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mamalioness · mamalioness

Went to gym to literally drown my sorrows in the pool...swam hard for about 45 minutes and as I was leaving, my friends , the managers, Trina and Trey both yelled "how are ya Rosie???" I walked over to them and said "horrible...the last of my sisters passed away" and we talked and Trina just grabbed m...

mamalioness · mamalioness

She was Patricia Godfrey Lowe, she died Sept. 25th from cancer...her daughter , Deb, didn't know how to find me so she hacked into her mom's facebook account and told me Now I have no sisters left...Patsy was not my bio sister, but when i was 12 and got real good at running away, she and Gini, her younger s...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I have heard the J.A.D.E. akronym on overseas forums- but never in NZ. So I never paid much need to it- until recently. I suppose I do need it now- so I embrace it- and make it my own... I have a little trouble with one part of it- the "E". I always like to explain things- myself, etc... I know...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 10/12, the writer wanted their spouse to get sober so they could live happily ever after. The ugly disease overshadowed all aspects of the relationship, and the writer felt empty. With alanon they had to unlearn romantic nonsense, find a satisfying life in the here and no...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Upon reflection, today's author admitted that responding to a negative situation with raised voice and angry words did not help, and did not lead to good feelings after. Using the AlAnon slogan Easy Does It, however, helped maintain calm thoughts that in turn, allowed a calm response and action. Re...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am sending my mom a good send off on Friday! She would be so proud & pleased w her children. She would be pleased w the love & joy she found on this earth. Her heart would be moved by the singing & the moments shared by family & friends. She was & will always be my loving mother & fri...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I've been fighting the urge to defend myself with AH for 2 days now. It's so hard to not do it though. It feels so important to tell my side,tell all my thoughts and feelings,to try to convince him he's wrong about something. What's the point though? He will never agree with what I say,he will never say "o...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading looks at how Al-Anon helps us to accept what we can't change, and change what we can. The author relates a story of as a child, they would be fearful their car would go over the side of the road as they traveled this one particular road. They would cling tightly to the door handle of the car,...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about gratitude, attitude and miracles in recovery. The writer suggests that our current lives are miracles. So many of us came to Al-Anon feeling alone and hopeless, and discover that no situation is really hopeless...we find others who have been through the pain of coping wi...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about a coping mechanism that is sometimes used to deal with the chaos of alcoholism. The writer describes having grown up in chaos and in response escaping through books and art; over time this was not only an escape from all that was happening in the alcohol...

mikeco · mikeco

Hello everyone, It has been quite a few years since I have posted here. I got remarried and moved to a different city and life just kind of happened the way it does. All the while, the disease of Alcoholism has been waiting and doing pushups getting ready for another round of battle against a badly arm...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's share did not want to admit defeat. That is how they viewed powerlessness -- losing the battle and submitting to the enemy. In Al-Anon, they learned that surrender does not mean submission, it means to stop fighting reality and to stop doing the higher power's job. Surrender...

DavidG · DavidG

Thanks for listening... My live is taking turns in the right direction. I have been wanting to write a book for a few years. My goal was to produce 200 to 400 copies. I kept working- so I could pay for the printing... and never seemed to make it. The book is about a 19th century character. He was in convic...

JerryF · JerryF

I am not really surprised at the relapse I got kicked by and the outcome. I am back in the neighborhood where this all began; disease awareness and recovery learning and work. I am surprised how disrespectful and nasty it is in hanging on to each and every fault it used to take me down and then attempt t...

Twinkies · Twinkies

My father is dying. Stage 4 metastatic laryngeal cancer. He is an alcoholic but over the last few years had made great strides in controlling the amount he drank (he finally quit entirely at his diagnosis 4 months ago). As a result of his effort to control his disease our relationship was able to grow an...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflects on life before Al-Anon. The author felt as though life was on hold. They wanted change, and tried to MAKE it happen, but the changes the author wanted weren't changes in their power to make. The author is an action-taker, and feels better when doing so...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds us that AlAnon is not a single use service but of great value if used throughout our life. We change, life changes, but we will never run out of character defects or need for spiritual reassessment.The author remembered this after having slipped into an unhappy state of thinking...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 10/5, reminds us that to Think gives us the choice about where to put our attention. At times our thoughts may be on depression, doom sayings, and/or complaining, but its much more productive to look for positive qualities in ourselves, our circumstances, and in other human...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about breaking the big picture into smaller steps, especially as it applies to making changes in our lives. The writer uses a metaphor about having old and out of date wallpaper up in the kitchen. Rather than replace it, the writer begins to accept it so that h...

