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Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...is trying to determine the why of an alcoholic's drinking, or actions when not drinking...in short, the why's of someone outside ourselves. Some will not give up trying, or coming up with reasons why they need to. In truth, even if we are a psych/olog/iatr/ist it is neither important or helpful fo...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/26, addresses the problem of having illusions. The author talks about the illusion of having control over someone else. Tried as they might, they only received frustration. The author realized they could give up the illusion of having control. At that point they coul...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author entered the rooms of Al-Anon very grim and serious. The smiles and laughter among members were hard to understand. As time went by, and they kept coming back, our author became able to laugh -- even about their own role in painful situations. The gift of laughter meant no longer see...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is Step 11 - Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. The author clarifies that doing God's will doesn't mean performing heroic...

Yarrow · Yarrow

Greetings! I just attended my first Al Anon meeting yesterday, and am reaching out to the community for some advice on a current situation I am dealing with. First I want to apologize in advance for the long message---there's a bit of back story needed. My spouse and I spent the past year-and-a-ha...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us have used hiding as a reaction to living with active alcoholism. The writer describes finding ways to disappear before any trouble/chaos had a chance to grow. The writer goes on to say that this instinct has shown up in adulthood in the for...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today we are challenged not to look for the root of our problems in the disease of alcoholism. TODAY'S REMINDER: Do I read up on alcoholism because I still hope I can find a way to make my spouse stop drinking? Do I blame all the familys adversities on the alcoholic, sober or not? Have I the courage to face...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares reflections on an opinion they held prior to Al-Anon: "The people I love won't take care of themselves, so I have to do it." The author previously thought that their loved ones would not survive unless they interfered. "Let go and Let God" is one slogan that can he...

JerryF · JerryF

My mind and memories are filled with my former, now deceased sponsor. My eldest alcoholic/addict son is now openly preaching on facebook opportunities with others. He is preaching God as he presently understands God and I am not seeing pleas from others in the family about the sick behaviors I u...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Complacency is the enemy of personal growth. Being sure we are right blocks out understanding and kindness and leads us to judging others. TODAY'S REMINDER: Let me begin by being a little critical of my iron resolution to have things my own way. ---------- Not sure I have any wisdom here, only a refle...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/19, describes the difference between walls and boundaries. The writer says that walls are rigid and solid. They keep others out and themself trapped. Boundaries are moveable, flexible, and changeable, so they can be opened and closed. Boundaries let you say no witho...

Lillibirdy · Lillibirdy

Has anyone had experience with the vivatrol shot. How long have side affects last. DH just came out of rehab and was so happy and posative, 2 days later depressed and headaches.

WebHelper · WebHelper

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qwerty · qwerty

Five years ago, I discovered that my husband of 18 years had cheated on me. This began some serious issues between us, which resulted in some major changes in his life. His father was an alcoholic, and I knew he drank too much, but I never really considered him a full-blown alcoholic until he declared hi...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about finding a way to replace self-pity with humor. The writer describes doing this after realizing that she was using al-anon as a place to complain. She was describing her life with her spouse and the chaos of it when she was interrupted by someone laughin...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Starting with the Quote for the day - "As I continue to practice putting the focus on myself, it is a relief to see I can let go of others' problems instead of trying to solve them." Reminder: My time is too precious to waste living in the future or worrying about something over which I h...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I thought I would do something program but kind of fun in that to keep me from thinking about the remaining alcoholic in my life, I have kind of a list and I do I step ten on what did I do to take care of me The slogan keep the focus on me is there for a very good reason. It tells me to stay in my lane and it also tells...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

To all who follow me: I did get to spend time w/ my pastor the following Tuesday. She is officially & totally gone from our area. I had a few moments of tears before she left. It of course mad her a little sad. But the thing was she wanted to tell me to take care of myself the day of her retirement luncheon....

