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DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Day dawning here in the South Pacific... ...mine was a hopeless case- tired- exhausted. Angry and worse- rage. Sadness and grief beyond measure- you name it. I was in a room with other frightened people. And I stayed in this room- and other rooms for years. And it has paid off. Tomorrow we...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading focuses on why we are attracted to alcoholics. How is it that alcoholism becomes part of our lives? For a lot of us, there is a familiarity with the disease, and even with an issue that can affect our lives so negatively, we are drawn to what we know. It took me a lon...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading is from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. "There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way. Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self-esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our own power in another w...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Sometimes I feel like focusing on myself is doing something "wrong". Speaking up for myself .setting boundaries and sticking to them sometimes feels wrong. I know it's not wrong but it feels like it is at times. I can be doing pretty good and then something happens with/to somebody else and I start...

Freetime · Freetime

The exact nature of our wrongs -- that is what we admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being in Step Five. Today's reading asks what IS the exact nature of our wrongs? Is it the angry words we used, or the times we were dishonest? For the author, the exact nature of their wrongs is the self-de...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Welp - between retirement, pandemic, nice weather and this darn election - Just now realized it's Thursday - which means my day for the daily. My apologies to all - better late than never. Our reading for today starts with the thought - Sometimes what I do is less important than why I do it. An example i...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading points out an interesting result of going to meetings. The writer describes how we might have difficulty hearing our closest people- family and friends who are telling us their feelings but we may be too emotionally entrenched to hear what is being said to us. T...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of the passage on Monday, 11/2, asks about our behavior with various people. They hint at the idea that in alanon meetings, people are often cheerful, willing to accept program, and hopeful it will work for them. But what do we present to the alcoholic and our children? Do we scowl, scold...

Freetime · Freetime

The idea of being grateful to be involved with an alcoholic -- that seemed crazy to the author of today's page. It was unbelievable that people in Al-Anon seemed to be happy despite their problems -- the same problems the author had. Now, the author is a grateful member of Al-Anon. They had to hit bott...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am starting off today backwards... Today's Reminder - "Al-Anon is a program in which we find spiritual solutions to the things we are powerless to change. Today, instead of seeking relief from fear by trying to do battle with it, I will turn to my Higher Power.' Quote: "That the birds of worry and car...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Greetings MIP family. Today's reading talks about how we (and others) can justify our own unkindness or interfering where we had no business - and how easy it is to do so, and/or be offended. The author shares about unkind words from another she cares about - weight related. When she expressed how i...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares a strategy they use when faced with unpleasant realities. Rather than avoiding disappointments, sometimes the only way to achieve serenity is to be willing to accept things that we cannot change. The author's sponsor suggested that back-up plans are a good st...

a4l · a4l

I think my HP has been very very gentle and patient with me allowing me to acknowledge that truth to myself. I don't like pain, I'm scared of it and it hurts. I bought myself a $35 bottle of Marlborough Savigngon a few days ago, knowing full well it was an attempt to deny what I was doing. (A fuctioning succ...

anewdayeveryday · anewdayeveryday

The other day I Facebook messaged (bad idea to begin with, lol!) a very old friend to tell her I was really enjoying seeing pictures she posts of her new kitten. I told her I was thinking of getting one myself, because I have been. She never responded. I looked the next day and she had read my message. I a...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's Courage to Change page notes the value of coming to AlAnon and being heard after perhaps feeling trapped, desperate, and isolated. A healthy balance eventually emerges when our shares do not dominate meeting time or dive into deeply personal matters. The Traditions suggest that the wellb...

a4l · a4l

I feel overwhelming fear. It's choking me. Traditionally in relationships, the fear gets me and I run back to what hurts MD because it's familiar. But now today I can't do it even if I want to because I literally can't. I don't know why but it's like every part of my being goes, dead end ahead, dead end ahea...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Compared to more important things I have realized things are not as important as sometimes they seem. The fact that I am alive & fairly healthy is far more important than petty things like which way the toilet paper should go or where something has to go. Mind you I believe that everything has a plac...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling this morning. Sleep is minimal. I have been here before. It feels uncomfortable but I do have choices. My Mom dying has greatly effected me if course but now it comes down to me & working the program. I will trust in my Higher Power to help me through this but I have to do the footwork. I k...

