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anewdayeveryday · anewdayeveryday

Hi family. I'm new here. Have been carrying around 55 lbs of inflammation on my body for over year. It started in my stomach (gut). I believe I am very sensitive to what some call "narcissistic" abuse. I get inflamed when I've been exposed to too much of it. I looked up the word "inflamed" and it said "an...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone; Todays reading begins with the reaction we have when something surprises us: Wow! The writer describes this as a response to the beauty of a brand new day. What strikes the writer is the understanding that the blue sky, fall foliage and beauty of the day was not because of any...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

"The process of recovery in Al-Anon has been likened to peeling an onion. We peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But recovery always makes me think of the bark of a birch tree. The birch's bark is necessary for protection, yet as the tree grows, the bark peels away gradually on...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is the worst week so far since my mom's passing & a week after the memorial service. As some of you know that I am grieving in all kinds of ways. There is no way exactly to grieve as I am told. Now I feel like an orphan. I feel lost & lonely w/o my parents but I have been OK. A few bouts w/long periods...

MrsS · MrsS

Hello Everyone Thank you for this forum. I am new here, new to Al Anon and newly married and new to Some devastating new things I discovered about my husband recently. I've no one to talk to, and it's probably wiser. I'm not sure how this forum works or if my registration details are anonymous but I thou...

DavidG · DavidG

I think that this is a part of my Step 12. I wrote this this morning as a part of a facebook forum: Growing up in New Zealand. The producer of the short movie below- is clearly an adult child in his work. This year he actually picked up an Oscar in America!. You really don't grow up- in a situation like th...

Freetime · Freetime

The October 23 reading in Hope for Today is about "God as we understood Him." The author started out with a restrictive, one-true-religion and a judging God that was all about punishment. Coming to Al-Anon showed a whole new vision. People with differing beliefs were friendly to one another and di...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting early as I am headed to golf in the morning. The reminder: In an alcoholic environment, I had good reasons to hide my feelings, making light of serious situations, overworking, overplaying, managing to focus on everything but myself. Today I have other options. I can begin to listen to...

DavidG · DavidG

I am looking forward to f2f meetings towards the end of the year. My nearest group is 30 mins away. I have never really been a regular member- but go to 6 or 8 meetings a year. I think it is the goody-two-shoes in me still- knowing that flitting in and out of a group does not create trust. We had some grea...

DavidG · DavidG

We kiwis came from a far flung nook of the world. So, hey, we had to be fairly self-reliant away over there. There is a myth that we can make almost anything out of a piece of No. 8 wire... ...having been a farmer, of sorts, ah kin attest to that. I am still the owner of two wiltshire ewes- in a paddock ...

Skorpi · Skorpi

The author of today's reading reflects on what to do when in doubt. When in doubt, wise Al-Anon members have suggested that the author ask their higher power for clarity and help, and to trust that the request will be granted when the time is right. Today's Reminder: After years of asking only for a par...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning, MIP family! Today's reading in C2C speaks of Al-Anon specifically. The author talks about as a newcomers many of us were surprised at the minimal rules of Al-Anon. Before recovery, we may have had a very strict sense of order in our lives -- the only thing that may have kept our ships afloa...

Conflicted · Conflicted

COVID and the moving to no meetings, online meetings, zoom, etc... has brought me a new insight I may not have gotten otherwise. I have listened to many speakers who talk about the connections they have through their AlAnon Group Meetings, Service, etc... I have attended since 2013 and have gone 5 ye...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a reflection on the Serenity prayer. God grant me the wisdom to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. The writer acknowledges that when first coming to alanon it was impossible to tell the...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 10/19, reminds us that we are not responsible for the workings of the universe. It is important to take care of our responsibilities and let HP do the rest. We can do the best we can, but cannot force actions to take place. Struggling and worrying are useless. Let go and let Go...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

The simplicity of a slogan does not rule out varied interpretation, sometimes fueled by long held notions.Example in today's reading: Let Go, Let God may sound to some as an easy way out: Announce abandonment of a problem over to god's care, forget about it, and it gets magically resolved.While the p...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Another beautiful send off. We let the yellow balloon go free & saw it rise into the clouds. Just for my mom. She was an Alanon member.

