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If I was on my last year of life------
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Journaling is teaching me a lot about me and here are some tidbits of things I , with the help of my Higher Power, want/plan to do to be a better me and if I had just ONE year left to live, here are some things that came up in my journaling I would want to make it the best year I could by: learning as much as I can ho...
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M mom passed away(brief)
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My mom passed away this morning. She is now finally at peace. She lived a very hard life. She was my strength at times & was even my weakness. I loved her the hardest but also very gentle. I have peace knowing that I got to say goodbye remotely. I have so many loved who are here for me. To all of you: thanks...
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TID BITS OF WISDOM_SUNDAY
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"To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...
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Memorial service tomorrow
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I will continue my journey w my mom as she is laid to rest. It will be difficult but I have God have onmy side & holding my hand. My alanon sisters will be there in the front row w me as well as my mom's lovely daughters. My two beautiful sisters. Pray for me that all goes well. Love all of you the same way as y...
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Gratitude
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I am grateful today to be able to work with people who have very different viewpoints than me. Even in the middle of this crisis which had bought such suffering to.so many people . I.am able to not react but respond with no need to convert them to my view point. How grateful I am to have maturity, tact and gr...
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how to heal
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I am new to this group. My first time inquiring for help to deal with an alcoholic husband who is verbally abusive and I am just beaten down. I left him to heal my heart. How do I heal from all this sadness? -- Edited by Sad Cat on Thursday 15th of October 2020 06:33:28 PM
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ODAT - October 16
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Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon speaks to the diversity of people that come into our program -- all kinds of wealth/poverty, education, personalities. It cautions members not to judge or patronize people for superficial reasons -- their clothing, manner of speech, etc. Anyone who...
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A glitch, relapse- ugh! [Long]
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I still have the capacity for self sabotage- or so it appears... Yesterday was a great day. In this group- maybe noticed by three of us- but highly significant for me. I am a believer in "The Butterfly Effect". How a small but significant change can lead to greater things. For me it was a si...
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C2C - 10/15
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Tomorrow's daily talks about forgiveness and suggests that it is the most loving form of detachment we can find. Instead of thinking of forgiveness as an eraser to wipe another's slate clean or a gavel that we pound to pronounce someone 'not guilty', the writer suggests we could view forgiveness as...
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Iamhere
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Courage to Change October 14
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In today's reading, the author reflects on a quote: "Do not search for the truth, only cease to cherish opinions." For today's author, ceasing to cherish opinions is tied directly to step 10 (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author has a tendenc...
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This story speaks to us- our founders are heroes...
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[video=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVCYeL8Uv8s&fbcl...
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can you mute or block someone on Private message???
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I never asked this question, but I am wondering if you can mute or block someone on private message....I had this REALLY WEIRD exchange with someone with whom I thought I was sorta OK , but that changed over, Lord knows what...I am NOT unsafe, but the exchange had a "cringe" factor to it... -- Edited...
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Re-experiencing loss
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Hi fellow friends, I am struggling again (but I know it's part of my recovery and progress not perfection). Long story short, but I have been separated from my AH for nearly 2 months now and while I had hoped to feel happiness, I am struggling again to fully let go. I realise that because of my past, I hav...
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Sometimes, NOTHING but an old fashioned hug will do it
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Went to gym to literally drown my sorrows in the pool...swam hard for about 45 minutes and as I was leaving, my friends , the managers, Trina and Trey both yelled "how are ya Rosie???" I walked over to them and said "horrible...the last of my sisters passed away" and we talked and Trina just grabbed m...
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The last of my sisters died
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She was Patricia Godfrey Lowe, she died Sept. 25th from cancer...her daughter , Deb, didn't know how to find me so she hacked into her mom's facebook account and told me Now I have no sisters left...Patsy was not my bio sister, but when i was 12 and got real good at running away, she and Gini, her younger s...
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Getting my head around JADE
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Hi y'all... I have heard the J.A.D.E. akronym on overseas forums- but never in NZ. So I never paid much need to it- until recently. I suppose I do need it now- so I embrace it- and make it my own... I have a little trouble with one part of it- the "E". I always like to explain things- myself, etc... I know...