JerryF · JerryF

That is for my wife who is an Al-Anon member and worker of the program also. She wanted to keep the info anonymous but isn't my Higher Power I get to spill the beans now and then again later just to let her know I am still in the house and family and a recovering man to deal with...LOL We celebrate the same...

JerryF · JerryF

Just finished our weekly Thursday ZOOM facebook meeting and as usual for me as a gift from HP it was a winner. Grateful to have it and suggest we all make use of it. ((((hugs))))

Freetime · Freetime

Service and recovery -- the author of today's page finds that service to the Al-Anon group is essential to personal recovery, specifically because it brings them into contact with newcomers, which is a reminder of what is really important. Remembering what it was like to first come into Al-Anon, t...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today I felt like taking/sharing knowledge from The Language of Letting Go - by Melody Beattie Getting Through the Discomfort "Our goal in recovery is to make ourselves feel comfortable, peaceful, content. Happy. We want to be at peace with ourselves and our environment. Sometimes, to do that, we n...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power of service within the program. The writer details coming to the program and finding a place where our opinions mattered. Encouraged to be part of the service, the writer realized this could take the form of everything from setting up/breakin...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about one of our tools - the support through fellowship when we are in need. The writing suggests that racing and crashing thoughts going through our minds - memories, broken promises, fears about the future, failed expectations of self & others - familiar chaos that we can n...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the slogan "Just for today" - There are many things to try out, just for today - a new behavior, a different point of view, a pattern of behavior, a more positive response. The author suggests that maybe, life is a series of experiments in which some succeed and...

Andrea253 · Andrea253

Hi everyone, hoping to get your advice on this. My younger brother has been struggling with alcohol use for a few years, but things have been significantly worse the last couple months. I don't think he would meet the criteria for alcoholism, but there are many concerning signs--drinking alone, dr...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Can we Listen and Learn from all shares in AlAnon? Today's writer first thought not, as not all in AlAnon follow suggestions such as not giving advice to others, or they may choose to constantly blame the alcoholic for how they feel.The page suggests, however, that this is the perfect time to analyze o...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I said goodbye to my mom tonight. Said what I had to say. She heard me. She is non responsive. Can't say much more but my family is coming up even though it is not a good idea. I need support as I go through this journey.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

For all you who don't my story: I have been going down the path of letting go of my mom for several years now. She has been fighting mental illness for a long time as well. Now the time has come to really starting to say my final goodbyes. She is failing & is about 200 miles away from me in assisted living....

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C is about feelings. The book talks about when the author first came to Al-Anon... the feelings they had, anger, resentment, fear, jealousy were all wrapped up in one adjective, "bad." Al-Anon helped the author to see and to understand that feelings are neither goo...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/28, reflects upon why we go to alanon: to learn about alcoholism and its devastating results, that there is no cure, but sobriety is possible through AA, WHEN THE ALCOHOLIC IS READY. We also learn that we too, went downhill, and an honest appraisal of ourselves leads to imp...

DavidG · DavidG

I have a letter on my table... three foolscap pages of neatly written words... I have always loved letter- from when i was a kid- both sending and receiving... My nephew's partner responded to a card I sent to her treatment centre. Have been there myself, [as a family member] i saw the need for outsi...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Thursday MIP family. Today's reading discusses how working the program helps us place our problems in true perspective. The quote of the day is from the Al-Anon suggested welcome - ". . . As we learn to place our problem in its true perspective, we find it loses its power to dominate our thought...

Freetime · Freetime

Step Three -- the author of today's page takes it over and over again, but usually waits until a problem is overwhelming before turning it over to the care of a Higher Power. The author is working on placing their entire will and life into their Higher Power's hands willingly, no matter what, writing "....

