Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

'Acceptance and surrender open all doors to AlAnon'...pretty powerful statement in today's reading, and a problem if we believe they meaning simply giving in or letting someone roll us.If I'm using the concepts as Alanon intended, Acceptance involves admitting there exist things we cannot chan...

DavidG · DavidG

I am always terrified of getting things wrong. Of course one person might say it is wrong- and the next person say it was okay. I was kicked out of home- after sticking up for my kid sister. For me it was a betrayal. A devastating experience. It was the last straw- that changed the course of my life. I be...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

So, last week we told our daughter she had to leave if she wouldn't get help. We talked and she actually said she wanted to go and had a safe place to stay. All was peaceful - until yesterday! She called her father and asked to come home, he told her yes if she would follow the rules. She came home, I typed...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/15, explores the act of forgiveness. The writer used to think that forgiveness gave them power and control over others. The thinking changed when they realized that behaving self-righteously only gave them suffering! This happens when we separate ourselves from fel...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- In todays reading the writer remembers hearing about the twelve steps being broken into four categories: steps 1-3 about giving up (admitting powerlessness), steps 4-6 about owning up (accountability), 7-9 about making up (amends) and 10-12 about keeping up (working at p...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Couple weeks ago, Nancy's daughter passed away. Heart attack. That was rough. The family came together and took care of each other. Last week, I lost a cousin who died suddenly from an aneurysm. So, I don't always like or understand god's plan for me. I take comfort knowing He walks beside me and like th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses Step Seven - Humbly asked HiWm to remove our shortcomings." Often times, we consider this step with seriousness, dread and humility. Instead, we are asked to consider joy and even humor. The author suggests that a sign that we've actually gotten humble enough to ask our...

Debb · Debb

Todays ODAT talks about living in the days of calamity and hysteria, when alcoholism rules the way we lived and approachedour daily lives. But now that we have found Al-Anon we have the opportunity to see our problems with a better sense ofproportion and balance.Todays Reminder:Now that I am in Al-...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and happy Saturday. Today's reading talks about getting our needs met and asking for help. Many of us, BR (Before Recovery), expected those close to us to know what we were feeling without us telling them. When we were angry and wanted to argue, sometimes we silently fumed. When w...

Freetime · Freetime

I couldn't decide which reading I like better, so I will share both. ODAT for March 12 says that we can be just as sick as alcoholics, with an obsession to "save" them. For our well-being, we need to learn that we cannot live another's life. When we focus on ourselves, this reading suggests, it is more...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their Al-Anon work of reversing old ways of thinking. The author had been in the habit of playing it safe, avoiding risk, and avoiding painful feelings. However, life is one risk after another, and some amount of pain is unavoidable. Ra...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page looks at a symptom of our sickness: anger and condemnation toward others, justified by a (likely unrecognized) belief that what we do is right and what others do is wrong. These (seemingly) uncontrollable outbursts offer a kind of relief, but pay us poorly over time.Reminder: When I lo...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/8, describes a vivid picture of how many of us were, upon arrival in alanon: discouraged mind, tormenting ourself, thinking in circles, feeling like there was no air, and feeling tangled and confused. Nothing seemed straight or clear. Many of us were in a constant state...

TeaP · TeaP

I have known my spouse to be an alcoholic for a decade. It became obvious his behavior was apparent to everyone- when preschool called 5yrs ago. Despite promises and low dark moments, he wont seek help. Where his low point lies- is much farther than I can follow. I reached my breaking point with him at t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: In todays reading the writer describes being surprised at something heard at a meeting: that we (friends and family of alcoholics) can find contentment and even happiness whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not. Like many of us who came to alanon, the writer figured th...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I canot believe it has been one year since Betty's untimely death. One year ago I wrote about feeling that Betty showed me great kindness and patience when I was in a terrible place. That dark hole that had swallowed me up when I first came to al anon. One year later I am writing that Betty showed me it wa...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I'm grateful for: A roof over my head Food/heat and all the basic necessities that we all take for granted All my loved ones My dog This place How about you? What are you grateful for today?

DavidG · DavidG

I always wanted to belong. To a family and to a community. I tried to force solutions- because i was so desperate. So wanting to escape deep my sense of abandonment. This group has a business board where we can discuss group based issues. It is used from time to time. I practise a certain amount o...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Thought I had forgiven everything, but the latest crisis caused by alcoholism feels unforgivable. Every day I ask my Higher Power to HELP me overcome the hurt. Any advice out there on forgiveness?