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C2C, 10/12
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In the reading for Monday, 10/12, the writer wanted their spouse to get sober so they could live happily ever after. The ugly disease overshadowed all aspects of the relationship, and the writer felt empty. With alanon they had to unlearn romantic nonsense, find a satisfying life in the here and no...
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10/13/20 C2C – Easy Does it
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Upon reflection, today's author admitted that responding to a negative situation with raised voice and angry words did not help, and did not lead to good feelings after. Using the AlAnon slogan Easy Does It, however, helped maintain calm thoughts that in turn, allowed a calm response and action. Re...
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It is all set w no regrets
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I am sending my mom a good send off on Friday! She would be so proud & pleased w her children. She would be pleased w the love & joy she found on this earth. Her heart would be moved by the singing & the moments shared by family & friends. She was & will always be my loving mother & fri...
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The Need To Defend Myself
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I've been fighting the urge to defend myself with AH for 2 days now. It's so hard to not do it though. It feels so important to tell my side,tell all my thoughts and feelings,to try to convince him he's wrong about something. What's the point though? He will never agree with what I say,he will never say "o...
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Courage to Change 10/10
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Today's reading looks at how Al-Anon helps us to accept what we can't change, and change what we can. The author relates a story of as a child, they would be fearful their car would go over the side of the road as they traveled this one particular road. They would cling tightly to the door handle of the car,...
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Courage to Change 10/8
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Today's reading is about gratitude, attitude and miracles in recovery. The writer suggests that our current lives are miracles. So many of us came to Al-Anon feeling alone and hopeless, and discover that no situation is really hopeless...we find others who have been through the pain of coping wi...
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Hope for Today Oct 11
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about a coping mechanism that is sometimes used to deal with the chaos of alcoholism. The writer describes having grown up in chaos and in response escaping through books and art; over time this was not only an escape from all that was happening in the alcohol...
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It's been a while / brand new qualifier(s)
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Hello everyone, It has been quite a few years since I have posted here. I got remarried and moved to a different city and life just kind of happened the way it does. All the while, the disease of Alcoholism has been waiting and doing pushups getting ready for another round of battle against a badly arm...
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mikeco
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Courage to Change - October 9 - Surrender
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The author of today's share did not want to admit defeat. That is how they viewed powerlessness -- losing the battle and submitting to the enemy. In Al-Anon, they learned that surrender does not mean submission, it means to stop fighting reality and to stop doing the higher power's job. Surrender...
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Progress, not perfection...
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Thanks for listening... My live is taking turns in the right direction. I have been wanting to write a book for a few years. My goal was to produce 200 to 400 copies. I kept working- so I could pay for the printing... and never seemed to make it. The book is about a 19th century character. He was in convic...
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DavidG
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Newbie again picking up the solutions from the past.
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I am not really surprised at the relapse I got kicked by and the outcome. I am back in the neighborhood where this all began; disease awareness and recovery learning and work. I am surprised how disrespectful and nasty it is in hanging on to each and every fault it used to take me down and then attempt t...
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Struggling to keep perspective
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My father is dying. Stage 4 metastatic laryngeal cancer. He is an alcoholic but over the last few years had made great strides in controlling the amount he drank (he finally quit entirely at his diagnosis 4 months ago). As a result of his effort to control his disease our relationship was able to grow an...
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Courage to Change October 7
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Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflects on life before Al-Anon. The author felt as though life was on hold. They wanted change, and tried to MAKE it happen, but the changes the author wanted weren't changes in their power to make. The author is an action-taker, and feels better when doing so...
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10/6/20 Courage 2 Change: AlAnon for Life
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Today's page reminds us that AlAnon is not a single use service but of great value if used throughout our life. We change, life changes, but we will never run out of character defects or need for spiritual reassessment.The author remembered this after having slipped into an unhappy state of thinking...
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C2C, 10/5
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The reading for Monday, 10/5, reminds us that to Think gives us the choice about where to put our attention. At times our thoughts may be on depression, doom sayings, and/or complaining, but its much more productive to look for positive qualities in ourselves, our circumstances, and in other human...