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author in Courage to Change could be described as a workaholic. They kept busy with a constant frenzy of work, projects, and obligations -- so they didn't have to to rest long enough to feel how frightening their home life was. They had no idea how to relax, and were abusing socially acceptab...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am grateful, though not feeling my best, that I have tools and exercises to do to help me get back feeling better very grateful for MIP and the constant learning and all the tidbits of knowledge that I get here to apply to my care grateful I am on the seniors program for the yard care where the city pays my l...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Thursday was not the best of days but that is when I need to keep the focus on me even more. I think I think too much instead of just going with the flow and riding with the tide, my mind is chattering away over analyzing and having to ruminate on everything instead of just being quiet so my self-care Thursda...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today I am grateful my yard is nice and manicured by my yard man as I am under the seniors yard care program where the city pays for my yard to get taken care of every other week I am grateful that my needs are met grateful that my health is good Grateful that I have the discipline to keep putting out good energ...

mamalioness · mamalioness

What am I grateful for today? I am grateful that the weather has been pretty nice of late I am grateful that I know how to take good care of my pets I am grateful for the things I was able to do for my house and the biggest thing I am grateful for are the loving people I have in my life who love me and accept me as I am...

a4l · a4l

I don't know if anyone can relate, but I suspect so, it being the family disease. I feel like it sneaks up on me. Alcholism of loved ones, the cycles of dysfunction and I let my guard down and got sucked back in. My go to response to insanity has been to leave whatever country I am in and cut off everybody. ...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Our desperation brought us to Alanon, a place of recovery and hope where we draw comfort from a fellowship. We show our gratitude by accepting responsibilities by: * Studying and using Alanon principles, for our own benefit and for that of the group * Showing concern for the difficulties of others by...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author discusses the burden of guilt. The author shares that they had not been aware of the heavy burden that their guilt was until they made amends and let that guilt go. The author shares that facing the harm they had done in the past was something that they a...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I am about to take a day of vacation in a week I have appointments set up for those days In the meantime I have to review my own set of expectations Certainly the pandemic has been very very hard going. I have worked throughout the pandemic. The vista of the pandemic included that I had to move out of my...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am grateful that my needs are met I am grateful that my dogs do not have any fleas because I use 20 Mule team Borax in their bath I am grateful I got all my little chores done I am grateful that I am learning to slow down and pay attention

Iamhere · Iamhere

***MIP would LOVE to have a member take over the Saturday posting of a daily from one of our readers.*** If you have interest, you can post here or send me a Private Message! Today's reading discusses how we often arrive at Al-Anon with a distorted self-image brought about by our exposure to Alcoholis...

JerryF · JerryF

I am grateful to another young member for the "taking a stand" title I am riding at the moment because I have been procrastinating for 2 days on making an amends for missing care on a service position here at home. Just recently I volunteered to take care of the coffee service in my just recently restar...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Oh I am so grateful for this program. I am beginning to love myself because of the positive changes I had a pool Play date for 3 PM today with this lovely married couple that I am friends with. Theyre just kids but they are wonderful and very very moral and conscientious and Just good young people. Anyway...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/12, expresses the authors confusion: are they supposed to focus on themself, or get wrapped up in the drama of others? The author felt Tradition 5 was therefore sending a contradictory message, as they either focused on themself or lost themself in others. Balance was l...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at the irony involved with feeling pain in association with the acceptance and care in recovery. The writer describes a phase of recovery in which she felt love, approval and respect immediately followed by sadness. Her sponsor suggested that exper...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I'm gonna be gone most of Sunday, (actually today) so I am posting Sunday Slogan Let it begin with me If I want change for the good..Lasting change..Real change...Positive growth and positive coming back to me, I must work on and change ME it has to begin with ME...meditating on what I learn in my recov...

mamalioness · mamalioness

What am I grateful for: this community all the love that has come to me of late my good health AND, my house big fix up jobs are DONE--Yaaay!!!! When I had unemployment coming in, I fixed up my restrooms (toilets, tub glazing, plumbing) , exterior carpentry and painting, upgraded my car, (did some work m...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I thought just for fun I would put up a post about gratitude and what are we grateful for every day because for me, it has been a big game changer For me. Seems the more I give thanks, the more I get blessings to be thankful for Today I am grateful that my house renovations, the big ones are done and I can relax...