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

So I told my daughter to get help or she has to live somewhere else. It is tearing my family apart. My husband (a recovered alcoholic) has had 2 strokes and cancer and is a broken man, we can't do it anymore. My son, a recovered addict himself, is having a really hard time living with his sister and I can'...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading talks about willingness to have our shortcomings removed. The writer was concerned that without their character defects, they would be missing something. On working steps Four through Seven, it turned out that for every defect removed, an asset was uncovered. Letting go of the...

Youknowme · Youknowme

At the start of the covid crisis, (in Australia) my daughter left home. She wanted to be with her boyfriend, and the lockdown rules said that they couldn't see each other. She was gone for weeks; I was so sad. She brought me flowers a few times; it was sweet. I have OCD so when we had covid in Australia, I wa...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

I am struggling with an addicted daughter who is out of control. She totaled her car last week and the next day went out and financed another. Now because of her horrific driving record she cannot afford the insurance and wants my husband and I to cosign the loan so she can go back on ours (where she has b...

duffs · duffs

Hi everyone Thanks in advance for your support. I met my partner just under a year ago Within a few months it was obvs his drinking was a problem and he stopped in March. He told me he'd been in rehab years back but got lazy with going to AA, started casually drinking again but he does know deep down he can nev...

Debb · Debb

Todays ODAT reading speaks about when within the developments of sobriety in a family that it is not always magical and contentment. Resentments carried forward from the past may/will surface and it is suggested thatwe must be on guard and have patience that we do not lapse into feeling sorry for o...

DavidG · DavidG

After a weekend workshop. Well! Actually at the workshop... we are challenged to take the message on. I use the internet a lot- and I chose this clip- to present the programme to my local community. I was a part of building a community facebook profile- and we present all aspects of community l...

DavidG · DavidG

What next? I asked myself? 38 years in the programme so far. I have joined a network of old-timers really. Last weekend I went to an Alanon Study Day. I am a 50'd baby boomer, when I am not in the rooms. I want change- and I want it fast! One of the components on my home group breaking up- was the fact that...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the result of their Step 4 Inventory. For the author, the result was realizing that much of their behavior was immature, and a gift of the step 4 inventory was a set of goals to work toward with the help of the Al-Anon program. The author's goals incl...

runaway2020 · runaway2020

Hello, I have been with my husband for 25 years. In that time there has been repeated problems surrounding his drinking. In the past he would drink daily (a few a night and weekends he would go out and get drunk, then drive home after the bars closed closed). After a time of me expressing my concerns over t...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Thank you all for your kind feedback. I do feel that I have moved to a new level in grieving our dear friend. That was not a level I got to with many people. Growing up in an abusive home meant that the death of my parents caused ambivalence. That is yet another loss in the virtual absence of my parents. I di...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor focused on the great value of AlAnon Conference Approved Literature (CAL) in our recovery. It is a resource we can access 24/7 when a meeting, sponsor, or program friend may not be available.Not just for crisis, these pages offer wisdom and guidance straight from the source, of...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

I am just writing to vent becasue I am so frightened right now. I am no stranger to addiction (both my son (drugs) and husband (alcohol) WERE addicts) This is different it's my baby and my only little girl. She totaled her car on Tuesday (in my name of course) and went out and financed another in her nam...

Lyne · Lyne

The author for Monday, 3/1, tries to explain to us what humility is, and how confusing the concept actually is. It often brings us to resistance, we ask if we are we supposed to be submissive, and it shows us it is not intended for us to be slaves to our destructive way of life. True humility prepares us fo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today I am beginning with the quotation from the Thought for the Day: Alcoholism doesnt have to be active in my life for me to be affected by it. The writer begins by acknowledging that it took quite a while before gettin to step one, admitting powerlessness over alcohol. How cou...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Saturday MIP. Today's reading discusses how we need not design a master plan for our recovery. Instead, we are asked to humbly ask a power greater than ourselves for the guidance and willingness to follow that guidance just this one day. We learn to trust that we are not alone and we will recei...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I went to a webinar on resilience this week It was very helpful I have always defined resilience about what I survived That I didnt go under. I most certainly had a tumultuous time of of it . So here it is resilience according to this expert from Stanford is about affect regulation. soothing Most of a...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon points out that, when we hear of a fellow member experiencing cruelty or violence, we have a strong desire to give them advice -- to urge them to do what we think we would do in that intolerable situation. The problem is that not everyone is in a place or has th...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares about a very frustrating experience - going to the grocery store, only to find some shelves empty. This problem can be avoided if the grocer does an inventory and notices what is missing. The author shares that the 4th step is like this - a 4th st...