DavidG · DavidG

We have a new member here... in my first group- if we had a new members, or members, we would do a Step One meeting. Basically where everyone could share their ESH- as it was on that day... ...I use social media a lot. I embraced facebook. Our community had doubled in size over the last four years. A...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on how their attitude toward others tends to return to them. If the author is impatient with others, they find they are even less patient with themselves and the world. If they are unkind to someone, defensiveness follows as the author expects others to be unki...

mamalioness · mamalioness

She was four years sober and attended our recovery groups at the church for quite some time...Live at the recovery center here in town and b4 Covid hit she had JUST gotten her new flat and was so excited to not have to live with mom anymore... yesterday, she OD'd and left behind 4 babies, all under 6 years o...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page from One Day at a Time in AlAnon draws inspiration from the slogan Easy Does It: We can not, nor should not, try to work on too many recovery concepts at once lest we become overwhelmed and discouraged.We are encouraged to take a single AlAnon recovery concept we read or hear, meditate on it...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

In the preamble to AA the sentence is #many of us tried to find an easier softer way# Most certainly many of my relationships with alcoholics were about trying to find an easier softer way. I pursued the whole notion of this vision of an easier softer way even when the relationship with the alcoholic w...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 10/26, reflects upon others criticism and unkind words which would cripple them for days. It did not occur to the writer that this was abuse and could even be untrue. They felt shame and suffered low self-esteem. And at times, the writer would respond in kind, hurting other...

anewdayeveryday · anewdayeveryday

Hi family. I'm new here. Have been carrying around 55 lbs of inflammation on my body for over year. It started in my stomach (gut). I believe I am very sensitive to what some call "narcissistic" abuse. I get inflamed when I've been exposed to too much of it. I looked up the word "inflamed" and it said "an...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone; Todays reading begins with the reaction we have when something surprises us: Wow! The writer describes this as a response to the beauty of a brand new day. What strikes the writer is the understanding that the blue sky, fall foliage and beauty of the day was not because of any...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

"The process of recovery in Al-Anon has been likened to peeling an onion. We peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But recovery always makes me think of the bark of a birch tree. The birch's bark is necessary for protection, yet as the tree grows, the bark peels away gradually on...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is the worst week so far since my mom's passing & a week after the memorial service. As some of you know that I am grieving in all kinds of ways. There is no way exactly to grieve as I am told. Now I feel like an orphan. I feel lost & lonely w/o my parents but I have been OK. A few bouts w/long periods...

MrsS · MrsS

Hello Everyone Thank you for this forum. I am new here, new to Al Anon and newly married and new to Some devastating new things I discovered about my husband recently. I've no one to talk to, and it's probably wiser. I'm not sure how this forum works or if my registration details are anonymous but I thou...

DavidG · DavidG

I think that this is a part of my Step 12. I wrote this this morning as a part of a facebook forum: Growing up in New Zealand. The producer of the short movie below- is clearly an adult child in his work. This year he actually picked up an Oscar in America!. You really don't grow up- in a situation like th...

Freetime · Freetime

The October 23 reading in Hope for Today is about "God as we understood Him." The author started out with a restrictive, one-true-religion and a judging God that was all about punishment. Coming to Al-Anon showed a whole new vision. People with differing beliefs were friendly to one another and di...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting early as I am headed to golf in the morning. The reminder: In an alcoholic environment, I had good reasons to hide my feelings, making light of serious situations, overworking, overplaying, managing to focus on everything but myself. Today I have other options. I can begin to listen to...

DavidG · DavidG

I am looking forward to f2f meetings towards the end of the year. My nearest group is 30 mins away. I have never really been a regular member- but go to 6 or 8 meetings a year. I think it is the goody-two-shoes in me still- knowing that flitting in and out of a group does not create trust. We had some grea...

DavidG · DavidG

We kiwis came from a far flung nook of the world. So, hey, we had to be fairly self-reliant away over there. There is a myth that we can make almost anything out of a piece of No. 8 wire... ...having been a farmer, of sorts, ah kin attest to that. I am still the owner of two wiltshire ewes- in a paddock ...