DavidG · DavidG

... a good start... a bit cloudy outside... cool spring... ...we had big glitch in our church. It is a tiny one, really... [church that is] [but a seemingly big glitch.] But it did work through yesterday. The senior poster and I was on opposite poles, as far as our election went on Saturday. So I too...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am never alonenever abandonednever desertednever judgednever chastisedand never without Gods aid.--Shelley"As a deer longs for flowing streams, so my soul longs for you, O God.My soul thirsts for God."Those who are lifting the world upward and onward are those who encourage more than critici...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Journaling is teaching me a lot about me and here are some tidbits of things I , with the help of my Higher Power, want/plan to do to be a better me and if I had just ONE year left to live, here are some things that came up in my journaling I would want to make it the best year I could by: learning as much as I can ho...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My mom passed away this morning. She is now finally at peace. She lived a very hard life. She was my strength at times & was even my weakness. I loved her the hardest but also very gentle. I have peace knowing that I got to say goodbye remotely. I have so many loved who are here for me. To all of you: thanks...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will continue my journey w my mom as she is laid to rest. It will be difficult but I have God have onmy side & holding my hand. My alanon sisters will be there in the front row w me as well as my mom's lovely daughters. My two beautiful sisters. Pray for me that all goes well. Love all of you the same way as y...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I am grateful today to be able to work with people who have very different viewpoints than me. Even in the middle of this crisis which had bought such suffering to.so many people . I.am able to not react but respond with no need to convert them to my view point. How grateful I am to have maturity, tact and gr...

Sad Cat · Sad Cat

I am new to this group. My first time inquiring for help to deal with an alcoholic husband who is verbally abusive and I am just beaten down. I left him to heal my heart. How do I heal from all this sadness? -- Edited by Sad Cat on Thursday 15th of October 2020 06:33:28 PM

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon speaks to the diversity of people that come into our program -- all kinds of wealth/poverty, education, personalities. It cautions members not to judge or patronize people for superficial reasons -- their clothing, manner of speech, etc. Anyone who...

DavidG · DavidG

I still have the capacity for self sabotage- or so it appears... Yesterday was a great day. In this group- maybe noticed by three of us- but highly significant for me. I am a believer in "The Butterfly Effect". How a small but significant change can lead to greater things. For me it was a si...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's daily talks about forgiveness and suggests that it is the most loving form of detachment we can find. Instead of thinking of forgiveness as an eraser to wipe another's slate clean or a gavel that we pound to pronounce someone 'not guilty', the writer suggests we could view forgiveness as...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on a quote: "Do not search for the truth, only cease to cherish opinions." For today's author, ceasing to cherish opinions is tied directly to step 10 (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author has a tendenc...

DavidG · DavidG

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mamalioness · mamalioness

I never asked this question, but I am wondering if you can mute or block someone on private message....I had this REALLY WEIRD exchange with someone with whom I thought I was sorta OK , but that changed over, Lord knows what...I am NOT unsafe, but the exchange had a "cringe" factor to it... -- Edited...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Hi fellow friends, I am struggling again (but I know it's part of my recovery and progress not perfection). Long story short, but I have been separated from my AH for nearly 2 months now and while I had hoped to feel happiness, I am struggling again to fully let go. I realise that because of my past, I hav...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Went to gym to literally drown my sorrows in the pool...swam hard for about 45 minutes and as I was leaving, my friends , the managers, Trina and Trey both yelled "how are ya Rosie???" I walked over to them and said "horrible...the last of my sisters passed away" and we talked and Trina just grabbed m...