DavidG · DavidG

... Boundaries- I was told that the idea was to remove barriers and help create healthy boundaries. In my world the generational boundaries were broken -damaged. Some non-existent. So I still struggle with what a boundary is. At the moment I am thinking it might be about rituals of encounter. In my...

Debb · Debb

Todays ODAT speaks to us about the alcoholic who has reached a sobriety state and that our expectations that it is a complete transformationfor the alcoholic and our lives is not what we may expect. There still remains, struggles for them and they will still experience periods ofmoodiness and pers...

Ruskin · Ruskin

My partner of ten years has been addicted to alcohol and cannabis since I met him 12 years ago. We now have 2 young children. Throughout our relationship and childrens lives he has been unpredictable in his moods and also his presence. He can be an amazing dad and very caring and loving partner. He is hig...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Word meaning can vary widely across, even between cultures and individuals; "detach" is a good example.AlAnon's detachment is not complete disconnection of emotion, love, care. Rather, it involves removing ourselves from being unhealthily embedded (physically/emotionally) in the alcohol...

DavidG · DavidG

A few years ago my SO and I went to Stepping Stones north of NYC. This was to be a retreat for them- but there were oodles of people there- a lot of the time. I think there was hope bursting from every bud- in the woods around the house. Because we were overseas visitors- we were actually the only visito...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of the reading for Monday, 2/22, relates that making decisions were impossible because the imposed standards were too high. They only wanted to make decisions that would get them exactly what they wanted, or they preferred not to make them at all. Over time, the author learned that deci...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares that their own vision can be limited. Sometimes, it seems that the only possible outcomes are the ones we can imagine ourselves. In the author's case, thankfully, their Higher Power is not limited by the author's own lack of imagination. Som...

DavidG · DavidG

I tend to dwell on the topics here- meditate on them. Absorb them. There was a topic last week about comparisons. For three or four days I encountered dissociation... [numbing, or brain fog.] I rode with is until it cleared. Did not feel compelled to get back to Step one- and start the slow climb a...

DavidG · DavidG

I am reading the Feb 8 reading from Hope for Today. It is a timely reminder for me, because it says that we could consider putting ourselves on the list of those we had harmed. Tonight I am going to a neighbouring meeting. The mainstay of the group can't come- because she is ill. Do I go and ta...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about dealing with memories of past experiences, ones that are extremely difficult to accept and those that are more positive. The writer describes having found a safe place within alanon to deal with the pain of a childhood within a family affected by alcoh...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about unacceptable behavior. We hear early on that we don't have to accept unacceptable behavior. This helps each of us to determine what's acceptable vs. what is not. We certainly should never tolerate violence or abuse and the program helps us see we al...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author obsessed over writing their Fourth Step inventory -- working on it around the clock and fearing they would leave something out. They discovered one of their character defects was obsession. This was a reminder that they could act as insanely as an alcoholic, even when completely s...

Debb · Debb

Todays reading suggests that the Al-Anon program works if those who approach it keep an open mind and not expect overnight miracles. It goes on to remind us that it took years to create the situation we find ourselves in, and that if we are receptive and listen, instead ofbeing quick to judge, that we w...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

So it's been nearly 5 months now since I asked my AH to leave, which he did. However, and maybe it's this seemingly neverending lockdown, but I feel lonelier than ever - even though I know that I was 'alone' even when I was with him. There are times when I feel good, but times when I find myself rememberi...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page suggests that we progress substantially in our recovery when we see Alcoholism as a disease. It is often not seen as other diseases as it has no single, known cause, but can be just as destructive. We cannot cure it but are more likely able to help if we recognize it as a serious illness.Remi...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/15, talks about working the program and how one actually can accomplish this: -going to meetings and learning about alcoholism -reading the literature and listening -being around people who speak the alanon language -being patient and putting in effort Eventually prog...