Skorpi · Skorpi

The author of today's reading reflects on what to do when in doubt. When in doubt, wise Al-Anon members have suggested that the author ask their higher power for clarity and help, and to trust that the request will be granted when the time is right. Today's Reminder: After years of asking only for a par...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Good morning, MIP family! Today's reading in C2C speaks of Al-Anon specifically. The author talks about as a newcomers many of us were surprised at the minimal rules of Al-Anon. Before recovery, we may have had a very strict sense of order in our lives -- the only thing that may have kept our ships afloa...

Conflicted · Conflicted

COVID and the moving to no meetings, online meetings, zoom, etc... has brought me a new insight I may not have gotten otherwise. I have listened to many speakers who talk about the connections they have through their AlAnon Group Meetings, Service, etc... I have attended since 2013 and have gone 5 ye...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a reflection on the Serenity prayer. God grant me the wisdom to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. The writer acknowledges that when first coming to alanon it was impossible to tell the...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 10/19, reminds us that we are not responsible for the workings of the universe. It is important to take care of our responsibilities and let HP do the rest. We can do the best we can, but cannot force actions to take place. Struggling and worrying are useless. Let go and let Go...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

The simplicity of a slogan does not rule out varied interpretation, sometimes fueled by long held notions.Example in today's reading: Let Go, Let God may sound to some as an easy way out: Announce abandonment of a problem over to god's care, forget about it, and it gets magically resolved.While the p...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Another beautiful send off. We let the yellow balloon go free & saw it rise into the clouds. Just for my mom. She was an Alanon member.

DavidG · DavidG

... a good start... a bit cloudy outside... cool spring... ...we had big glitch in our church. It is a tiny one, really... [church that is] [but a seemingly big glitch.] But it did work through yesterday. The senior poster and I was on opposite poles, as far as our election went on Saturday. So I too...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am never alonenever abandonednever desertednever judgednever chastisedand never without Gods aid.--Shelley"As a deer longs for flowing streams, so my soul longs for you, O God.My soul thirsts for God."Those who are lifting the world upward and onward are those who encourage more than critici...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Journaling is teaching me a lot about me and here are some tidbits of things I , with the help of my Higher Power, want/plan to do to be a better me and if I had just ONE year left to live, here are some things that came up in my journaling I would want to make it the best year I could by: learning as much as I can ho...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My mom passed away this morning. She is now finally at peace. She lived a very hard life. She was my strength at times & was even my weakness. I loved her the hardest but also very gentle. I have peace knowing that I got to say goodbye remotely. I have so many loved who are here for me. To all of you: thanks...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will continue my journey w my mom as she is laid to rest. It will be difficult but I have God have onmy side & holding my hand. My alanon sisters will be there in the front row w me as well as my mom's lovely daughters. My two beautiful sisters. Pray for me that all goes well. Love all of you the same way as y...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I am grateful today to be able to work with people who have very different viewpoints than me. Even in the middle of this crisis which had bought such suffering to.so many people . I.am able to not react but respond with no need to convert them to my view point. How grateful I am to have maturity, tact and gr...

Sad Cat · Sad Cat

I am new to this group. My first time inquiring for help to deal with an alcoholic husband who is verbally abusive and I am just beaten down. I left him to heal my heart. How do I heal from all this sadness? -- Edited by Sad Cat on Thursday 15th of October 2020 06:33:28 PM

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon speaks to the diversity of people that come into our program -- all kinds of wealth/poverty, education, personalities. It cautions members not to judge or patronize people for superficial reasons -- their clothing, manner of speech, etc. Anyone who...

DavidG · DavidG

I still have the capacity for self sabotage- or so it appears... Yesterday was a great day. In this group- maybe noticed by three of us- but highly significant for me. I am a believer in "The Butterfly Effect". How a small but significant change can lead to greater things. For me it was a si...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's daily talks about forgiveness and suggests that it is the most loving form of detachment we can find. Instead of thinking of forgiveness as an eraser to wipe another's slate clean or a gavel that we pound to pronounce someone 'not guilty', the writer suggests we could view forgiveness as...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on a quote: "Do not search for the truth, only cease to cherish opinions." For today's author, ceasing to cherish opinions is tied directly to step 10 (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author has a tendenc...