mamalioness · mamalioness

She was Patricia Godfrey Lowe, she died Sept. 25th from cancer...her daughter , Deb, didn't know how to find me so she hacked into her mom's facebook account and told me Now I have no sisters left...Patsy was not my bio sister, but when i was 12 and got real good at running away, she and Gini, her younger s...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I have heard the J.A.D.E. akronym on overseas forums- but never in NZ. So I never paid much need to it- until recently. I suppose I do need it now- so I embrace it- and make it my own... I have a little trouble with one part of it- the "E". I always like to explain things- myself, etc... I know...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 10/12, the writer wanted their spouse to get sober so they could live happily ever after. The ugly disease overshadowed all aspects of the relationship, and the writer felt empty. With alanon they had to unlearn romantic nonsense, find a satisfying life in the here and no...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Upon reflection, today's author admitted that responding to a negative situation with raised voice and angry words did not help, and did not lead to good feelings after. Using the AlAnon slogan Easy Does It, however, helped maintain calm thoughts that in turn, allowed a calm response and action. Re...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am sending my mom a good send off on Friday! She would be so proud & pleased w her children. She would be pleased w the love & joy she found on this earth. Her heart would be moved by the singing & the moments shared by family & friends. She was & will always be my loving mother & fri...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I've been fighting the urge to defend myself with AH for 2 days now. It's so hard to not do it though. It feels so important to tell my side,tell all my thoughts and feelings,to try to convince him he's wrong about something. What's the point though? He will never agree with what I say,he will never say "o...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading looks at how Al-Anon helps us to accept what we can't change, and change what we can. The author relates a story of as a child, they would be fearful their car would go over the side of the road as they traveled this one particular road. They would cling tightly to the door handle of the car,...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about gratitude, attitude and miracles in recovery. The writer suggests that our current lives are miracles. So many of us came to Al-Anon feeling alone and hopeless, and discover that no situation is really hopeless...we find others who have been through the pain of coping wi...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about a coping mechanism that is sometimes used to deal with the chaos of alcoholism. The writer describes having grown up in chaos and in response escaping through books and art; over time this was not only an escape from all that was happening in the alcohol...

mikeco · mikeco

Hello everyone, It has been quite a few years since I have posted here. I got remarried and moved to a different city and life just kind of happened the way it does. All the while, the disease of Alcoholism has been waiting and doing pushups getting ready for another round of battle against a badly arm...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's share did not want to admit defeat. That is how they viewed powerlessness -- losing the battle and submitting to the enemy. In Al-Anon, they learned that surrender does not mean submission, it means to stop fighting reality and to stop doing the higher power's job. Surrender...

DavidG · DavidG

Thanks for listening... My live is taking turns in the right direction. I have been wanting to write a book for a few years. My goal was to produce 200 to 400 copies. I kept working- so I could pay for the printing... and never seemed to make it. The book is about a 19th century character. He was in convic...

JerryF · JerryF

I am not really surprised at the relapse I got kicked by and the outcome. I am back in the neighborhood where this all began; disease awareness and recovery learning and work. I am surprised how disrespectful and nasty it is in hanging on to each and every fault it used to take me down and then attempt t...

Twinkies · Twinkies

My father is dying. Stage 4 metastatic laryngeal cancer. He is an alcoholic but over the last few years had made great strides in controlling the amount he drank (he finally quit entirely at his diagnosis 4 months ago). As a result of his effort to control his disease our relationship was able to grow an...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflects on life before Al-Anon. The author felt as though life was on hold. They wanted change, and tried to MAKE it happen, but the changes the author wanted weren't changes in their power to make. The author is an action-taker, and feels better when doing so...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds us that AlAnon is not a single use service but of great value if used throughout our life. We change, life changes, but we will never run out of character defects or need for spiritual reassessment.The author remembered this after having slipped into an unhappy state of thinking...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 10/5, reminds us that to Think gives us the choice about where to put our attention. At times our thoughts may be on depression, doom sayings, and/or complaining, but its much more productive to look for positive qualities in ourselves, our circumstances, and in other human...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about breaking the big picture into smaller steps, especially as it applies to making changes in our lives. The writer uses a metaphor about having old and out of date wallpaper up in the kitchen. Rather than replace it, the writer begins to accept it so that h...

JerryF · JerryF

That is for my wife who is an Al-Anon member and worker of the program also. She wanted to keep the info anonymous but isn't my Higher Power I get to spill the beans now and then again later just to let her know I am still in the house and family and a recovering man to deal with...LOL We celebrate the same...