JerryF · JerryF

What a pleasant wonderful morning though I woke up after fruitless sleep. It was the usual PTSD sleep process, ages old with some workable changes. I dreamt of sessions I had in the past with my deceased sponsor Don.T. on the lessons of feelings being choices. When he first mentioned that to me I se...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of simply listening to others when they are sharing. The writer describes walking with his wife and answering every statement she starts to make with a comparison from his own life. Most of her sentences were interrupted by her husband...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's Reminder: "A sponsor or trusted Al-Anon friend can help me see that I have value just as I am." The reading in Courage to Change today is about being an individual/comparing ourselves to others. Each snowflake is different... everyone has a unique thumbprint, and despite our common problem...

DavidG · DavidG

Worked last week on a project over on the coast. and had a happy weekend with my SO and pooch. A long holiday weekend for us. We had a domestic which lasted about 40 mins. This was a record for shortness. In the day these used to go on the weeks and months. Did a whole heap of washing last night. There is r...

Paloma Negra · Paloma Negra

It's been several long months since leaving my AH and in those months I've been staying with a dear friend who is like a sister to me. The clarity of looking back over the years and relationship was needed but (and I was warned about the possibility of this happening) but living with my friend has brought...

JerryF · JerryF

Got up this AM with work to do that I had pending for 3 days by inventory. I had to finish the inventory with some self centered behavior I relapsed into days ago. It didn't feel fair, just and honest and most of that was due to letting it linger. My mind body and spirit kept me focused on the subject and I...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	3/16/21 ODAT in AlAnon – Acceptance, Surrender…Weakness? (Preview) 'Acceptance and surrender open all doors to AlAnon'...pretty powerful statement in today's reading, and a problem if we believe they meaning simply giving in or letting someone roll us.If I'm using the concepts as Alanon intended, Acceptance involves admitting there exist things we cannot chan...	Enigmatic	4	3859	Mar 16, 2021 by Iamhere
	Boundaries in Alanon- fear... (Preview) I am always terrified of getting things wrong. Of course one person might say it is wrong- and the next person say it was okay. I was kicked out of home- after sticking up for my kid sister. For me it was a betrayal. A devastating experience. It was the last straw- that changed the course of my life. I be...	DavidG	6	610	Mar 16, 2021 by DavidG
	She's Back (Preview) So, last week we told our daughter she had to leave if she wouldn't get help. We talked and she actually said she wanted to go and had a safe place to stay. All was peaceful - until yesterday! She called her father and asked to come home, he told her yes if she would follow the rules. She came home, I typed...	mamamary1964	17	3588	Mar 15, 2021 by mamamary1964
	C2C, 3/15 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/15, explores the act of forgiveness. The writer used to think that forgiveness gave them power and control over others. The thinking changed when they realized that behaving self-righteously only gave them suffering! This happens when we separate ourselves from fel...	Lyne	3	1944	Mar 15, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today March 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone- In todays reading the writer remembers hearing about the twelve steps being broken into four categories: steps 1-3 about giving up (admitting powerlessness), steps 4-6 about owning up (accountability), 7-9 about making up (amends) and 10-12 about keeping up (working at p...	yanksfan51	4	2876	Mar 14, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	Lemons and Peaches (Preview) Couple weeks ago, Nancy's daughter passed away. Heart attack. That was rough. The family came together and took care of each other. Last week, I lost a cousin who died suddenly from an aneurysm. So, I don't always like or understand god's plan for me. I take comfort knowing He walks beside me and like th...	Wolfie55	6	523	Mar 14, 2021 by JerryF
	C2C 3/13 (Preview) Today's reading discusses Step Seven - Humbly asked HiWm to remove our shortcomings." Often times, we consider this step with seriousness, dread and humility. Instead, we are asked to consider joy and even humor. The author suggests that a sign that we've actually gotten humble enough to ask our...	Iamhere	3	1347	Mar 14, 2021 by Lyne