DavidG · DavidG

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mamalioness · mamalioness

I never asked this question, but I am wondering if you can mute or block someone on private message....I had this REALLY WEIRD exchange with someone with whom I thought I was sorta OK , but that changed over, Lord knows what...I am NOT unsafe, but the exchange had a "cringe" factor to it... -- Edited...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Hi fellow friends, I am struggling again (but I know it's part of my recovery and progress not perfection). Long story short, but I have been separated from my AH for nearly 2 months now and while I had hoped to feel happiness, I am struggling again to fully let go. I realise that because of my past, I hav...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Went to gym to literally drown my sorrows in the pool...swam hard for about 45 minutes and as I was leaving, my friends , the managers, Trina and Trey both yelled "how are ya Rosie???" I walked over to them and said "horrible...the last of my sisters passed away" and we talked and Trina just grabbed m...

mamalioness · mamalioness

She was Patricia Godfrey Lowe, she died Sept. 25th from cancer...her daughter , Deb, didn't know how to find me so she hacked into her mom's facebook account and told me Now I have no sisters left...Patsy was not my bio sister, but when i was 12 and got real good at running away, she and Gini, her younger s...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I have heard the J.A.D.E. akronym on overseas forums- but never in NZ. So I never paid much need to it- until recently. I suppose I do need it now- so I embrace it- and make it my own... I have a little trouble with one part of it- the "E". I always like to explain things- myself, etc... I know...