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Lyne
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Hope for Today Oct 4
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about breaking the big picture into smaller steps, especially as it applies to making changes in our lives. The writer uses a metaphor about having old and out of date wallpaper up in the kitchen. Rather than replace it, the writer begins to accept it so that h...
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So Happy Birthday any way...
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That is for my wife who is an Al-Anon member and worker of the program also. She wanted to keep the info anonymous but isn't my Higher Power I get to spill the beans now and then again later just to let her know I am still in the house and family and a recovering man to deal with...LOL We celebrate the same...
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JerryF
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Z00M....DIFFERENT BUT SAME.
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Just finished our weekly Thursday ZOOM facebook meeting and as usual for me as a gift from HP it was a winner. Grateful to have it and suggest we all make use of it. ((((hugs))))
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JerryF
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Courage to Change 10/2
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Service and recovery -- the author of today's page finds that service to the Al-Anon group is essential to personal recovery, specifically because it brings them into contact with newcomers, which is a reminder of what is really important. Remembering what it was like to first come into Al-Anon, t...
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SATURDAY 10/3/2020
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Today I felt like taking/sharing knowledge from The Language of Letting Go - by Melody Beattie Getting Through the Discomfort "Our goal in recovery is to make ourselves feel comfortable, peaceful, content. Happy. We want to be at peace with ourselves and our environment. Sometimes, to do that, we n...
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Hope for Today Sept 27
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power of service within the program. The writer details coming to the program and finding a place where our opinions mattered. Encouraged to be part of the service, the writer realized this could take the form of everything from setting up/breakin...
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Courage to Change 10/1
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Today's reading is about one of our tools - the support through fellowship when we are in need. The writing suggests that racing and crashing thoughts going through our minds - memories, broken promises, fears about the future, failed expectations of self & others - familiar chaos that we can n...
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Iamhere
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Courage to Change September 30
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In today's reading, the author reflects on the slogan "Just for today" - There are many things to try out, just for today - a new behavior, a different point of view, a pattern of behavior, a more positive response. The author suggests that maybe, life is a series of experiments in which some succeed and...
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Advice to avoid projecting
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Hi everyone, hoping to get your advice on this. My younger brother has been struggling with alcohol use for a few years, but things have been significantly worse the last couple months. I don't think he would meet the criteria for alcoholism, but there are many concerning signs--drinking alone, dr...
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9/29/20 ODAT – Listen and Learn
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Can we Listen and Learn from all shares in AlAnon? Today's writer first thought not, as not all in AlAnon follow suggestions such as not giving advice to others, or they may choose to constantly blame the alcoholic for how they feel.The page suggests, however, that this is the perfect time to analyze o...
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Saying goodbye
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I said goodbye to my mom tonight. Said what I had to say. She heard me. She is non responsive. Can't say much more but my family is coming up even though it is not a good idea. I need support as I go through this journey.
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My mom...she's headed down that path
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For all you who don't my story: I have been going down the path of letting go of my mom for several years now. She has been fighting mental illness for a long time as well. Now the time has come to really starting to say my final goodbyes. She is failing & is about 200 miles away from me in assisted living....
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COURAGE TO CHANGE Sept 26
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Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C is about feelings. The book talks about when the author first came to Al-Anon... the feelings they had, anger, resentment, fear, jealousy were all wrapped up in one adjective, "bad." Al-Anon helped the author to see and to understand that feelings are neither goo...
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ODAT in alanon, 9/28
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The reading for Monday, 9/28, reflects upon why we go to alanon: to learn about alcoholism and its devastating results, that there is no cure, but sobriety is possible through AA, WHEN THE ALCOHOLIC IS READY. We also learn that we too, went downhill, and an honest appraisal of ourselves leads to imp...
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Lyne
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Yippee...
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I have a letter on my table... three foolscap pages of neatly written words... I have always loved letter- from when i was a kid- both sending and receiving... My nephew's partner responded to a card I sent to her treatment centre. Have been there myself, [as a family member] i saw the need for outsi...