JerryF · JerryF

I haven't seen or read this pamphlet for a long time. My wife had it in her literature for a while and handed it to me this evening as I was reading Al-Anon literature. The title is THREE VIEWS OF AL-ANON...Alcoholics Speak to the Family. It was composed for Al-Anon by AA and is very telling. I believ...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I haven't been on here in a very long time I think. I am curious why I am unable to get on the mobile app? I just wonder. Things are better in my life after a lot of setbacks. I really need to get back on track. I have been trying to live w faith over fear. It has been easier w time. I feel some sense of relief. I have...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

One of the charecteristics of being in a relationship with an alcoholic is having a hard time. No matter what the alcoholic seems to.make life harder, much much harder. I already have a full olate. In a oandemic year that can put someone over the edge. This is a tine for me to be even mire cautious. In my...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Spring is here- but the mornings are still cool. So I did my Step 11 in bed- stretched out like a cat. A good healthy cough often kicks starts my day. I have done a lot of breathing work over the last 5 years. Much more idea now of how a healthy body works. I do my meditation when I wake up- and do...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Another perfectly timed C2C reading for me today! In today's reading, the author reflects on one of their character flaws - responding in kind to behavior directed at the author. Reacting to insults with insults, or rudeness with rudeness. One day, the author noticed that an Al-Anon fri...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I am blessed and humbled to celebrate my birthday with my brother from another mother, Jerry! Happy, happy birthday brother - please know I am extremely grateful to have you be a part of my journey! May this day be lovely for you and me and all of MIP. I am posting the daily for 9/19, Saturday, for PnP. Sh...

Lyne · Lyne

To be honest, I got stuck in a bad place for a few weeks. I have had multiple stressors, none life-threatening, but I couldnt overcome my defeatist mind set. This hasnt happened to me in several years. Usually my tools kick right in and Im back on track. I have focused hard especially on acceptance o...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

What we choose to focus on determines what looms largest in our mind. Today's reading reminds us that we have a choice: negatives and small annoyances that will grow into resentments, or positives that can also grow, that broaden our sense of well being and effectively reduce the influence and appea...

Ems298 · Ems298

My Brothers death from liver cirrhosis Hi everyone. Id like to share my story which is still very raw but this feels like the right place and the right time. My brother was an alcoholic for some years. It only became apparent to what extent around 2.5 years ago though. This was when him and his wife se...

DavidG · DavidG

Kia ora koutou... Howdy y'all... ... Generally I would get up on Saturday morning and share something. It is much later in the day now. Being a member of this group is like having four or more meetings a week. The scope is immense. And our members are drawn from every point in the globe- a great contras...

Lyne · Lyne

For Monday, 9/21, the writer talks about dreading change and being comfortable with chaos. Since change is inevitable, the author decided not to assume that change is bad. Actually, they see that changes have had a positive effect, such as coming to alanon. The writer still has many fears, but tr...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading in Hope for Today came into Al-Anon not interested in a Higher Power and skeptical of all the God references in the Twelve Steps. They didn't think they wanted or needed a higher power. Others in the program shared their own experiences without telling the author what to...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a description of the reason we come together in Alanon. The writer describes feeling different when he/she began attending meetings. It is difficult for the writer to see any similarity between him-her/self and others in the meetings. Although there was a...

Kokopelli · Kokopelli

So while going through the process of divorcing my AH we are still in the same house. Every day I get my guilt trip lectures from 15 minutes to an hour, then switches to begging and pleading, then repeat. On the days and nights he decides to argue with me that it's my fault and leave to a friend's house, I a...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hey everyone!! Missed you guys, and after Linda went to nursing home, I really began to THINK, reflect on WHY so many back spasms, bee stings, seems my body was under some "attack" the bee sting was my not paying attention but the spasms, I truly believe are stored pain, trying to get out With no Linda to...

mamalioness · mamalioness

When Betty passed away, I felt like the entire bottom of this boat got blown away...Didn't know what to do or what to think, didn't know if I even wanted to hang out here at all. But BOTH of you have done such a great job, not taking her place as that is hers, noone could do that, but you two have filled her spac...