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	Saturday Share Step 12... (Preview) Hi y'all... Day dawning here in the South Pacific... ...mine was a hopeless case- tired- exhausted. Angry and worse- rage. Sadness and grief beyond measure- you name it. I was in a room with other frightened people. And I stayed in this room- and other rooms for years. And it has paid off. Tomorrow we...	DavidG	4	630	Nov 9, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Nov 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading focuses on why we are attracted to alcoholics. How is it that alcoholism becomes part of our lives? For a lot of us, there is a familiarity with the disease, and even with an issue that can affect our lives so negatively, we are drawn to what we know. It took me a lon...	yanksfan51	8	645	Nov 8, 2020 by yanksfan51
	THE DAILY - Sat 11/7/20 (Preview) Today's reading is from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. "There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way. Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self-esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our own power in another w...	PosiesandPuppies	5	555	Nov 8, 2020 by a4l
	I'm Not Doing Anything Wrong (Preview) Sometimes I feel like focusing on myself is doing something "wrong". Speaking up for myself .setting boundaries and sticking to them sometimes feels wrong. I know it's not wrong but it feels like it is at times. I can be doing pretty good and then something happens with/to somebody else and I start...	SunnyFrogs	8	4658	Nov 6, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change - November 6 (Preview) The exact nature of our wrongs -- that is what we admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being in Step Five. Today's reading asks what IS the exact nature of our wrongs? Is it the angry words we used, or the times we were dishonest? For the author, the exact nature of their wrongs is the self-de...	Freetime	5	3485	Nov 6, 2020 by Iamhere
	C2C - 11/5 (Preview) Welp - between retirement, pandemic, nice weather and this darn election - Just now realized it's Thursday - which means my day for the daily. My apologies to all - better late than never. Our reading for today starts with the thought - Sometimes what I do is less important than why I do it. An example i...	Iamhere	5	5457	Nov 6, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Nov 1 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading points out an interesting result of going to meetings. The writer describes how we might have difficulty hearing our closest people- family and friends who are telling us their feelings but we may be too emotionally entrenched to hear what is being said to us. T...	yanksfan51	8	6292	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 11/2 (Preview) The author of the passage on Monday, 11/2, asks about our behavior with various people. They hint at the idea that in alanon meetings, people are often cheerful, willing to accept program, and hopeful it will work for them. But what do we present to the alcoholic and our children? Do we scowl, scold...	Lyne	4	5039	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change, 10/30 (Preview) The idea of being grateful to be involved with an alcoholic -- that seemed crazy to the author of today's page. It was unbelievable that people in Al-Anon seemed to be happy despite their problems -- the same problems the author had. Now, the author is a grateful member of Al-Anon. They had to hit bott...	Freetime	8	5248	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	COURAGE TO CHANGE SATURDAY 10/31 (Preview) I am starting off today backwards... Today's Reminder - "Al-Anon is a program in which we find spiritual solutions to the things we are powerless to change. Today, instead of seeking relief from fear by trying to do battle with it, I will turn to my Higher Power.' Quote: "That the birds of worry and car...	PosiesandPuppies	4	606	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C - 10/29 (Preview) Greetings MIP family. Today's reading talks about how we (and others) can justify our own unkindness or interfering where we had no business - and how easy it is to do so, and/or be offended. The author shares about unkind words from another she cares about - weight related. When she expressed how i...	Iamhere	3	4708	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change November 4 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares a strategy they use when faced with unpleasant realities. Rather than avoiding disappointments, sometimes the only way to achieve serenity is to be willing to accept things that we cannot change. The author's sponsor suggested that back-up plans are a good st...	Skorpi	4	1259	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	I don't like pain. (Preview) I think my HP has been very very gentle and patient with me allowing me to acknowledge that truth to myself. I don't like pain, I'm scared of it and it hurts. I bought myself a $35 bottle of Marlborough Savigngon a few days ago, knowing full well it was an attempt to deny what I was doing. (A fuctioning succ...	a4l	15	4348	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	it feels so good when I'm honest. (Preview) The other day I Facebook messaged (bad idea to begin with, lol!) a very old friend to tell her I was really enjoying seeing pictures she posts of her new kitten. I told her I was thinking of getting one myself, because I have been. She never responded. I looked the next day and she had read my message. I a...	anewdayeveryday	3	1920	Nov 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	11/3/20 Courage to Change (Preview) Today's Courage to Change page notes the value of coming to AlAnon and being heard after perhaps feeling trapped, desperate, and isolated. A healthy balance eventually emerges when our shares do not dominate meeting time or dive into deeply personal matters. The Traditions suggest that the wellb...	Enigmatic	4	610	Nov 3, 2020 by Iamhere