JerryF · JerryF

Just finished our weekly Thursday ZOOM facebook meeting and as usual for me as a gift from HP it was a winner. Grateful to have it and suggest we all make use of it. ((((hugs))))

Freetime · Freetime

Service and recovery -- the author of today's page finds that service to the Al-Anon group is essential to personal recovery, specifically because it brings them into contact with newcomers, which is a reminder of what is really important. Remembering what it was like to first come into Al-Anon, t...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today I felt like taking/sharing knowledge from The Language of Letting Go - by Melody Beattie Getting Through the Discomfort "Our goal in recovery is to make ourselves feel comfortable, peaceful, content. Happy. We want to be at peace with ourselves and our environment. Sometimes, to do that, we n...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power of service within the program. The writer details coming to the program and finding a place where our opinions mattered. Encouraged to be part of the service, the writer realized this could take the form of everything from setting up/breakin...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about one of our tools - the support through fellowship when we are in need. The writing suggests that racing and crashing thoughts going through our minds - memories, broken promises, fears about the future, failed expectations of self & others - familiar chaos that we can n...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the slogan "Just for today" - There are many things to try out, just for today - a new behavior, a different point of view, a pattern of behavior, a more positive response. The author suggests that maybe, life is a series of experiments in which some succeed and...

Andrea253 · Andrea253

Hi everyone, hoping to get your advice on this. My younger brother has been struggling with alcohol use for a few years, but things have been significantly worse the last couple months. I don't think he would meet the criteria for alcoholism, but there are many concerning signs--drinking alone, dr...

