'. The reminder suggests: "Easy does it" suggests not only that I learn to show down, but also that I learn to lighten up. Today I will strive to take a more accepting attitude toward myself and to...
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Monday share...
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I am just so humbled by the sharing here. The time we have all spent here, together is paying off. A place where we can just be, when we need to. Today is our provincial holiday. So SO is having a lazy morning in bed. I am just so grateful to have a happy intact relationship. This did not happen overnigh...
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NY Times gives a nod to Al-Anon and ther recovery groups
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https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/26/health/coronavirus-sobriety-online-help.html?action=click&module=Spotlight&pgtype=Homepage
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Aloha
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P r o c r a s t i n a t i on....
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Hi y'all... ...these weeks at home were a time to clean up my den, my garage, and my back yard. There is a great seat of shame on my heart- which refuses to budge- and this is something I am focused on, at this time. I was not beaten or raped- though one incident in my childhood left me feeling emas...
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DavidG
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Corona Virus Environment Learning
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I wanted to share a simple moment that felt good. I ordered take out tonight. When the delivery person came by, I said to protect us both, why dont you drop it there and ill come grab it. She huffed out loud, places the bag down and turned quickly only to stop and take my picture as I picked up the bag. I thanke...
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Al-Anon Without Borders - World Wide Roundup ZOOM meeting
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This weekend will be a first World Wide Roundup called Al-Anon Without Borders Please see the attached image for details. The ZOOM link is https://zoom.us/j/787378014 Meeting ID 787 37 8014, Pass 912936 There will be several meetings all throughout the day both Saturday and Sunday Please forwar...
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Today's Hope April 1
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Today's author shares that, for most of their life, the fear of making a bad decision kept the author from making any decisions at all. The author's goal was to be as invisible as possible, which allowed the author to live in their head. In the author's mind, life was perfect, they said the right things,...
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hello, all this close distance is giving me more chance to practice working the program than I want.
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Hi there. Day whatever of having been cooped up with the AH. Am now fully working from home - I want to believe I can still go to my office but it is safer if I don't. But man I have to practice our program a lot more. UGH! Tonight AH had a memory blip - we all took a family walk outdoors (no one else was on this unu...
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C2C, 3/30
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The reading for Monday, 3/30, interested me because the author contemplated focusing on themself, and then wondered if they would be seen as inconsiderate, thoughtless, and uncaring. The author was used to doing so much for everyone else, but then feeling resentful. Being selfless wasnt worki...
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Lyne
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Leonard Cohen's Hallelujah, sung from a Balcony in Italy 6 days ago
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Blessings to everyone https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6r2XtuKEto
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C2C March 28 2020
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Good morning, MIP Family! Today's reading talks about how it feels to physically hold tightly onto something. Eyes squeezed shut, with a death grip so hard that it turns your knuckles white. Soon your hands are exhausted... your exhausted, and you let go. There is another way possibly. To Trust in yo...
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PosiesandPuppies
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Holding the fort...
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My mum used a lot of sayings- like "hold your horses" or "hold the fort". In them days four letter words weren't really invented- and her favourite swear word was:- "Hell's bells and buggy wheels!" I was the oldest of five kids. I was allowed to drive the tractor at age 12. Until recently I had the sa...
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no response to my post
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I'm a former member who wanted to come back and since I cannot go to meetings wanted to attend online. 23 people read my request for assistance with the chat room/meetings.No one responded.Not even a welcome back. Iris
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Hope for Today Mar 29
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer describes that while the slogans are helpful, it can be difficult to follow through with the second half of this one. The writer describes what happened when the A in his/her life left the home: letting go of me...
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yanksfan51
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More Changes
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So on Monday March 23, 1998, Nancy and I had our first date. It started with us going for coffee at Tim Hortons and then to an open AA speaker meeting. Every year, as close to the date as we can get, we re-enact the evening. This year, the date fell on the same day of the week so we had planned to do it exactly the...