	Feeling Terrified (Preview) I feel overwhelming fear. It's choking me. Traditionally in relationships, the fear gets me and I run back to what hurts MD because it's familiar. But now today I can't do it even if I want to because I literally can't. I don't know why but it's like every part of my being goes, dead end ahead, dead end ahea...	a4l	16	2686	Nov 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	How important is it? (Preview) Compared to more important things I have realized things are not as important as sometimes they seem. The fact that I am alive & fairly healthy is far more important than petty things like which way the toilet paper should go or where something has to go. Mind you I believe that everything has a plac...	Hoot Nanny	4	653	Nov 2, 2020 by Lyne
	My recovery process (Preview) I am struggling this morning. Sleep is minimal. I have been here before. It feels uncomfortable but I do have choices. My Mom dying has greatly effected me if course but now it comes down to me & working the program. I will trust in my Higher Power to help me through this but I have to do the footwork. I k...	Hoot Nanny	3	2496	Nov 1, 2020 by Maresie888
	Saturday Share.... (Preview) We have a new member here... in my first group- if we had a new members, or members, we would do a Step One meeting. Basically where everyone could share their ESH- as it was on that day... ...I use social media a lot. I embraced facebook. Our community had doubled in size over the last four years. A...	DavidG	6	2631	Oct 30, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change October 28 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on how their attitude toward others tends to return to them. If the author is impatient with others, they find they are even less patient with themselves and the world. If they are unkind to someone, defensiveness follows as the author expects others to be unki...	Skorpi	5	893	Oct 29, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	One of my recovery girls OD'd yesterday (Preview) She was four years sober and attended our recovery groups at the church for quite some time...Live at the recovery center here in town and b4 Covid hit she had JUST gotten her new flat and was so excited to not have to live with mom anymore... yesterday, she OD'd and left behind 4 babies, all under 6 years o...	mamalioness	9	3478	Oct 28, 2020 by mikeco
	10/27/20 ODAT Rome Was Not Built in a Day (Preview) Today's page from One Day at a Time in AlAnon draws inspiration from the slogan Easy Does It: We can not, nor should not, try to work on too many recovery concepts at once lest we become overwhelmed and discouraged.We are encouraged to take a single AlAnon recovery concept we read or hear, meditate on it...	Enigmatic	4	1932	Oct 28, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Easier softer way (Preview) In the preamble to AA the sentence is #many of us tried to find an easier softer way# Most certainly many of my relationships with alcoholics were about trying to find an easier softer way. I pursued the whole notion of this vision of an easier softer way even when the relationship with the alcoholic w...	Maresie888	2	1977	Oct 27, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C, 10/26 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 10/26, reflects upon others criticism and unkind words which would cripple them for days. It did not occur to the writer that this was abuse and could even be untrue. They felt shame and suffered low self-esteem. And at times, the writer would respond in kind, hurting other...	Lyne	2	2056	Oct 27, 2020 by Iamhere
	Grief/Letting up painful feelings (Preview) Hi family. I'm new here. Have been carrying around 55 lbs of inflammation on my body for over year. It started in my stomach (gut). I believe I am very sensitive to what some call "narcissistic" abuse. I get inflamed when I've been exposed to too much of it. I looked up the word "inflamed" and it said "an...	anewdayeveryday	17	3305	Oct 25, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Oct 25 (Preview) Good morning Everyone; Todays reading begins with the reaction we have when something surprises us: Wow! The writer describes this as a response to the beauty of a brand new day. What strikes the writer is the understanding that the blue sky, fall foliage and beauty of the day was not because of any...	yanksfan51	2	2185	Oct 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	COURAGE TO CHANGE 10/24 (Preview) "The process of recovery in Al-Anon has been likened to peeling an onion. We peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But recovery always makes me think of the bark of a birch tree. The birch's bark is necessary for protection, yet as the tree grows, the bark peels away gradually on...	PosiesandPuppies	4	667	Oct 24, 2020 by Iamhere
	worse week so far... (Preview) This is the worst week so far since my mom's passing & a week after the memorial service. As some of you know that I am grieving in all kinds of ways. There is no way exactly to grieve as I am told. Now I feel like an orphan. I feel lost & lonely w/o my parents but I have been OK. A few bouts w/long periods...	Hoot Nanny	5	1839	Oct 24, 2020 by JerryF