DM2021 · DM2021

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tiredtonite · tiredtonite

If you could offer a prayer it would be appreciated. My SO is in surgery. I'm here alone waiting.I rushed him to the ER last night. They told us mo bed for him, transferred him in midst of health difficulties. His kids stepped up to help to get me to a hospital far from home and for that Im grateful. They didn...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's post, the author shares that pre-alanon, they felt compelled to assign blame during every conflict. At any conflict or disagreement, they felt compelled to decide who was at fault. They would spend hours writing the evidence, becoming a chronic score keeper. Attitudes of defensivenes...

Lyne · Lyne

I found this reading for Monday, 7/5, to be of interest. Its looking at the As treatment from the non-alcoholic, recognizing that the A is in a vulnerable position. The A is often on guard realizing they bring trouble to the family, and that also leaves the A open to criticism. The writer says the A is...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Another evening with AH in hospital. Being told how much his liver is damaged, to just a few hours later declaring he was told he was healthy. Denial is such a demon. But now I see it for what it truly is. A defence mechanism which if torn down would lay reality bare. And that is too much for him to handle...

Freetime · Freetime

Instead of posting from one of the three daily readers, I thought today I would post from my current favorite Al-Anon Conference Approved literature -- the "Just For Tonight" bookmark. It has only been out for a couple of years, so some may not be aware of it. It can be purchased on the Al-Anon.org web...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Can you please remove and ban isp addresses of these spammers . Another has returned with the similar solicitation. Thanks so much!

mamalioness · mamalioness

how important is it? yesterday, my long awaited new windows for the front side of the house arrived and they did a lovely job. The workmen were very courteous and professional and they tidied up after themselves they even vacuumed my rooms on the inside where they put the windows. I was absolutely tic...

mamalioness · mamalioness

There are two spam post on the business side Hey Iam. We got to spam post on the business board. Just thought I would tell you

mamalioness · mamalioness

7 gaslighting phrases people use to silence you Has someone ever said something to you that made you question your thoughts? Or your memories? If yes, then there is no doubt that they are gaslighting you. A very common psychological abuse, gaslighting often goes unnoticed. It makes a person que...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Thank you

DavidG · DavidG

The sun is starting to go down- over another Wednesday, here in my country. I did some pruning this afternoon. Nearly finished, and due to start on my own backyard trees. I find my higher power in the present moment these days. I manage to enjoy and to appreciate many things. I am contesting a by-elect...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Todays reading challenges us to be discerning listeners. Listen to voices at meetings and experiment by focusing more on how they are speaking rather than what they are saying. Do we hear compassion, confidence and humility? Or do we hear anger, judgment, self-pity and/or grim determination? T...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the roles that intimacy and sexuality play in the lives of those of us affected by alcoholism. The writer describes how alcoholism created a fear of intimacy as well as a craving for it. The writer was often losing him/herself in another person, had dama...

DavidG · DavidG

A vote is being held on the Business Page for members. A proposal from IAm. That we change our signature from:- The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. To:- W...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Surprising to some, challenges remain even after the alcoholic stops drinking. The adjustments in earning and household responsibilities made by both parties may now become apparent, must be addressed and possibly reassigned. This can be very challenging.Like any situation we encounter, Ala...

DavidG · DavidG

Thanks Debb. I wanted to share, really on a completely different tack. At the age of 70 I currently take no meds at all. I am ready and willing to do so- when I need them. 10 or 12 years ago I was waking in the night- with my mouth full of stomach acid. It was terrible. Around then my higher power told me:- t...

DavidG · DavidG

Alanon Concept 3. The right of decision makes effective leadership possible. Basically in Alanon everyone just pitches in. Someone bring coffee- if we have coffee. [Or tea] Someone brings the key and opens up. At our F2F meeting we select our chair on the night, usually. In our inland valleys we r...

DavidG · DavidG

It is a cold brittle Sunday here in Aotearoa-NZ... Lots going on in my life. John was more CA, or NA, than anything else. The miracle- of what became Miracles in Progress happened under a bridge in Dallas. John told me about this- when I met him and spent time with him a few years back. John had dreams an...