Fedora · Fedora

Today is a strange day. I finally realized that I am not going to be more clever than Alcoholism. For all my smarts, living with an active alcoholic is requiring too many mental (and financial) gymnastics in order to survive. So I told the spouse that we are done. He actually told me that he was going to...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I still have to deal with my forner roommate because my dog is atayimg at his house. I am within a few weeks of being able to bring ny dog back to the building i live in. The rennovation of the building (which has been all year) is almost over For 20 years I have been friends with someone who deliberately tri...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading from courage to change, the author reflects on how, in the face of seemingly impossible problems, it is easy to believe that our most negative thoughts indicate reality. Worst-case-scenarios are plead in a convincing way, and a positive outcome seems impossible. However, the l...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting early for tomorrow....the reading discusses the reality that all humans want to fit in and be a part of. Balance is the key and most of us who arrived at Al-Anon affected by this disease lost our balance along the way. People pleasing becomes destructive when we ignore our own needs and sacri...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page touches on a foundational concept of AlAnon: The level of felt Serenity is ours to control or give away, determined in part by how we choose to respond to people and situations around us.If we stop reacting to or acting upon everything that comes our way, instead choosing the factors that...

Friedmom · Friedmom

Hi, I'm new here and struggling with not being a co-dependent enabler for my dual diagnosis daughter. I know there are steps, but how do I find them? Where do I begin? I'd like to jump right in and learn as much as I can to try to make this horrific pain and devastation become less intense. I'd really like to...

DavidG · DavidG

Our welfare authorities are called Oranga Tamariki, or OT for short. The name means "healthy children". A goal and a vision that most everyone share. My nephew and partner had had their two kids taken off of them- and they are in foster care. I won't tell their story, as such, but share mine- and the...

Geoff · Geoff

So I was told yesterday that my AH wife has been going around and telling all the guys she works with that we are separated and not that we are on a trial separation as we agreed too. I guess I was the only one who was under the impression was a trial to figure out what she wanted. So I sent a text to her family so t...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/7, says that we should not look for pity. We should not expect other members to tell us our resentments are justified, nor should we take aggressive action. We hopefully will learn to change the way we see our family problems, and resist aggression by using dignity and pois...