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Courage to Change 9/24
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Happy Thursday MIP family. Today's reading discusses how working the program helps us place our problems in true perspective. The quote of the day is from the Al-Anon suggested welcome - ". . . As we learn to place our problem in its true perspective, we find it loses its power to dominate our thought...
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Courage to Change - September 25
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Step Three -- the author of today's page takes it over and over again, but usually waits until a problem is overwhelming before turning it over to the care of a Higher Power. The author is working on placing their entire will and life into their Higher Power's hands willingly, no matter what, writing "....
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AA Alanon/Recovery Pamphlet P-15
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I haven't seen or read this pamphlet for a long time. My wife had it in her literature for a while and handed it to me this evening as I was reading Al-Anon literature. The title is THREE VIEWS OF AL-ANON...Alcoholics Speak to the Family. It was composed for Al-Anon by AA and is very telling. I believ...
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What happened?
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I haven't been on here in a very long time I think. I am curious why I am unable to get on the mobile app? I just wonder. Things are better in my life after a lot of setbacks. I really need to get back on track. I have been trying to live w faith over fear. It has been easier w time. I feel some sense of relief. I have...
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Doing it the hard way compulsively
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One of the charecteristics of being in a relationship with an alcoholic is having a hard time. No matter what the alcoholic seems to.make life harder, much much harder. I already have a full olate. In a oandemic year that can put someone over the edge. This is a tine for me to be even mire cautious.
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Step 11...
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Hi y'all... Spring is here- but the mornings are still cool. So I did my Step 11 in bed- stretched out like a cat. A good healthy cough often kicks starts my day. I have done a lot of breathing work over the last 5 years. Much more idea now of how a healthy body works. I do my meditation when I wake up- and do...
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Courage to Change Sept. 23
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Hello MIP! Another perfectly timed C2C reading for me today! In today's reading, the author reflects on one of their character flaws - responding in kind to behavior directed at the author. Reacting to insults with insults, or rudeness with rudeness. One day, the author noticed that an Al-Anon fri...
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Happy Birthday Jerry and C2C for 9/19
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I am blessed and humbled to celebrate my birthday with my brother from another mother, Jerry! Happy, happy birthday brother - please know I am extremely grateful to have you be a part of my journey! May this day be lovely for you and me and all of MIP. I am posting the daily for 9/19, Saturday, for PnP. Sh...
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Pity Party
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To be honest, I got stuck in a bad place for a few weeks. I have had multiple stressors, none life-threatening, but I couldnt overcome my defeatist mind set. This hasnt happened to me in several years. Usually my tools kick right in and Im back on track. I have focused hard especially on acceptance o...
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9/22/20 ODAT - Giant, Terrifying Dust Mites
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What we choose to focus on determines what looms largest in our mind. Today's reading reminds us that we have a choice: negatives and small annoyances that will grow into resentments, or positives that can also grow, that broaden our sense of well being and effectively reduce the influence and appea...
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My Brothers death from liver cirrhosis
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My Brothers death from liver cirrhosis Hi everyone. Id like to share my story which is still very raw but this feels like the right place and the right time. My brother was an alcoholic for some years. It only became apparent to what extent around 2.5 years ago though. This was when him and his wife se...
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A Saturday share... clutter and an uncluttered mind...
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Kia ora koutou... Howdy y'all... ... Generally I would get up on Saturday morning and share something. It is much later in the day now. Being a member of this group is like having four or more meetings a week. The scope is immense. And our members are drawn from every point in the globe- a great contras...
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C2C, 9/21
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For Monday, 9/21, the writer talks about dreading change and being comfortable with chaos. Since change is inevitable, the author decided not to assume that change is bad. Actually, they see that changes have had a positive effect, such as coming to alanon. The writer still has many fears, but tr...
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Hope For Today - September 18
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The author of today's reading in Hope for Today came into Al-Anon not interested in a Higher Power and skeptical of all the God references in the Twelve Steps. They didn't think they wanted or needed a higher power. Others in the program shared their own experiences without telling the author what to...
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