DavidG · DavidG

Anyone can take on a service role here- with this group. I have had to learn a few boundaries, over the years- to even function well... But I have pinned up a topic on the business board- and pointed the way towards a process... The emotion does need a seconder- to have even a second thought. The kaupap...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

For me being self supporting has been a long haul Getting to a point where whatever barrier I have come up.I have to deal with. That is of course some barriers feel insurmountable. Nevertheless I am certainly responsible for whatever I am dealing with Therefore now more than ever there is a need to le...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about changing self-destructive behaviors. The author had a habit of procrastination, but when they used Al-Anon principles to focus on their own thoughts and feelings, they realized that putting things off made them anxious. They saw the benefits of cha...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Dear MIP family. As I have shared before I am separated from my AH and have been making progress in my own recovery. The challenge I am now facing is that my AH is spiralling rapidly downwards and it is so, so painful to watch, even from a distance. I am practicing detachment, keeping to my side of the...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi Everybody, and I am going to say "Everybody". I have been reading most of your sharings, and I am so very, very upset and am going to be very, very honest, I am crying at what I have read. I don't understand what has happened, and I don't want to know. But what I do know is that your are tearing each other apa...

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	7/20/21 ODAT – An Itch that Can’t be Scratched… (Preview) ...is trying to determine the why of an alcoholic's drinking, or actions when not drinking...in short, the why's of someone outside ourselves. Some will not give up trying, or coming up with reasons why they need to. In truth, even if we are a psych/olog/iatr/ist it is neither important or helpful fo...	Enigmatic	8	2172	Jul 26, 2021 by mamalioness
	C2C, 7/26, illusions can make life unmanageable (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/26, addresses the problem of having illusions. The author talks about the illusion of having control over someone else. Tried as they might, they only received frustration. The author realized they could give up the illusion of having control. At that point they coul...	Lyne	5	890	Jul 26, 2021 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, July 23 - Humor (Preview) Today's author entered the rooms of Al-Anon very grim and serious. The smiles and laughter among members were hard to understand. As time went by, and they kept coming back, our author became able to laugh -- even about their own role in painful situations. The gift of laughter meant no longer see...	Freetime	7	877	Jul 26, 2021 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 7/24 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is Step 11 - Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. The author clarifies that doing God's will doesn't mean performing heroic...	Iamhere	5	389	Jul 26, 2021 by Maresie888
	Questions about supporting an addicted teen and her parent foster parenting teens marijuana parents (Preview) Greetings! I just attended my first Al Anon meeting yesterday, and am reaching out to the community for some advice on a current situation I am dealing with. First I want to apologize in advance for the long message---there's a bit of back story needed. My spouse and I spent the past year-and-a-ha...	Yarrow	8	3329	Jul 26, 2021 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today July 25 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us have used hiding as a reaction to living with active alcoholism. The writer describes finding ways to disappear before any trouble/chaos had a chance to grow. The writer goes on to say that this instinct has shown up in adulthood in the for...	yanksfan51	6	1022	Jul 25, 2021 by Iamhere
	July 22, ODAT - It is all about ME (Preview) Today we are challenged not to look for the root of our problems in the disease of alcoholism. TODAY'S REMINDER: Do I read up on alcoholism because I still hope I can find a way to make my spouse stop drinking? Do I blame all the familys adversities on the alcoholic, sober or not? Have I the courage to face...	Bbrave	5	455	Jul 25, 2021 by Lyne
	Courage to Change July 21 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares reflections on an opinion they held prior to Al-Anon: "The people I love won't take care of themselves, so I have to do it." The author previously thought that their loved ones would not survive unless they interfered. "Let go and Let God" is one slogan that can he...	Skorpi	4	820	Jul 21, 2021 by Maresie888