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	Grief/Letting up painful feelings (Preview) Hi family. I'm new here. Have been carrying around 55 lbs of inflammation on my body for over year. It started in my stomach (gut). I believe I am very sensitive to what some call "narcissistic" abuse. I get inflamed when I've been exposed to too much of it. I looked up the word "inflamed" and it said "an...	anewdayeveryday	17	2936	Oct 25, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Oct 25 (Preview) Good morning Everyone; Todays reading begins with the reaction we have when something surprises us: Wow! The writer describes this as a response to the beauty of a brand new day. What strikes the writer is the understanding that the blue sky, fall foliage and beauty of the day was not because of any...	yanksfan51	2	1917	Oct 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	COURAGE TO CHANGE 10/24 (Preview) "The process of recovery in Al-Anon has been likened to peeling an onion. We peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But recovery always makes me think of the bark of a birch tree. The birch's bark is necessary for protection, yet as the tree grows, the bark peels away gradually on...	PosiesandPuppies	4	541	Oct 24, 2020 by Iamhere
	worse week so far... (Preview) This is the worst week so far since my mom's passing & a week after the memorial service. As some of you know that I am grieving in all kinds of ways. There is no way exactly to grieve as I am told. Now I feel like an orphan. I feel lost & lonely w/o my parents but I have been OK. A few bouts w/long periods...	Hoot Nanny	5	1576	Oct 24, 2020 by JerryF
	Newbie (Preview) Hello Everyone Thank you for this forum. I am new here, new to Al Anon and newly married and new to Some devastating new things I discovered about my husband recently. I've no one to talk to, and it's probably wiser. I'm not sure how this forum works or if my registration details are anonymous but I thou...	MrsS	13	4568	Oct 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	Each one of us is precious. (Preview) I think that this is a part of my Step 12. I wrote this this morning as a part of a facebook forum: Growing up in New Zealand. The producer of the short movie below- is clearly an adult child in his work. This year he actually picked up an Oscar in America!. You really don't grow up- in a situation like th...	DavidG	1	2516	Oct 24, 2020 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, October 23 (Preview) The October 23 reading in Hope for Today is about "God as we understood Him." The author started out with a restrictive, one-true-religion and a judging God that was all about punishment. Coming to Al-Anon showed a whole new vision. People with differing beliefs were friendly to one another and di...	Freetime	5	2315	Oct 23, 2020 by Iamhere
	C2C - 10/21 (Preview) Posting early as I am headed to golf in the morning. The reminder: In an alcoholic environment, I had good reasons to hide my feelings, making light of serious situations, overworking, overplaying, managing to focus on everything but myself. Today I have other options. I can begin to listen to...	Iamhere	5	2310	Oct 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	Another Alanon share... (Preview) I am looking forward to f2f meetings towards the end of the year. My nearest group is 30 mins away. I have never really been a regular member- but go to 6 or 8 meetings a year. I think it is the goody-two-shoes in me still- knowing that flitting in and out of a group does not create trust. We had some grea...	DavidG	4	5038	Oct 22, 2020 by DavidG
	The trade secret of John F. founder of the MIP groups... (Preview) We kiwis came from a far flung nook of the world. So, hey, we had to be fairly self-reliant away over there. There is a myth that we can make almost anything out of a piece of No. 8 wire... ...having been a farmer, of sorts, ah kin attest to that. I am still the owner of two wiltshire ewes- in a paddock ...	DavidG	5	1584	Oct 21, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change October 21 (Preview) The author of today's reading reflects on what to do when in doubt. When in doubt, wise Al-Anon members have suggested that the author ask their higher power for clarity and help, and to trust that the request will be granted when the time is right. Today's Reminder: After years of asking only for a par...	Skorpi	8	2270	Oct 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 10/17/20 (Preview) Good morning, MIP family! Today's reading in C2C speaks of Al-Anon specifically. The author talks about as a newcomers many of us were surprised at the minimal rules of Al-Anon. Before recovery, we may have had a very strict sense of order in our lives -- the only thing that may have kept our ships afloa...	PosiesandPuppies	11	3019	Oct 21, 2020 by DavidG
	Al-Anon Friendships (Preview) COVID and the moving to no meetings, online meetings, zoom, etc... has brought me a new insight I may not have gotten otherwise. I have listened to many speakers who talk about the connections they have through their AlAnon Group Meetings, Service, etc... I have attended since 2013 and have gone 5 ye...	Conflicted	8	3486	Oct 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Oct 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a reflection on the Serenity prayer. God grant me the wisdom to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. The writer acknowledges that when first coming to alanon it was impossible to tell the...	yanksfan51	7	2713	Oct 20, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 10/19 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 10/19, reminds us that we are not responsible for the workings of the universe. It is important to take care of our responsibilities and let HP do the rest. We can do the best we can, but cannot force actions to take place. Struggling and worrying are useless. Let go and let Go...	