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	Sometimes, NOTHING but an old fashioned hug will do it (Preview) Went to gym to literally drown my sorrows in the pool...swam hard for about 45 minutes and as I was leaving, my friends , the managers, Trina and Trey both yelled "how are ya Rosie???" I walked over to them and said "horrible...the last of my sisters passed away" and we talked and Trina just grabbed m...	mamalioness	4	443	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	The last of my sisters died (Preview) She was Patricia Godfrey Lowe, she died Sept. 25th from cancer...her daughter , Deb, didn't know how to find me so she hacked into her mom's facebook account and told me Now I have no sisters left...Patsy was not my bio sister, but when i was 12 and got real good at running away, she and Gini, her younger s...	mamalioness	11	555	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	Getting my head around JADE (Preview) Hi y'all... I have heard the J.A.D.E. akronym on overseas forums- but never in NZ. So I never paid much need to it- until recently. I suppose I do need it now- so I embrace it- and make it my own... I have a little trouble with one part of it- the "E". I always like to explain things- myself, etc... I know...	DavidG	7	1203	Oct 14, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 10/12 (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 10/12, the writer wanted their spouse to get sober so they could live happily ever after. The ugly disease overshadowed all aspects of the relationship, and the writer felt empty. With alanon they had to unlearn romantic nonsense, find a satisfying life in the here and no...	Lyne	7	2091	Oct 14, 2020 by Maresie888
	10/13/20 C2C – Easy Does it (Preview) Upon reflection, today's author admitted that responding to a negative situation with raised voice and angry words did not help, and did not lead to good feelings after. Using the AlAnon slogan Easy Does It, however, helped maintain calm thoughts that in turn, allowed a calm response and action. Re...	Enigmatic	4	377	Oct 14, 2020 by Maresie888
	It is all set w no regrets (Preview) I am sending my mom a good send off on Friday! She would be so proud & pleased w her children. She would be pleased w the love & joy she found on this earth. Her heart would be moved by the singing & the moments shared by family & friends. She was & will always be my loving mother & fri...	Hoot Nanny	4	1336	Oct 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	The Need To Defend Myself (Preview) I've been fighting the urge to defend myself with AH for 2 days now. It's so hard to not do it though. It feels so important to tell my side,tell all my thoughts and feelings,to try to convince him he's wrong about something. What's the point though? He will never agree with what I say,he will never say "o...	SunnyFrogs	12	4074	Oct 12, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 10/10 (Preview) Today's reading looks at how Al-Anon helps us to accept what we can't change, and change what we can. The author relates a story of as a child, they would be fearful their car would go over the side of the road as they traveled this one particular road. They would cling tightly to the door handle of the car,...	PosiesandPuppies	4	393	Oct 11, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 10/8 (Preview) Today's reading is about gratitude, attitude and miracles in recovery. The writer suggests that our current lives are miracles. So many of us came to Al-Anon feeling alone and hopeless, and discover that no situation is really hopeless...we find others who have been through the pain of coping wi...	Iamhere	6	1719	Oct 11, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Oct 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about a coping mechanism that is sometimes used to deal with the chaos of alcoholism. The writer describes having grown up in chaos and in response escaping through books and art; over time this was not only an escape from all that was happening in the alcohol...	yanksfan51	4	2114	Oct 11, 2020 by Iamhere
	It's been a while / brand new qualifier(s) (Preview) Hello everyone, It has been quite a few years since I have posted here. I got remarried and moved to a different city and life just kind of happened the way it does. All the while, the disease of Alcoholism has been waiting and doing pushups getting ready for another round of battle against a badly arm...	mikeco	9	609	Oct 10, 2020 by mikeco
	Courage to Change - October 9 - Surrender (Preview) The author of today's share did not want to admit defeat. That is how they viewed powerlessness -- losing the battle and submitting to the enemy. In Al-Anon, they learned that surrender does not mean submission, it means to stop fighting reality and to stop doing the higher power's job. Surrender...	Freetime	4	1480	Oct 9, 2020 by Freetime
	Progress, not perfection... (Preview) Thanks for listening... My live is taking turns in the right direction. I have been wanting to write a book for a few years. My goal was to produce 200 to 400 copies. I kept working- so I could pay for the printing... and never seemed to make it. The book is about a 19th century character. He was in convic...	DavidG	2	1196	Oct 9, 2020 by Skorpi
	Newbie again picking up the solutions from the past. (Preview) I am not really surprised at the relapse I got kicked by and the outcome. I am back in the neighborhood where this all began; disease awareness and recovery learning and work. I am surprised how disrespectful and nasty it is in hanging on to each and every fault it used to take me down and then attempt t...	JerryF	8	1228	Oct 8, 2020 by JerryF