	Maybe and if so ....Good!! (Preview) My mind and memories are filled with my former, now deceased sponsor. My eldest alcoholic/addict son is now openly preaching on facebook opportunities with others. He is preaching God as he presently understands God and I am not seeing pleas from others in the family about the sick behaviors I u...	JerryF	7	484	Jul 21, 2021 by JerryF
	July 15, ODAT - Know your enemy (Preview) Complacency is the enemy of personal growth. Being sure we are right blocks out understanding and kindness and leads us to judging others. TODAY'S REMINDER: Let me begin by being a little critical of my iron resolution to have things my own way. ---------- Not sure I have any wisdom here, only a refle...	Bbrave	9	2703	Jul 20, 2021 by Maresie888
	C2C, Monday, 7/19, the difference between walls and boundaries (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/19, describes the difference between walls and boundaries. The writer says that walls are rigid and solid. They keep others out and themself trapped. Boundaries are moveable, flexible, and changeable, so they can be opened and closed. Boundaries let you say no witho...	Lyne	7	1040	Jul 19, 2021 by Iamhere
	Newly sober DH, vivatrol (Preview) Has anyone had experience with the vivatrol shot. How long have side affects last. DH just came out of rehab and was so happy and posative, 2 days later depressed and headaches.	Lillibirdy	7	2431	Jul 19, 2021 by JerryF
	New Business on the Business Forum: MIP Webmaster Needed (closed) (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67756043/position-open-mip-webmaster/	WebHelper	0	1285	Jul 19, 2021 by WebHelper
	Five years sober: my husband is BORING (Preview) Five years ago, I discovered that my husband of 18 years had cheated on me. This began some serious issues between us, which resulted in some major changes in his life. His father was an alcoholic, and I knew he drank too much, but I never really considered him a full-blown alcoholic until he declared hi...	qwerty	11	2554	Jul 19, 2021 by Seahorse7
	Hope for Today July 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about finding a way to replace self-pity with humor. The writer describes doing this after realizing that she was using al-anon as a place to complain. She was describing her life with her spouse and the chaos of it when she was interrupted by someone laughin...	yanksfan51	3	913	Jul 18, 2021 by Daffodils
	C2C - 7/17 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Starting with the Quote for the day - "As I continue to practice putting the focus on myself, it is a relief to see I can let go of others' problems instead of trying to solve them." Reminder: My time is too precious to waste living in the future or worrying about something over which I h...	Iamhere	4	2246	Jul 18, 2021 by Lyne
	Self care Check in. Wednesday (Preview) I thought I would do something program but kind of fun in that to keep me from thinking about the remaining alcoholic in my life, I have kind of a list and I do I step ten on what did I do to take care of me The slogan keep the focus on me is there for a very good reason. It tells me to stay in my lane and it also tells...	mamalioness	6	2471	Jul 17, 2021 by Maresie888
	goodbye & missing her (Preview) To all who follow me: I did get to spend time w/ my pastor the following Tuesday. She is officially & totally gone from our area. I had a few moments of tears before she left. It of course mad her a little sad. But the thing was she wanted to tell me to take care of myself the day of her retirement luncheon....	Hoot Nanny	1	2218	Jul 16, 2021 by DM2021
	July 16 - C2C - Relaxation (Preview) Today's author in Courage to Change could be described as a workaholic. They kept busy with a constant frenzy of work, projects, and obligations -- so they didn't have to to rest long enough to feel how frightening their home life was. They had no idea how to relax, and were abusing socially acceptab...	Freetime	8	1889	Jul 16, 2021 by Iamhere
	Gratitude Friday (Preview) I am grateful, though not feeling my best, that I have tools and exercises to do to help me get back feeling better very grateful for MIP and the constant learning and all the tidbits of knowledge that I get here to apply to my care grateful I am on the seniors program for the yard care where the city pays my l...	mamalioness	2	1632	Jul 16, 2021 by Daffodils
	Self-care Thursday (Preview) Thursday was not the best of days but that is when I need to keep the focus on me even more. I think I think too much instead of just going with the flow and riding with the tide, my mind is chattering away over analyzing and having to ruminate on everything instead of just being quiet so my self-care Thursda...	mamalioness	2	1592	Jul 16, 2021 by mamalioness