	March 11, 2021 – ODAT – We No Longer Despair (Preview) Todays ODAT talks about living in the days of calamity and hysteria, when alcoholism rules the way we lived and approachedour daily lives. But now that we have found Al-Anon we have the opportunity to see our problems with a better sense ofproportion and balance.Todays Reminder:Now that I am in Al-...	Debb	6	2917	Mar 13, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 3/6 (Preview) Good morning MIP and happy Saturday. Today's reading talks about getting our needs met and asking for help. Many of us, BR (Before Recovery), expected those close to us to know what we were feeling without us telling them. When we were angry and wanted to argue, sometimes we silently fumed. When w...	Iamhere	2	1582	Mar 13, 2021 by Lyne
	March 12 - C2C and ODAT (Preview) I couldn't decide which reading I like better, so I will share both. ODAT for March 12 says that we can be just as sick as alcoholics, with an obsession to "save" them. For our well-being, we need to learn that we cannot live another's life. When we focus on ourselves, this reading suggests, it is more...	Freetime	4	787	Mar 12, 2021 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change March 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their Al-Anon work of reversing old ways of thinking. The author had been in the habit of playing it safe, avoiding risk, and avoiding painful feelings. However, life is one risk after another, and some amount of pain is unavoidable. Ra...	Skorpi	6	599	Mar 10, 2021 by JerryF
	3/9/21 ODAT in AlAnon – Anger (Preview) Today's page looks at a symptom of our sickness: anger and condemnation toward others, justified by a (likely unrecognized) belief that what we do is right and what others do is wrong. These (seemingly) uncontrollable outbursts offer a kind of relief, but pay us poorly over time.Reminder: When I lo...	Enigmatic	6	465	Mar 9, 2021 by DavidG
	ODAT in alanon, 3/8 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/8, describes a vivid picture of how many of us were, upon arrival in alanon: discouraged mind, tormenting ourself, thinking in circles, feeling like there was no air, and feeling tangled and confused. Nothing seemed straight or clear. Many of us were in a constant state...	Lyne	6	417	Mar 9, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	Moving forward? Or standing still? (Preview) I have known my spouse to be an alcoholic for a decade. It became obvious his behavior was apparent to everyone- when preschool called 5yrs ago. Despite promises and low dark moments, he wont seek help. Where his low point lies- is much farther than I can follow. I reached my breaking point with him at t...	TeaP	4	619	Mar 9, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today March 7 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: In todays reading the writer describes being surprised at something heard at a meeting: that we (friends and family of alcoholics) can find contentment and even happiness whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not. Like many of us who came to alanon, the writer figured th...	yanksfan51	6	1619	Mar 7, 2021 by Iamhere
	Betty 2021 (Preview) I canot believe it has been one year since Betty's untimely death. One year ago I wrote about feeling that Betty showed me great kindness and patience when I was in a terrible place. That dark hole that had swallowed me up when I first came to al anon. One year later I am writing that Betty showed me it wa...	Maresie888	9	1085	Mar 7, 2021 by DavidG
	Today I Am Grateful... (Preview) I'm grateful for: A roof over my head Food/heat and all the basic necessities that we all take for granted All my loved ones My dog This place How about you? What are you grateful for today?	SunnyFrogs	10	486	Mar 7, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Group conscience- thoughts and hopes... Tradition 2. (Preview) I always wanted to belong. To a family and to a community. I tried to force solutions- because i was so desperate. So wanting to escape deep my sense of abandonment. This group has a business board where we can discuss group based issues. It is used from time to time. I practise a certain amount o...	DavidG	2	400	Mar 7, 2021 by Lyne
	Forgiving my AH (Preview) Thought I had forgiven everything, but the latest crisis caused by alcoholism feels unforgivable. Every day I ask my Higher Power to HELP me overcome the hurt. Any advice out there on forgiveness?	Bbrave	10	1651	Mar 7, 2021 by duffs
	Set my boundaries but feeling sick over it (Preview) So I told my daughter to get help or she has to live somewhere else. It is tearing my family apart. My husband (a recovered alcoholic) has had 2 strokes and cancer and is a broken man, we can't do it anymore. My son, a recovered addict himself, is having a really hard time living with his sister and I can'...	mamamary1964	8	1439	Mar 6, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change, March 5 - To Remove Our Shortcomings (Preview) Today's reading talks about willingness to have our shortcomings removed. The writer was concerned that without their character defects, they would be missing something. On working steps Four through Seven, it turned out that for every defect removed, an asset was uncovered. Letting go of the...	Freetime	9	1880	Mar 5, 2021 by DavidG