	Newbie (Preview) Hello Everyone Thank you for this forum. I am new here, new to Al Anon and newly married and new to Some devastating new things I discovered about my husband recently. I've no one to talk to, and it's probably wiser. I'm not sure how this forum works or if my registration details are anonymous but I thou...	MrsS	13	5035	Oct 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	Each one of us is precious. (Preview) I think that this is a part of my Step 12. I wrote this this morning as a part of a facebook forum: Growing up in New Zealand. The producer of the short movie below- is clearly an adult child in his work. This year he actually picked up an Oscar in America!. You really don't grow up- in a situation like th...	DavidG	1	2856	Oct 24, 2020 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, October 23 (Preview) The October 23 reading in Hope for Today is about "God as we understood Him." The author started out with a restrictive, one-true-religion and a judging God that was all about punishment. Coming to Al-Anon showed a whole new vision. People with differing beliefs were friendly to one another and di...	Freetime	5	2641	Oct 23, 2020 by Iamhere
	C2C - 10/21 (Preview) Posting early as I am headed to golf in the morning. The reminder: In an alcoholic environment, I had good reasons to hide my feelings, making light of serious situations, overworking, overplaying, managing to focus on everything but myself. Today I have other options. I can begin to listen to...	Iamhere	5	2658	Oct 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	Another Alanon share... (Preview) I am looking forward to f2f meetings towards the end of the year. My nearest group is 30 mins away. I have never really been a regular member- but go to 6 or 8 meetings a year. I think it is the goody-two-shoes in me still- knowing that flitting in and out of a group does not create trust. We had some grea...	DavidG	4	5644	Oct 22, 2020 by DavidG
	The trade secret of John F. founder of the MIP groups... (Preview) We kiwis came from a far flung nook of the world. So, hey, we had to be fairly self-reliant away over there. There is a myth that we can make almost anything out of a piece of No. 8 wire... ...having been a farmer, of sorts, ah kin attest to that. I am still the owner of two wiltshire ewes- in a paddock ...	DavidG	5	1817	Oct 21, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change October 21 (Preview) The author of today's reading reflects on what to do when in doubt. When in doubt, wise Al-Anon members have suggested that the author ask their higher power for clarity and help, and to trust that the request will be granted when the time is right. Today's Reminder: After years of asking only for a par...	Skorpi	8	2587	Oct 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 10/17/20 (Preview) Good morning, MIP family! Today's reading in C2C speaks of Al-Anon specifically. The author talks about as a newcomers many of us were surprised at the minimal rules of Al-Anon. Before recovery, we may have had a very strict sense of order in our lives -- the only thing that may have kept our ships afloa...	PosiesandPuppies	11	3447	Oct 21, 2020 by DavidG
	Al-Anon Friendships (Preview) COVID and the moving to no meetings, online meetings, zoom, etc... has brought me a new insight I may not have gotten otherwise. I have listened to many speakers who talk about the connections they have through their AlAnon Group Meetings, Service, etc... I have attended since 2013 and have gone 5 ye...	Conflicted	8	3930	Oct 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Oct 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a reflection on the Serenity prayer. God grant me the wisdom to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. The writer acknowledges that when first coming to alanon it was impossible to tell the...	yanksfan51	7	3033	Oct 20, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 10/19 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 10/19, reminds us that we are not responsible for the workings of the universe. It is important to take care of our responsibilities and let HP do the rest. We can do the best we can, but cannot force actions to take place. Struggling and worrying are useless. Let go and let Go...	Lyne	5	2830	Oct 20, 2020 by Maresie888
	10/20/20 ODAT Let Go, Let God (Preview) The simplicity of a slogan does not rule out varied interpretation, sometimes fueled by long held notions.Example in today's reading: Let Go, Let God may sound to some as an easy way out: Announce abandonment of a problem over to god's care, forget about it, and it gets magically resolved.While the p...	Enigmatic	2	631	Oct 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Yellow balloon (Preview) Another beautiful send off. We let the yellow balloon go free & saw it rise into the clouds. Just for my mom. She was an Alanon member.	Hoot Nanny	3	3215	Oct 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	Monday, Monday... (Preview) ... a good start... a bit cloudy outside... cool spring... ...we had big glitch in our church. It is a tiny one, really... [church that is] [but a seemingly big glitch.] But it did work through yesterday. The senior poster and I was on opposite poles, as far as our election went on Saturday. So I too...	DavidG	4	2283	Oct 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_MONDAY (Preview) I am never alonenever abandonednever desertednever judgednever chastisedand never without Gods aid.--Shelley"As a deer longs for flowing streams, so my soul longs for you, O God.My soul thirsts for God."Those who are lifting the world upward and onward are those who encourage more than critici...	mamalioness	1	2451	Oct 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SUNDAY (Preview) "To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...	mamalioness	3	2313	Oct 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	If I was on my last year of life------ (Preview) Journaling is teaching me a lot about me and here are some tidbits of things I , with the help of my Higher Power, want/plan to do to be a better me and if I had just ONE year left to live, here are some things that came up in my journaling I would want to make it the best year I could by: learning as much as I can ho...	mamalioness	6	2937	Oct 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	M mom passed away(brief) (Preview) My mom passed away this morning. She is now finally at peace. She lived a very hard life. She was my strength at times & was even my weakness. I loved her the hardest but also very gentle. I have peace knowing that I got to say goodbye remotely. I have so many loved who are here for me. To all of you: thanks...	Hoot Nanny	15	3428	Oct 19, 2020 by Hoot Nanny