	Gratitude Thursday (Preview) Today I am grateful my yard is nice and manicured by my yard man as I am under the seniors yard care program where the city pays for my yard to get taken care of every other week I am grateful that my needs are met grateful that my health is good Grateful that I have the discipline to keep putting out good energ...	mamalioness	4	1799	Jul 15, 2021 by Daffodils
	Gratitude Wednesday (Preview) What am I grateful for today? I am grateful that the weather has been pretty nice of late I am grateful that I know how to take good care of my pets I am grateful for the things I was able to do for my house and the biggest thing I am grateful for are the loving people I have in my life who love me and accept me as I am...	mamalioness	3	312	Jul 15, 2021 by DM2021
	Had enough of insanity...again. (Preview) I don't know if anyone can relate, but I suspect so, it being the family disease. I feel like it sneaks up on me. Alcholism of loved ones, the cycles of dysfunction and I let my guard down and got sucked back in. My go to response to insanity has been to leave whatever country I am in and cut off everybody. ...	a4l	9	994	Jul 14, 2021 by Maresie888
	7.13.21 One Day @ a Time – Alanon Guidance for Our Shares (Preview) Our desperation brought us to Alanon, a place of recovery and hope where we draw comfort from a fellowship. We show our gratitude by accepting responsibilities by: * Studying and using Alanon principles, for our own benefit and for that of the group * Showing concern for the difficulties of others by...	Enigmatic	10	1722	Jul 14, 2021 by a4l
	Courage to Change July 14 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author discusses the burden of guilt. The author shares that they had not been aware of the heavy burden that their guilt was until they made amends and let that guilt go. The author shares that facing the harm they had done in the past was something that they a...	Skorpi	7	1563	Jul 14, 2021 by Iamhere
	Expectations (Preview) I am about to take a day of vacation in a week I have appointments set up for those days In the meantime I have to review my own set of expectations Certainly the pandemic has been very very hard going. I have worked throughout the pandemic. The vista of the pandemic included that I had to move out of my...	Maresie888	3	1355	Jul 13, 2021 by Maresie888
	Gratitude Monday (Preview) I am grateful that my needs are met I am grateful that my dogs do not have any fleas because I use 20 Mule team Borax in their bath I am grateful I got all my little chores done I am grateful that I am learning to slow down and pay attention	mamalioness	5	937	Jul 13, 2021 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 7/10 (Preview) *MIP would LOVE to have a member take over the Saturday posting of a daily from one of our readers.* If you have interest, you can post here or send me a Private Message! Today's reading discusses how we often arrive at Al-Anon with a distorted self-image brought about by our exposure to Alcoholis...	Iamhere	5	842	Jul 13, 2021 by Lyne
	Taking a Stand (Preview) I am grateful to another young member for the "taking a stand" title I am riding at the moment because I have been procrastinating for 2 days on making an amends for missing care on a service position here at home. Just recently I volunteered to take care of the coffee service in my just recently restar...	JerryF	8	730	Jul 13, 2021 by Maresie888
	QTIP (Preview) Oh I am so grateful for this program. I am beginning to love myself because of the positive changes I had a pool Play date for 3 PM today with this lovely married couple that I am friends with. Theyre just kids but they are wonderful and very very moral and conscientious and Just good young people. Anyway...	mamalioness	3	1247	Jul 13, 2021 by a4l
	C2C, 7/12, “encouraging and understanding alcoholic relatives” (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/12, expresses the authors confusion: are they supposed to focus on themself, or get wrapped up in the drama of others? The author felt Tradition 5 was therefore sending a contradictory message, as they either focused on themself or lost themself in others. Balance was l...	Lyne	7	1072	Jul 12, 2021 by Lyne
	Hope for Today July 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at the irony involved with feeling pain in association with the acceptance and care in recovery. The writer describes a phase of recovery in which she felt love, approval and respect immediately followed by sadness. Her sponsor suggested that exper...	yanksfan51	6	1284	Jul 12, 2021 by Maresie888