	And while we are at it (Preview) At the start of the covid crisis, (in Australia) my daughter left home. She wanted to be with her boyfriend, and the lockdown rules said that they couldn't see each other. She was gone for weeks; I was so sad. She brought me flowers a few times; it was sweet. I have OCD so when we had covid in Australia, I wa...	Youknowme	1	1516	Mar 5, 2021 by Debb
	The Addict and the Law (Preview) I am struggling with an addicted daughter who is out of control. She totaled her car last week and the next day went out and financed another. Now because of her horrific driving record she cannot afford the insurance and wants my husband and I to cosign the loan so she can go back on ours (where she has b...	mamamary1964	6	1246	Mar 5, 2021 by TeaP
	My partner has fallen off the wagon- I'm a newbie ! (Preview) Hi everyone Thanks in advance for your support. I met my partner just under a year ago Within a few months it was obvs his drinking was a problem and he stopped in March. He told me he'd been in rehab years back but got lazy with going to AA, started casually drinking again but he does know deep down he can nev...	duffs	15	2867	Mar 4, 2021 by duffs
	March 4, 2021 – ODAT – Guarding Against Impatience (Preview) Todays ODAT reading speaks about when within the developments of sobriety in a family that it is not always magical and contentment. Resentments carried forward from the past may/will surface and it is suggested thatwe must be on guard and have patience that we do not lapse into feeling sorry for o...	Debb	5	648	Mar 4, 2021 by duffs
	Learning to pass it on... (Preview) After a weekend workshop. Well! Actually at the workshop... we are challenged to take the message on. I use the internet a lot- and I chose this clip- to present the programme to my local community. I was a part of building a community facebook profile- and we present all aspects of community l...	DavidG	1	1234	Mar 3, 2021 by Debb
	Mystory... Step one and step ten... (Preview) What next? I asked myself? 38 years in the programme so far. I have joined a network of old-timers really. Last weekend I went to an Alanon Study Day. I am a 50'd baby boomer, when I am not in the rooms. I want change- and I want it fast! One of the components on my home group breaking up- was the fact that...	DavidG	1	1152	Mar 3, 2021 by Debb
	Courage to Change March 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the result of their Step 4 Inventory. For the author, the result was realizing that much of their behavior was immature, and a gift of the step 4 inventory was a set of goals to work toward with the help of the Al-Anon program. The author's goals incl...	Skorpi	3	1633	Mar 3, 2021 by Debb
	Boundaries help. New here (Preview) Hello, I have been with my husband for 25 years. In that time there has been repeated problems surrounding his drinking. In the past he would drink daily (a few a night and weekends he would go out and get drunk, then drive home after the bars closed closed). After a time of me expressing my concerns over t...	runaway2020	9	2064	Mar 3, 2021 by Skorpi
	Betty 2021 (Preview) Thank you all for your kind feedback. I do feel that I have moved to a new level in grieving our dear friend. That was not a level I got to with many people. Growing up in an abusive home meant that the death of my parents caused ambivalence. That is yet another loss in the virtual absence of my parents. I di...	Maresie888	2	415	Mar 2, 2021 by DavidG
	3/2/21 Courage 2 Change - Pages of Gold (Preview) Today's contributor focused on the great value of AlAnon Conference Approved Literature (CAL) in our recovery. It is a resource we can access 24/7 when a meeting, sponsor, or program friend may not be available.Not just for crisis, these pages offer wisdom and guidance straight from the source, of...	Enigmatic	6	419	Mar 2, 2021 by DavidG
	21 Drug Addicted Daughter (Preview) I am just writing to vent becasue I am so frightened right now. I am no stranger to addiction (both my son (drugs) and husband (alcohol) WERE addicts) This is different it's my baby and my only little girl. She totaled her car on Tuesday (in my name of course) and went out and financed another in her nam...	mamamary1964	5	703	Mar 2, 2021 by mamamary1964
	Monday, 3/1, ODAT in alanon (Preview) The author for Monday, 3/1, tries to explain to us what humility is, and how confusing the concept actually is. It often brings us to resistance, we ask if we are we supposed to be submissive, and it shows us it is not intended for us to be slaves to our destructive way of life. True humility prepares us fo...	Lyne	3	402	Mar 1, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Feb 28 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today I am beginning with the quotation from the Thought for the Day: Alcoholism doesnt have to be active in my life for me to be affected by it. The writer begins by acknowledging that it took quite a while before gettin to step one, admitting powerlessness over alcohol. How cou...	yanksfan51	7	1618	Feb 28, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	Courage to Change 2//27 (Preview) Happy Saturday MIP. Today's reading discusses how we need not design a master plan for our recovery. Instead, we are asked to humbly ask a power greater than ourselves for the guidance and willingness to follow that guidance just this one day. We learn to trust that we are not alone and we will recei...	Iamhere	4	438	Feb 28, 2021 by Debb