	Struggling to keep perspective (Preview) My father is dying. Stage 4 metastatic laryngeal cancer. He is an alcoholic but over the last few years had made great strides in controlling the amount he drank (he finally quit entirely at his diagnosis 4 months ago). As a result of his effort to control his disease our relationship was able to grow an...	Twinkies	8	588	Oct 8, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change October 7 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflects on life before Al-Anon. The author felt as though life was on hold. They wanted change, and tried to MAKE it happen, but the changes the author wanted weren't changes in their power to make. The author is an action-taker, and feels better when doing so...	Skorpi	4	459	Oct 7, 2020 by Maresie888
	10/6/20 Courage 2 Change: AlAnon for Life (Preview) Today's page reminds us that AlAnon is not a single use service but of great value if used throughout our life. We change, life changes, but we will never run out of character defects or need for spiritual reassessment.The author remembered this after having slipped into an unhappy state of thinking...	Enigmatic	4	428	Oct 6, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 10/5 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 10/5, reminds us that to Think gives us the choice about where to put our attention. At times our thoughts may be on depression, doom sayings, and/or complaining, but its much more productive to look for positive qualities in ourselves, our circumstances, and in other human...	Lyne	3	1454	Oct 5, 2020 by JerryF
	Hope for Today Oct 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about breaking the big picture into smaller steps, especially as it applies to making changes in our lives. The writer uses a metaphor about having old and out of date wallpaper up in the kitchen. Rather than replace it, the writer begins to accept it so that h...	yanksfan51	3	1149	Oct 4, 2020 by Iamhere
	So Happy Birthday any way... (Preview) That is for my wife who is an Al-Anon member and worker of the program also. She wanted to keep the info anonymous but isn't my Higher Power I get to spill the beans now and then again later just to let her know I am still in the house and family and a recovering man to deal with...LOL We celebrate the same...	JerryF	6	481	Oct 4, 2020 by Hoot Nanny
	Z00M....DIFFERENT BUT SAME. (Preview) Just finished our weekly Thursday ZOOM facebook meeting and as usual for me as a gift from HP it was a winner. Grateful to have it and suggest we all make use of it. ((((hugs))))	JerryF	5	1089	Oct 3, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 10/2 (Preview) Service and recovery -- the author of today's page finds that service to the Al-Anon group is essential to personal recovery, specifically because it brings them into contact with newcomers, which is a reminder of what is really important. Remembering what it was like to first come into Al-Anon, t...	Freetime	4	465	Oct 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	SATURDAY 10/3/2020 (Preview) Today I felt like taking/sharing knowledge from The Language of Letting Go - by Melody Beattie Getting Through the Discomfort "Our goal in recovery is to make ourselves feel comfortable, peaceful, content. Happy. We want to be at peace with ourselves and our environment. Sometimes, to do that, we n...	PosiesandPuppies	1	343	Oct 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Sept 27 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power of service within the program. The writer details coming to the program and finding a place where our opinions mattered. Encouraged to be part of the service, the writer realized this could take the form of everything from setting up/breakin...	yanksfan51	4	389	Oct 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 10/1 (Preview) Today's reading is about one of our tools - the support through fellowship when we are in need. The writing suggests that racing and crashing thoughts going through our minds - memories, broken promises, fears about the future, failed expectations of self & others - familiar chaos that we can n...	Iamhere	3	375	Oct 1, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change September 30 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the slogan "Just for today" - There are many things to try out, just for today - a new behavior, a different point of view, a pattern of behavior, a more positive response. The author suggests that maybe, life is a series of experiments in which some succeed and...	Skorpi	4	402	Sep 30, 2020 by DavidG
	Advice to avoid projecting (Preview) Hi everyone, hoping to get your advice on this. My younger brother has been struggling with alcohol use for a few years, but things have been significantly worse the last couple months. I don't think he would meet the criteria for alcoholism, but there are many concerning signs--drinking alone, dr...	Andrea253	8	556	Sep 30, 2020 by Iamhere
	9/29/20 ODAT – Listen and Learn (Preview) Can we Listen and Learn from all shares in AlAnon? Today's writer first thought not, as not all in AlAnon follow suggestions such as not giving advice to others, or they may choose to constantly blame the alcoholic for how they feel.The page suggests, however, that this is the perfect time to analyze o...	Enigmatic	2	446	Sep 30, 2020 by Iamhere
	Saying goodbye (Preview) I said goodbye to my mom tonight. Said what I had to say. She heard me. She is non responsive. Can't say much more but my family is coming up even though it is not a good idea. I need support as I go through this journey.	Hoot Nanny	4	375	Sep 30, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	My mom...she's headed down that path (Preview) For all you who don't my story: I have been going down the path of letting go of my mom for several years now. She has been fighting mental illness for a long time as well. Now the time has come to really starting to say my final goodbyes. She is failing & is about 200 miles away from me in assisted living....	Hoot Nanny	5	419	Sep 29, 2020 by Jen
	COURAGE TO CHANGE Sept 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C is about feelings. The book talks about when the author first came to Al-Anon... the feelings they had, anger, resentment, fear, jealousy were all wrapped up in one adjective, "bad." Al-Anon helped the author to see and to understand that feelings are neither goo...	PosiesandPuppies	13	1280	Sep 29, 2020 by Enigmatic