Lyne	5	2527	Oct 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	10/20/20 ODAT Let Go, Let God (Preview) The simplicity of a slogan does not rule out varied interpretation, sometimes fueled by long held notions.Example in today's reading: Let Go, Let God may sound to some as an easy way out: Announce abandonment of a problem over to god's care, forget about it, and it gets magically resolved.While the p...	Enigmatic	2	514	Oct 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Yellow balloon (Preview) Another beautiful send off. We let the yellow balloon go free & saw it rise into the clouds. Just for my mom. She was an Alanon member.	Hoot Nanny	3	2922	Oct 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	Monday, Monday... (Preview) ... a good start... a bit cloudy outside... cool spring... ...we had big glitch in our church. It is a tiny one, really... [church that is] [but a seemingly big glitch.] But it did work through yesterday. The senior poster and I was on opposite poles, as far as our election went on Saturday. So I too...	DavidG	4	1968	Oct 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_MONDAY (Preview) I am never alonenever abandonednever desertednever judgednever chastisedand never without Gods aid.--Shelley"As a deer longs for flowing streams, so my soul longs for you, O God.My soul thirsts for God."Those who are lifting the world upward and onward are those who encourage more than critici...	mamalioness	1	2131	Oct 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SUNDAY (Preview) "To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...	mamalioness	3	1999	Oct 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	If I was on my last year of life------ (Preview) Journaling is teaching me a lot about me and here are some tidbits of things I , with the help of my Higher Power, want/plan to do to be a better me and if I had just ONE year left to live, here are some things that came up in my journaling I would want to make it the best year I could by: learning as much as I can ho...	mamalioness	6	2606	Oct 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	M mom passed away(brief) (Preview) My mom passed away this morning. She is now finally at peace. She lived a very hard life. She was my strength at times & was even my weakness. I loved her the hardest but also very gentle. I have peace knowing that I got to say goodbye remotely. I have so many loved who are here for me. To all of you: thanks...	Hoot Nanny	15	3063	Oct 19, 2020 by Hoot Nanny
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SUNDAY (Preview) "To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...	mamalioness	0	1702	Oct 18, 2020 by mamalioness
	Memorial service tomorrow (Preview) I will continue my journey w my mom as she is laid to rest. It will be difficult but I have God have onmy side & holding my hand. My alanon sisters will be there in the front row w me as well as my mom's lovely daughters. My two beautiful sisters. Pray for me that all goes well. Love all of you the same way as y...	Hoot Nanny	5	1733	Oct 18, 2020 by JerryF
	Gratitude (Preview) I am grateful today to be able to work with people who have very different viewpoints than me. Even in the middle of this crisis which had bought such suffering to.so many people . I.am able to not react but respond with no need to convert them to my view point. How grateful I am to have maturity, tact and gr...	Maresie888	4	582	Oct 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	how to heal (Preview) I am new to this group. My first time inquiring for help to deal with an alcoholic husband who is verbally abusive and I am just beaten down. I left him to heal my heart. How do I heal from all this sadness? -- Edited by Sad Cat on Thursday 15th of October 2020 06:33:28 PM	Sad Cat	6	796	Oct 17, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT - October 16 (Preview) Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon speaks to the diversity of people that come into our program -- all kinds of wealth/poverty, education, personalities. It cautions members not to judge or patronize people for superficial reasons -- their clothing, manner of speech, etc. Anyone who...	Freetime	4	647	Oct 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	A glitch, relapse- ugh! [Long] (Preview) I still have the capacity for self sabotage- or so it appears... Yesterday was a great day. In this group- maybe noticed by three of us- but highly significant for me. I am a believer in "The Butterfly Effect". How a small but significant change can lead to greater things. For me it was a si...	DavidG	2	559	Oct 15, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C - 10/15 (Preview) Tomorrow's daily talks about forgiveness and suggests that it is the most loving form of detachment we can find. Instead of thinking of forgiveness as an eraser to wipe another's slate clean or a gavel that we pound to pronounce someone 'not guilty', the writer suggests we could view forgiveness as...	Iamhere	6	587	Oct 15, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change October 14 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on a quote: "Do not search for the truth, only cease to cherish opinions." For today's author, ceasing to cherish opinions is tied directly to step 10 (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author has a tendenc...	Skorpi	5	796	Oct 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	This story speaks to us- our founders are heroes... (Preview) [video=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVCYeL8Uv8s&fbcl...	