	Resilience (Preview) I went to a webinar on resilience this week It was very helpful I have always defined resilience about what I survived That I didnt go under. I most certainly had a tumultuous time of of it . So here it is resilience according to this expert from Stanford is about affect regulation. soothing Most of a...	Maresie888	5	1395	Feb 27, 2021 by DavidG
	ODAT - February 26 - Safety First (Preview) Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon points out that, when we hear of a fellow member experiencing cruelty or violence, we have a strong desire to give them advice -- to urge them to do what we think we would do in that intolerable situation. The problem is that not everyone is in a place or has th...	Freetime	2	2603	Feb 26, 2021 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change February 24 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares about a very frustrating experience - going to the grocery store, only to find some shelves empty. This problem can be avoided if the grocer does an inventory and notices what is missing. The author shares that the 4th step is like this - a 4th st...	Skorpi	13	2003	Feb 26, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	B-b-b-boundaries... (Preview) ... Boundaries- I was told that the idea was to remove barriers and help create healthy boundaries. In my world the generational boundaries were broken -damaged. Some non-existent. So I still struggle with what a boundary is. At the moment I am thinking it might be about rituals of encounter. In my...	DavidG	5	3166	Feb 26, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	February 25, 2021 – ODAT - Sobriety and Transformation (Preview) Todays ODAT speaks to us about the alcoholic who has reached a sobriety state and that our expectations that it is a complete transformationfor the alcoholic and our lives is not what we may expect. There still remains, struggles for them and they will still experience periods ofmoodiness and pers...	Debb	6	2267	Feb 26, 2021 by Debb
	Rock bottom, nothing left to give (Preview) My partner of ten years has been addicted to alcohol and cannabis since I met him 12 years ago. We now have 2 young children. Throughout our relationship and childrens lives he has been unpredictable in his moods and also his presence. He can be an amazing dad and very caring and loving partner. He is hig...	Ruskin	7	3077	Feb 25, 2021 by WendyP
	2/23/21 ODAT in AlAnon – Detachment (Preview) Word meaning can vary widely across, even between cultures and individuals; "detach" is a good example.AlAnon's detachment is not complete disconnection of emotion, love, care. Rather, it involves removing ourselves from being unhealthily embedded (physically/emotionally) in the alcohol...	Enigmatic	8	5806	Feb 25, 2021 by WendyP
	Dreams are free... :) (Preview) A few years ago my SO and I went to Stepping Stones north of NYC. This was to be a retreat for them- but there were oodles of people there- a lot of the time. I think there was hope bursting from every bud- in the woods around the house. Because we were overseas visitors- we were actually the only visito...	DavidG	8	2483	Feb 24, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	C2C, 2/22 (Preview) The author of the reading for Monday, 2/22, relates that making decisions were impossible because the imposed standards were too high. They only wanted to make decisions that would get them exactly what they wanted, or they preferred not to make them at all. Over time, the author learned that deci...	Lyne	9	2515	Feb 23, 2021 by Debb
	Courage to Change February 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares that their own vision can be limited. Sometimes, it seems that the only possible outcomes are the ones we can imagine ourselves. In the author's case, thankfully, their Higher Power is not limited by the author's own lack of imagination. Som...	Skorpi	7	3438	Feb 22, 2021 by Maresie888
	A share... (Preview) I tend to dwell on the topics here- meditate on them. Absorb them. There was a topic last week about comparisons. For three or four days I encountered dissociation... [numbing, or brain fog.] I rode with is until it cleared. Did not feel compelled to get back to Step one- and start the slow climb a...	DavidG	2	4290	Feb 22, 2021 by Maresie888