	ODAT in alanon, 9/28 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/28, reflects upon why we go to alanon: to learn about alcoholism and its devastating results, that there is no cure, but sobriety is possible through AA, WHEN THE ALCOHOLIC IS READY. We also learn that we too, went downhill, and an honest appraisal of ourselves leads to imp...	Lyne	5	385	Sep 28, 2020 by Maresie888
	Yippee... (Preview) I have a letter on my table... three foolscap pages of neatly written words... I have always loved letter- from when i was a kid- both sending and receiving... My nephew's partner responded to a card I sent to her treatment centre. Have been there myself, [as a family member] i saw the need for outsi...	DavidG	5	415	Sep 28, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change 9/24 (Preview) Happy Thursday MIP family. Today's reading discusses how working the program helps us place our problems in true perspective. The quote of the day is from the Al-Anon suggested welcome - ". . . As we learn to place our problem in its true perspective, we find it loses its power to dominate our thought...	Iamhere	3	529	Sep 27, 2020 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change - September 25 (Preview) Step Three -- the author of today's page takes it over and over again, but usually waits until a problem is overwhelming before turning it over to the care of a Higher Power. The author is working on placing their entire will and life into their Higher Power's hands willingly, no matter what, writing "....	Freetime	6	1217	Sep 27, 2020 by mamalioness
	AA Alanon/Recovery Pamphlet P-15 (Preview) I haven't seen or read this pamphlet for a long time. My wife had it in her literature for a while and handed it to me this evening as I was reading Al-Anon literature. The title is THREE VIEWS OF AL-ANON...Alcoholics Speak to the Family. It was composed for Al-Anon by AA and is very telling. I believ...	JerryF	4	2272	Sep 26, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	What happened? (Preview) I haven't been on here in a very long time I think. I am curious why I am unable to get on the mobile app? I just wonder. Things are better in my life after a lot of setbacks. I really need to get back on track. I have been trying to live w faith over fear. It has been easier w time. I feel some sense of relief. I have...	Hoot Nanny	2	779	Sep 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	Doing it the hard way compulsively (Preview) One of the charecteristics of being in a relationship with an alcoholic is having a hard time. No matter what the alcoholic seems to.make life harder, much much harder. I already have a full olate. In a oandemic year that can put someone over the edge. This is a tine for me to be even mire cautious. In my...	Maresie888	0	1019	Sep 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	Step 11... (Preview) Hi y'all... Spring is here- but the mornings are still cool. So I did my Step 11 in bed- stretched out like a cat. A good healthy cough often kicks starts my day. I have done a lot of breathing work over the last 5 years. Much more idea now of how a healthy body works. I do my meditation when I wake up- and do...	DavidG	3	3121	Sep 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change Sept. 23 (Preview) Hello MIP! Another perfectly timed C2C reading for me today! In today's reading, the author reflects on one of their character flaws - responding in kind to behavior directed at the author. Reacting to insults with insults, or rudeness with rudeness. One day, the author noticed that an Al-Anon fri...	Skorpi	4	1267	Sep 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	Happy Birthday Jerry and C2C for 9/19 (Preview) I am blessed and humbled to celebrate my birthday with my brother from another mother, Jerry! Happy, happy birthday brother - please know I am extremely grateful to have you be a part of my journey! May this day be lovely for you and me and all of MIP. I am posting the daily for 9/19, Saturday, for PnP. Sh...	Iamhere	23	1900	Sep 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	Pity Party (Preview) To be honest, I got stuck in a bad place for a few weeks. I have had multiple stressors, none life-threatening, but I couldnt overcome my defeatist mind set. This hasnt happened to me in several years. Usually my tools kick right in and Im back on track. I have focused hard especially on acceptance o...	Lyne	3	1503	Sep 23, 2020 by Iamhere
	9/22/20 ODAT - Giant, Terrifying Dust Mites (Preview) What we choose to focus on determines what looms largest in our mind. Today's reading reminds us that we have a choice: negatives and small annoyances that will grow into resentments, or positives that can also grow, that broaden our sense of well being and effectively reduce the influence and appea...	Enigmatic	4	346	Sep 23, 2020 by DavidG
	My Brothers death from liver cirrhosis (Preview) My Brothers death from liver cirrhosis Hi everyone. Id like to share my story which is still very raw but this feels like the right place and the right time. My brother was an alcoholic for some years. It only became apparent to what extent around 2.5 years ago though. This was when him and his wife se...	Ems298	6	4182	Sep 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	A Saturday share... clutter and an uncluttered mind... (Preview) Kia ora koutou... Howdy y'all... ... Generally I would get up on Saturday morning and share something. It is much later in the day now. Being a member of this group is like having four or more meetings a week. The scope is immense. And our members are drawn from every point in the globe- a great contras...	DavidG	11	1652	Sep 21, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 9/21 (Preview) For Monday, 9/21, the writer talks about dreading change and being comfortable with chaos. Since change is inevitable, the author decided not to assume that change is bad. Actually, they see that changes have had a positive effect, such as coming to alanon. The writer still has many fears, but tr...	