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SUNDAY (Preview) "To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh atyourself is maturity."--William A. WardTo remain young while growing old is the highest blessing.--German Proverb"Make rest a necessity, not an objective."--Jim Rohn"Action may not always bring happiness; but there i...	mamalioness	0	1987	Oct 18, 2020 by mamalioness
	Memorial service tomorrow (Preview) I will continue my journey w my mom as she is laid to rest. It will be difficult but I have God have onmy side & holding my hand. My alanon sisters will be there in the front row w me as well as my mom's lovely daughters. My two beautiful sisters. Pray for me that all goes well. Love all of you the same way as y...	Hoot Nanny	5	1967	Oct 18, 2020 by JerryF
	Gratitude (Preview) I am grateful today to be able to work with people who have very different viewpoints than me. Even in the middle of this crisis which had bought such suffering to.so many people . I.am able to not react but respond with no need to convert them to my view point. How grateful I am to have maturity, tact and gr...	Maresie888	4	716	Oct 18, 2020 by Maresie888
	how to heal (Preview) I am new to this group. My first time inquiring for help to deal with an alcoholic husband who is verbally abusive and I am just beaten down. I left him to heal my heart. How do I heal from all this sadness? -- Edited by Sad Cat on Thursday 15th of October 2020 06:33:28 PM	Sad Cat	6	920	Oct 17, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT - October 16 (Preview) Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon speaks to the diversity of people that come into our program -- all kinds of wealth/poverty, education, personalities. It cautions members not to judge or patronize people for superficial reasons -- their clothing, manner of speech, etc. Anyone who...	Freetime	4	747	Oct 16, 2020 by mamalioness
	A glitch, relapse- ugh! [Long] (Preview) I still have the capacity for self sabotage- or so it appears... Yesterday was a great day. In this group- maybe noticed by three of us- but highly significant for me. I am a believer in "The Butterfly Effect". How a small but significant change can lead to greater things. For me it was a si...	DavidG	2	679	Oct 15, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C - 10/15 (Preview) Tomorrow's daily talks about forgiveness and suggests that it is the most loving form of detachment we can find. Instead of thinking of forgiveness as an eraser to wipe another's slate clean or a gavel that we pound to pronounce someone 'not guilty', the writer suggests we could view forgiveness as...	Iamhere	6	743	Oct 15, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change October 14 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on a quote: "Do not search for the truth, only cease to cherish opinions." For today's author, ceasing to cherish opinions is tied directly to step 10 (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author has a tendenc...	Skorpi	5	931	Oct 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	This story speaks to us- our founders are heroes... (Preview) [video=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVCYeL8Uv8s&fbcl...	DavidG	5	4014	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	can you mute or block someone on Private message??? (Preview) I never asked this question, but I am wondering if you can mute or block someone on private message....I had this REALLY WEIRD exchange with someone with whom I thought I was sorta OK , but that changed over, Lord knows what...I am NOT unsafe, but the exchange had a "cringe" factor to it... -- Edited...	mamalioness	12	802	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	Re-experiencing loss (Preview) Hi fellow friends, I am struggling again (but I know it's part of my recovery and progress not perfection). Long story short, but I have been separated from my AH for nearly 2 months now and while I had hoped to feel happiness, I am struggling again to fully let go. I realise that because of my past, I hav...	Bettertomorrow	6	2360	Oct 14, 2020 by Bettertomorrow
	Sometimes, NOTHING but an old fashioned hug will do it (Preview) Went to gym to literally drown my sorrows in the pool...swam hard for about 45 minutes and as I was leaving, my friends , the managers, Trina and Trey both yelled "how are ya Rosie???" I walked over to them and said "horrible...the last of my sisters passed away" and we talked and Trina just grabbed m...	mamalioness	4	782	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	The last of my sisters died (Preview) She was Patricia Godfrey Lowe, she died Sept. 25th from cancer...her daughter , Deb, didn't know how to find me so she hacked into her mom's facebook account and told me Now I have no sisters left...Patsy was not my bio sister, but when i was 12 and got real good at running away, she and Gini, her younger s...	mamalioness	11	872	Oct 14, 2020 by mamalioness
	Getting my head around JADE (Preview) Hi y'all... I have heard the J.A.D.E. akronym on overseas forums- but never in NZ. So I never paid much need to it- until recently. I suppose I do need it now- so I embrace it- and make it my own... I have a little trouble with one part of it- the "E". I always like to explain things- myself, etc... I know...	DavidG	7	1937	Oct 14, 2020 by DavidG
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