	A Step 8 reading... (Preview) I am reading the Feb 8 reading from Hope for Today. It is a timely reminder for me, because it says that we could consider putting ourselves on the list of those we had harmed. Tonight I am going to a neighbouring meeting. The mainstay of the group can't come- because she is ill. Do I go and ta...	DavidG	10	2782	Feb 21, 2021 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Feb 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about dealing with memories of past experiences, ones that are extremely difficult to accept and those that are more positive. The writer describes having found a safe place within alanon to deal with the pain of a childhood within a family affected by alcoh...	yanksfan51	8	2492	Feb 21, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	C2C - 2/20 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about unacceptable behavior. We hear early on that we don't have to accept unacceptable behavior. This helps each of us to determine what's acceptable vs. what is not. We certainly should never tolerate violence or abuse and the program helps us see we al...	Iamhere	4	2330	Feb 20, 2021 by SunnyFrogs
	February 19 - Courage to Change (Preview) Today's author obsessed over writing their Fourth Step inventory -- working on it around the clock and fearing they would leave something out. They discovered one of their character defects was obsession. This was a reminder that they could act as insanely as an alcoholic, even when completely s...	Freetime	4	426	Feb 19, 2021 by Iamhere
	February 18, 2021 – ODAT – Keep An Open Mind (Preview) Todays reading suggests that the Al-Anon program works if those who approach it keep an open mind and not expect overnight miracles. It goes on to remind us that it took years to create the situation we find ourselves in, and that if we are receptive and listen, instead ofbeing quick to judge, that we w...	Debb	9	536	Feb 19, 2021 by Daffodils
	Feeling lonely (Preview) So it's been nearly 5 months now since I asked my AH to leave, which he did. However, and maybe it's this seemingly neverending lockdown, but I feel lonelier than ever - even though I know that I was 'alone' even when I was with him. There are times when I feel good, but times when I find myself rememberi...	Bettertomorrow	10	2602	Feb 19, 2021 by Daffodils
	2/16 ODAT in AlAnon - (Preview) Today's page suggests that we progress substantially in our recovery when we see Alcoholism as a disease. It is often not seen as other diseases as it has no single, known cause, but can be just as destructive. We cannot cure it but are more likely able to help if we recognize it as a serious illness.Remi...	Enigmatic	7	1269	Feb 18, 2021 by Maresie888
	C2C, 2/15 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/15, talks about working the program and how one actually can accomplish this: -going to meetings and learning about alcoholism -reading the literature and listening -being around people who speak the alanon language -being patient and putting in effort Eventually prog...	Lyne	9	1773	Feb 17, 2021 by Maresie888
	Happy Valentines Day... (Preview) What a pleasant wonderful morning though I woke up after fruitless sleep. It was the usual PTSD sleep process, ages old with some workable changes. I dreamt of sessions I had in the past with my deceased sponsor Don.T. on the lessons of feelings being choices. When he first mentioned that to me I se...	JerryF	7	1777	Feb 15, 2021 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Feb 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of simply listening to others when they are sharing. The writer describes walking with his wife and answering every statement she starts to make with a comparison from his own life. Most of her sentences were interrupted by her husband...	yanksfan51	3	2158	Feb 14, 2021 by Iamhere
	C2C Saturday (Preview) Today's Reminder: "A sponsor or trusted Al-Anon friend can help me see that I have value just as I am." The reading in Courage to Change today is about being an individual/comparing ourselves to others. Each snowflake is different... everyone has a unique thumbprint, and despite our common problem...	PosiesandPuppies	7	4729	Feb 14, 2021 by Iamhere
	Stiiiilll learning... (Preview) Worked last week on a project over on the coast. and had a happy weekend with my SO and pooch. A long holiday weekend for us. We had a domestic which lasted about 40 mins. This was a record for shortness. In the day these used to go on the weeks and months. Did a whole heap of washing last night. There is r...	DavidG	2	2246	Feb 14, 2021 by Lyne
	That familiar ol' feeling (Preview) It's been several long months since leaving my AH and in those months I've been staying with a dear friend who is like a sister to me. The clarity of looking back over the years and relationship was needed but (and I was warned about the possibility of this happening) but living with my friend has brought...	Paloma Negra	8	3176	Feb 13, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	AM ends (Preview) Got up this AM with work to do that I had pending for 3 days by inventory. I had to finish the inventory with some self centered behavior I relapsed into days ago. It didn't feel fair, just and honest and most of that was due to letting it linger. My mind body and spirit kept me focused on the subject and I...	JerryF	6	3950	Feb 13, 2021 by Lyne
«First < 1 … 20 21 22 23 24 … 823 > Last» \| Page of 823 sorted by

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.