	Slogan for Sunday (Preview) I'm gonna be gone most of Sunday, (actually today) so I am posting Sunday Slogan Let it begin with me If I want change for the good..Lasting change..Real change...Positive growth and positive coming back to me, I must work on and change ME it has to begin with ME...meditating on what I learn in my recov...	mamalioness	1	1103	Jul 11, 2021 by Daffodils
	Sunday Gratitude (Preview) What am I grateful for: this community all the love that has come to me of late my good health AND, my house big fix up jobs are DONE--Yaaay!!!! When I had unemployment coming in, I fixed up my restrooms (toilets, tub glazing, plumbing) , exterior carpentry and painting, upgraded my car, (did some work m...	mamalioness	1	1313	Jul 11, 2021 by DM2021
	What am I grateful for today (Preview) I thought just for fun I would put up a post about gratitude and what are we grateful for every day because for me, it has been a big game changer For me. Seems the more I give thanks, the more I get blessings to be thankful for Today I am grateful that my house renovations, the big ones are done and I can relax...	mamalioness	2	958	Jul 10, 2021 by Daffodils
	It is time to take a stand (closed) (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t67732896/ban-davidg/-- Edited by DM2021 on Thursday 8th of July 2021 06:36:10 PM -- Edited by DM2021 on Thursday 8th of July 2021 06:36:42 PM	DM2021	4	471	Jul 10, 2021 by Iamhere
	Prayers Please (Preview) If you could offer a prayer it would be appreciated. My SO is in surgery. I'm here alone waiting.I rushed him to the ER last night. They told us mo bed for him, transferred him in midst of health difficulties. His kids stepped up to help to get me to a hospital far from home and for that Im grateful. They didn...	tiredtonite	16	1237	Jul 10, 2021 by Lyne
	Courage to Change July 7 (Preview) In today's post, the author shares that pre-alanon, they felt compelled to assign blame during every conflict. At any conflict or disagreement, they felt compelled to decide who was at fault. They would spend hours writing the evidence, becoming a chronic score keeper. Attitudes of defensivenes...	Skorpi	9	465	Jul 10, 2021 by a4l
	ODAT in alanon, 7/5, how we treat the A (Preview) I found this reading for Monday, 7/5, to be of interest. Its looking at the As treatment from the non-alcoholic, recognizing that the A is in a vulnerable position. The A is often on guard realizing they bring trouble to the family, and that also leaves the A open to criticism. The writer says the A is...	Lyne	15	1592	Jul 10, 2021 by a4l
	Denial (Preview) Another evening with AH in hospital. Being told how much his liver is damaged, to just a few hours later declaring he was told he was healthy. Denial is such a demon. But now I see it for what it truly is. A defence mechanism which if torn down would lay reality bare. And that is too much for him to handle...	Bettertomorrow	11	480	Jul 10, 2021 by a4l
	7/8/21 - Daily reading - Just for Tonight (Preview) Instead of posting from one of the three daily readers, I thought today I would post from my current favorite Al-Anon Conference Approved literature -- the "Just For Tonight" bookmark. It has only been out for a couple of years, so some may not be aware of it. It can be purchased on the Al-Anon.org web...	Freetime	8	3233	Jul 10, 2021 by a4l
	Moderator New Spam Business Board (Preview) Can you please remove and ban isp addresses of these spammers . Another has returned with the similar solicitation. Thanks so much!	tiredtonite	6	1705	Jul 9, 2021 by mamalioness
	Slogan for today (Preview) how important is it? yesterday, my long awaited new windows for the front side of the house arrived and they did a lovely job. The workmen were very courteous and professional and they tidied up after themselves they even vacuumed my rooms on the inside where they put the windows. I was absolutely tic...	mamalioness	7	683	Jul 9, 2021 by mamalioness
	There are two spam post on the business side (Preview) There are two spam post on the business side Hey Iam. We got to spam post on the business board. Just thought I would tell you	mamalioness	0	346	Jul 9, 2021 by mamalioness
	Not sure but I think it is on topic--gaslighting--a very much used tool by the alcoholic (Preview) 7 gaslighting phrases people use to silence you Has someone ever said something to you that made you question your thoughts? Or your memories? If yes, then there is no doubt that they are gaslighting you. A very common psychological abuse, gaslighting often goes unnoticed. It makes a person que...	mamalioness	4	581	Jul 9, 2021 by mamalioness
	Moderator Please Remove Solicitation Posts on Alanon Business Board (Preview) Thank you	tiredtonite	3	340	Jul 8, 2021 by mamalioness