DavidG	5	3567	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	can you mute or block someone on Private message??? (Preview) I never asked this question, but I am wondering if you can mute or block someone on private message....I had this REALLY WEIRD exchange with someone with whom I thought I was sorta OK , but that changed over, Lord knows what...I am NOT unsafe, but the exchange had a "cringe" factor to it... -- Edited...	mamalioness	12	697	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	Re-experiencing loss (Preview) Hi fellow friends, I am struggling again (but I know it's part of my recovery and progress not perfection). Long story short, but I have been separated from my AH for nearly 2 months now and while I had hoped to feel happiness, I am struggling again to fully let go. I realise that because of my past, I hav...	Bettertomorrow	6	2096	Oct 14, 2020 by Bettertomorrow
	Sometimes, NOTHING but an old fashioned hug will do it (Preview) Went to gym to literally drown my sorrows in the pool...swam hard for about 45 minutes and as I was leaving, my friends , the managers, Trina and Trey both yelled "how are ya Rosie???" I walked over to them and said "horrible...the last of my sisters passed away" and we talked and Trina just grabbed m...	mamalioness	4	660	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	The last of my sisters died (Preview) She was Patricia Godfrey Lowe, she died Sept. 25th from cancer...her daughter , Deb, didn't know how to find me so she hacked into her mom's facebook account and told me Now I have no sisters left...Patsy was not my bio sister, but when i was 12 and got real good at running away, she and Gini, her younger s...	mamalioness	11	756	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	Getting my head around JADE (Preview) Hi y'all... I have heard the J.A.D.E. akronym on overseas forums- but never in NZ. So I never paid much need to it- until recently. I suppose I do need it now- so I embrace it- and make it my own... I have a little trouble with one part of it- the "E". I always like to explain things- myself, etc... I know...	DavidG	7	1678	Oct 14, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 10/12 (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 10/12, the writer wanted their spouse to get sober so they could live happily ever after. The ugly disease overshadowed all aspects of the relationship, and the writer felt empty. With alanon they had to unlearn romantic nonsense, find a satisfying life in the here and no...	Lyne	7	2797	Oct 14, 2020 by Maresie888
	10/13/20 C2C – Easy Does it (Preview) Upon reflection, today's author admitted that responding to a negative situation with raised voice and angry words did not help, and did not lead to good feelings after. Using the AlAnon slogan Easy Does It, however, helped maintain calm thoughts that in turn, allowed a calm response and action. Re...	Enigmatic	4	579	Oct 14, 2020 by Maresie888
	It is all set w no regrets (Preview) I am sending my mom a good send off on Friday! She would be so proud & pleased w her children. She would be pleased w the love & joy she found on this earth. Her heart would be moved by the singing & the moments shared by family & friends. She was & will always be my loving mother & fri...	Hoot Nanny	4	1882	Oct 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	The Need To Defend Myself (Preview) I've been fighting the urge to defend myself with AH for 2 days now. It's so hard to not do it though. It feels so important to tell my side,tell all my thoughts and feelings,to try to convince him he's wrong about something. What's the point though? He will never agree with what I say,he will never say "o...	SunnyFrogs	12	5304	Oct 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 10/10 (Preview) Today's reading looks at how Al-Anon helps us to accept what we can't change, and change what we can. The author relates a story of as a child, they would be fearful their car would go over the side of the road as they traveled this one particular road. They would cling tightly to the door handle of the car,...	PosiesandPuppies	4	567	Oct 11, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 10/8 (Preview) Today's reading is about gratitude, attitude and miracles in recovery. The writer suggests that our current lives are miracles. So many of us came to Al-Anon feeling alone and hopeless, and discover that no situation is really hopeless...we find others who have been through the pain of coping wi...	Iamhere	6	2296	Oct 11, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Oct 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about a coping mechanism that is sometimes used to deal with the chaos of alcoholism. The writer describes having grown up in chaos and in response escaping through books and art; over time this was not only an escape from all that was happening in the alcohol...	yanksfan51	4	2924	Oct 11, 2020 by Iamhere
	It's been a while / brand new qualifier(s) (Preview) Hello everyone, It has been quite a few years since I have posted here. I got remarried and moved to a different city and life just kind of happened the way it does. All the while, the disease of Alcoholism has been waiting and doing pushups getting ready for another round of battle against a badly arm...	mikeco	9	826	Oct 10, 2020 by mikeco
	Courage to Change - October 9 - Surrender (Preview) The author of today's share did not want to admit defeat. That is how they viewed powerlessness -- losing the battle and submitting to the enemy. In Al-Anon, they learned that surrender does not mean submission, it means to stop fighting reality and to stop doing the higher power's job. Surrender...	Freetime	4	2043	Oct 9, 2020 by Freetime