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Losing somebody close...
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Inside the rooms we get closer than outside, mostly... Our oldest old-timer is terminally ill- with five groups in our valleys, three are still functioning. The member was coming to a combined meeting next Monday- but our virus regulations makes that impossible. And a non starter. In the hey-...
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DavidG
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Step Work Board... Step 3.
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Hi y'all... I am holding the fort, over in the Steps Board since we lost Betty. Picking up where Betty left off took some study and reflection. It helped that i had been a part of the board and had worked with Betty a fair bit. There is safety in numbers- and in my world, having differing viewpoints is a s...
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DavidG
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Online Meetings & Phone In Meetings
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I shared earlier, but the original poster must have deleted the post about alternatives to face to face meetings. These are available for anyone who doesn't have access to F2F meetings and/or doesn't have a ride, childcare, or a meeting that works with life/work/school schedule. Great resource...
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meetings
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I am a former member and have not been to the online meetings for a long time.Are they still going on?Tried to go to the chatroom,but it was weird,not like I remember. Thanks, Iris52
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Accepting Change Is Not Something I'm Good At, But I'm Adapting
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There have been a lot of changes in the way we do things since the outbreak began. And not just here. It's a global thing. I know that. Up until yesterday, I was an Attendant in a home for men in recovery. Due to circumstances I have no control over, I don't have that job anymore. Certain things about that...
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Wolfie55
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Newly discovered advantage to working at home alone
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I've been on self-quarantine now for the last week and a half or so. Currently I'm home alone while working. My roommate is likely going to be starting to work from home in a little while, however, so I won't have this complete alone-time for too much longer. In any case, I found myself feeling really ang...
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Courage to Change, 3/27
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Hello, everyone! I hope you are having a good day. Today's author was just surviving from crisis to crisis until they joined the Al-Anon family. They learned from the Traditions how a healthy group or family functions. The Traditions provided a guide for dealing with other people and growing as a...
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Cant run from myself anymore
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This outbreak has made it impossible to suppress the unresolved issues that live inside me. I am plagued with fear and regret. Resentments are coming up to talk to me. My demons want to play again and all I want to do is run from them. But I cant. My sponsor saids that it is normal and to make the best out of th...
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C2C - 3/26
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Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! We have another mild, spring-like day and that's so refreshing! Today's reading is about progress, not perfection. In Al-Anon, we discover that many of us have spent 'waiting for the past to change'. Many of us have chosen to do 'nothing different' or nothing...
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Today's Hope March 25
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Good morning MIP! Today's sharing is from Today's Hope (My C2C is still in my office) The author shares about similarities between fighting the slow onslaught of flood waters to dealing with active alcoholism. The author had received torrents of rain in just three days, which was leading to a buil...
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OT - Coronavirus Safety
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Hey folks, I'm a little privy to some things currently going down and I'm not pleased at the moment. For those who are at high risk to this plague because that's what it is a plague, please, please, please take precautions where you can. I don't want to be an alarmist however knowing what I know now y'al...
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Daily Reflection 3/21/20
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We do not have to hold onto the "Victim Card." We can receive the love we need and really want by owning our power. Through this program, we learn we can stand on our own two feet... even if sometimes it feels good to lean. We come to understand that the people we are leaning on are not necessarily holding us...
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PosiesandPuppies
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HP call is always different...
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I have always been saying that we get closer to our HP in the present moment- without the clutter. An hour ago I was heading out to get some yard work done. But I decided to stay and rest! Not a logical choice really. But I got a call from our medical centre. Here, over the age of 65, we get a free flu jab...
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DavidG
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C2C, 3/23
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The first sentence of the reading for Monday, 3/23, says a lot: Alcoholism has contributed to many dashed hopes, broken dreams, and considerable pain in my life. The writer says that alanon enables them to feel the pain, mourn the loss, and then move on. The author goes on to say how important it is t...
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