	A brief share... (closed) (Preview) The sun is starting to go down- over another Wednesday, here in my country. I did some pruning this afternoon. Nearly finished, and due to start on my own backyard trees. I find my higher power in the present moment these days. I manage to enjoy and to appreciate many things. I am contesting a by-elect...	DavidG	2	396	Jul 8, 2021 by DavidG
	July 8, ODAT - Listen Well (Preview) Todays reading challenges us to be discerning listeners. Listen to voices at meetings and experiment by focusing more on how they are speaking rather than what they are saying. Do we hear compassion, confidence and humility? Or do we hear anger, judgment, self-pity and/or grim determination? T...	Bbrave	7	433	Jul 8, 2021 by Freetime
	Hope for Today July 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the roles that intimacy and sexuality play in the lives of those of us affected by alcoholism. The writer describes how alcoholism created a fear of intimacy as well as a craving for it. The writer was often losing him/herself in another person, had dama...	yanksfan51	5	544	Jul 7, 2021 by Maresie888
	Group vote- on business page- new proposal. (closed) (Preview) A vote is being held on the Business Page for members. A proposal from IAm. That we change our signature from:- The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. To:- W...	DavidG	0	355	Jul 7, 2021 by DavidG
	7/6/21 ODAT – When the Drinking Stops, Perfection? (Preview) Surprising to some, challenges remain even after the alcoholic stops drinking. The adjustments in earning and household responsibilities made by both parties may now become apparent, must be addressed and possibly reassigned. This can be very challenging.Like any situation we encounter, Ala...	Enigmatic	3	1842	Jul 6, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	...and more... (closed) (Preview) Thanks Debb. I wanted to share, really on a completely different tack. At the age of 70 I currently take no meds at all. I am ready and willing to do so- when I need them. 10 or 12 years ago I was waking in the night- with my mouth full of stomach acid. It was terrible. Around then my higher power told me:- t...	DavidG	35	3853	Jul 5, 2021 by Iamhere
	Alanon Concept 3. (closed) (Preview) Alanon Concept 3. The right of decision makes effective leadership possible. Basically in Alanon everyone just pitches in. Someone bring coffee- if we have coffee. [Or tea] Someone brings the key and opens up. At our F2F meeting we select our chair on the night, usually. In our inland valleys we r...	DavidG	6	439	Jul 5, 2021 by Iamhere
	Remembering John... (closed) (Preview) It is a cold brittle Sunday here in Aotearoa-NZ... Lots going on in my life. John was more CA, or NA, than anything else. The miracle- of what became Miracles in Progress happened under a bridge in Dallas. John told me about this- when I met him and spent time with him a few years back. John had dreams an...	DavidG	5	450	Jul 4, 2021 by Iamhere
	Notice of Motion on Business Board. ( 1 2 ) (closed) (Preview) Anyone can take on a service role here- with this group. I have had to learn a few boundaries, over the years- to even function well... But I have pinned up a topic on the business board- and pointed the way towards a process... The emotion does need a seconder- to have even a second thought. The kaupap...	DavidG	41	2971	Jul 3, 2021 by Iamhere
	7th tradition (Preview) For me being self supporting has been a long haul Getting to a point where whatever barrier I have come up.I have to deal with. That is of course some barriers feel insurmountable. Nevertheless I am certainly responsible for whatever I am dealing with Therefore now more than ever there is a need to le...	Maresie888	1	438	Jul 3, 2021 by DavidG
	July 2 - C2C - Positive Changes (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about changing self-destructive behaviors. The author had a habit of procrastination, but when they used Al-Anon principles to focus on their own thoughts and feelings, they realized that putting things off made them anxious. They saw the benefits of cha...	Freetime	10	428	Jul 3, 2021 by Maresie888
	Feeling low (Preview) Dear MIP family. As I have shared before I am separated from my AH and have been making progress in my own recovery. The challenge I am now facing is that my AH is spiralling rapidly downwards and it is so, so painful to watch, even from a distance. I am practicing detachment, keeping to my side of the...	Bettertomorrow	8	485	Jul 3, 2021 by Bettertomorrow
	what Is going on. (Preview) Hi Everybody, and I am going to say "Everybody". I have been reading most of your sharings, and I am so very, very upset and am going to be very, very honest, I am crying at what I have read. I don't understand what has happened, and I don't want to know. But what I do know is that your are tearing each other apa...	WendyP	4	490	Jul 3, 2021 by mamalioness
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