	Progress, not perfection... (Preview) Thanks for listening... My live is taking turns in the right direction. I have been wanting to write a book for a few years. My goal was to produce 200 to 400 copies. I kept working- so I could pay for the printing... and never seemed to make it. The book is about a 19th century character. He was in convic...	DavidG	2	1716	Oct 9, 2020 by Skorpi
	Newbie again picking up the solutions from the past. (Preview) I am not really surprised at the relapse I got kicked by and the outcome. I am back in the neighborhood where this all began; disease awareness and recovery learning and work. I am surprised how disrespectful and nasty it is in hanging on to each and every fault it used to take me down and then attempt t...	JerryF	8	1732	Oct 8, 2020 by JerryF
	Struggling to keep perspective (Preview) My father is dying. Stage 4 metastatic laryngeal cancer. He is an alcoholic but over the last few years had made great strides in controlling the amount he drank (he finally quit entirely at his diagnosis 4 months ago). As a result of his effort to control his disease our relationship was able to grow an...	Twinkies	8	826	Oct 8, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change October 7 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflects on life before Al-Anon. The author felt as though life was on hold. They wanted change, and tried to MAKE it happen, but the changes the author wanted weren't changes in their power to make. The author is an action-taker, and feels better when doing so...	Skorpi	4	645	Oct 7, 2020 by Maresie888
	10/6/20 Courage 2 Change: AlAnon for Life (Preview) Today's page reminds us that AlAnon is not a single use service but of great value if used throughout our life. We change, life changes, but we will never run out of character defects or need for spiritual reassessment.The author remembered this after having slipped into an unhappy state of thinking...	Enigmatic	4	602	Oct 6, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 10/5 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 10/5, reminds us that to Think gives us the choice about where to put our attention. At times our thoughts may be on depression, doom sayings, and/or complaining, but its much more productive to look for positive qualities in ourselves, our circumstances, and in other human...	Lyne	3	2028	Oct 5, 2020 by JerryF
	Hope for Today Oct 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about breaking the big picture into smaller steps, especially as it applies to making changes in our lives. The writer uses a metaphor about having old and out of date wallpaper up in the kitchen. Rather than replace it, the writer begins to accept it so that h...	yanksfan51	3	1505	Oct 4, 2020 by Iamhere
	So Happy Birthday any way... (Preview) That is for my wife who is an Al-Anon member and worker of the program also. She wanted to keep the info anonymous but isn't my Higher Power I get to spill the beans now and then again later just to let her know I am still in the house and family and a recovering man to deal with...LOL We celebrate the same...	JerryF	6	665	Oct 4, 2020 by Hoot Nanny
	Z00M....DIFFERENT BUT SAME. (Preview) Just finished our weekly Thursday ZOOM facebook meeting and as usual for me as a gift from HP it was a winner. Grateful to have it and suggest we all make use of it. ((((hugs))))	JerryF	5	1440	Oct 3, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 10/2 (Preview) Service and recovery -- the author of today's page finds that service to the Al-Anon group is essential to personal recovery, specifically because it brings them into contact with newcomers, which is a reminder of what is really important. Remembering what it was like to first come into Al-Anon, t...	Freetime	4	658	Oct 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	SATURDAY 10/3/2020 (Preview) Today I felt like taking/sharing knowledge from The Language of Letting Go - by Melody Beattie Getting Through the Discomfort "Our goal in recovery is to make ourselves feel comfortable, peaceful, content. Happy. We want to be at peace with ourselves and our environment. Sometimes, to do that, we n...	PosiesandPuppies	1	528	Oct 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Sept 27 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power of service within the program. The writer details coming to the program and finding a place where our opinions mattered. Encouraged to be part of the service, the writer realized this could take the form of everything from setting up/breakin...	yanksfan51	4	582	Oct 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 10/1 (Preview) Today's reading is about one of our tools - the support through fellowship when we are in need. The writing suggests that racing and crashing thoughts going through our minds - memories, broken promises, fears about the future, failed expectations of self & others - familiar chaos that we can n...	Iamhere	3	564	Oct 1, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change September 30 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the slogan "Just for today" - There are many things to try out, just for today - a new behavior, a different point of view, a pattern of behavior, a more positive response. The author suggests that maybe, life is a series of experiments in which some succeed and...	Skorpi	4	593	Sep 30, 2020 by DavidG
	Advice to avoid projecting (Preview) Hi everyone, hoping to get your advice on this. My younger brother has been struggling with alcohol use for a few years, but things have been significantly worse the last couple months. I don't think he would meet the criteria for alcoholism, but there are many concerning signs--drinking alone, dr...	Andrea253	8	772	Sep 30, 2020 by Iamhere
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