Lyne	4	386	Sep 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope For Today - September 18 (Preview) The author of today's reading in Hope for Today came into Al-Anon not interested in a Higher Power and skeptical of all the God references in the Twelve Steps. They didn't think they wanted or needed a higher power. Others in the program shared their own experiences without telling the author what to...	Freetime	4	495	Sep 20, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Sept 20 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a description of the reason we come together in Alanon. The writer describes feeling different when he/she began attending meetings. It is difficult for the writer to see any similarity between him-her/self and others in the meetings. Although there was a...	yanksfan51	4	341	Sep 20, 2020 by JerryF
	What is this lonliness feeling? (Preview) So while going through the process of divorcing my AH we are still in the same house. Every day I get my guilt trip lectures from 15 minutes to an hour, then switches to begging and pleading, then repeat. On the days and nights he decides to argue with me that it's my fault and leave to a friend's house, I a...	Kokopelli	5	754	Sep 20, 2020 by newnoz
	Hey Everybody!!! (Preview) Hey everyone!! Missed you guys, and after Linda went to nursing home, I really began to THINK, reflect on WHY so many back spasms, bee stings, seems my body was under some "attack" the bee sting was my not paying attention but the spasms, I truly believe are stored pain, trying to get out With no Linda to...	mamalioness	13	3258	Sep 18, 2020 by mamalioness
	Gratitude to Iamhere and Freetime (Preview) When Betty passed away, I felt like the entire bottom of this boat got blown away...Didn't know what to do or what to think, didn't know if I even wanted to hang out here at all. But BOTH of you have done such a great job, not taking her place as that is hers, noone could do that, but you two have filled her spac...	mamalioness	5	3329	Sep 18, 2020 by mamalioness
	I am powerless over this disease. I am done trying to pretend I can manage it. Decided I need to file for divorce. (Preview) Today is a strange day. I finally realized that I am not going to be more clever than Alcoholism. For all my smarts, living with an active alcoholic is requiring too many mental (and financial) gymnastics in order to survive. So I told the spouse that we are done. He actually told me that he was going to...	Fedora	9	3627	Sep 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	Not responding as a technique (Preview) I still have to deal with my forner roommate because my dog is atayimg at his house. I am within a few weeks of being able to bring ny dog back to the building i live in. The rennovation of the building (which has been all year) is almost over For 20 years I have been friends with someone who deliberately tri...	Maresie888	6	3117	Sep 17, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change September 16 (Preview) In today's reading from courage to change, the author reflects on how, in the face of seemingly impossible problems, it is easy to believe that our most negative thoughts indicate reality. Worst-case-scenarios are plead in a convincing way, and a positive outcome seems impossible. However, the l...	Skorpi	3	3044	Sep 17, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 9/16 (Preview) Posting early for tomorrow....the reading discusses the reality that all humans want to fit in and be a part of. Balance is the key and most of us who arrived at Al-Anon affected by this disease lost our balance along the way. People pleasing becomes destructive when we ignore our own needs and sacri...	Iamhere	5	484	Sep 17, 2020 by Maresie888
	9/15/20 ODAT - Let it Go... (Preview) Today's page touches on a foundational concept of AlAnon: The level of felt Serenity is ours to control or give away, determined in part by how we choose to respond to people and situations around us.If we stop reacting to or acting upon everything that comes our way, instead choosing the factors that...	Enigmatic	5	344	Sep 15, 2020 by mamalioness
	I'm new here... where do I begin? newbie new help guidance steps (Preview) Hi, I'm new here and struggling with not being a co-dependent enabler for my dual diagnosis daughter. I know there are steps, but how do I find them? Where do I begin? I'd like to jump right in and learn as much as I can to try to make this horrific pain and devastation become less intense. I'd really like to...	Friedmom	9	4881	Sep 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	My best shot... (Preview) Our welfare authorities are called Oranga Tamariki, or OT for short. The name means "healthy children". A goal and a vision that most everyone share. My nephew and partner had had their two kids taken off of them- and they are in foster care. I won't tell their story, as such, but share mine- and the...	DavidG	3	1658	Sep 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	hard decision (Preview) So I was told yesterday that my AH wife has been going around and telling all the guys she works with that we are separated and not that we are on a trial separation as we agreed too. I guess I was the only one who was under the impression was a trial to figure out what she wanted. So I sent a text to her family so t...	Geoff	9	1521	Sep 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	ODAT in alanon, 9/7 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/7, says that we should not look for pity. We should not expect other members to tell us our resentments are justified, nor should we take aggressive action. We hopefully will learn to change the way we see our family problems, and resist aggression by using dignity and pois...	Lyne	5	1505	Sep 14, 2020 by mamalioness
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