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Slogan for today
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how important is it? yesterday, my long awaited new windows for the front side of the house arrived and they did a lovely job. The workmen were very courteous and professional and they tidied up after themselves they even vacuumed my rooms on the inside where they put the windows. I was absolutely tic...
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There are two spam post on the business side
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There are two spam post on the business side Hey Iam. We got to spam post on the business board. Just thought I would tell you
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Not sure but I think it is on topic--gaslighting--a very much used tool by the alcoholic
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7 gaslighting phrases people use to silence you Has someone ever said something to you that made you question your thoughts? Or your memories? If yes, then there is no doubt that they are gaslighting you. A very common psychological abuse, gaslighting often goes unnoticed. It makes a person que...
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Moderator Please Remove Solicitation Posts on Alanon Business Board
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A brief share...
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The sun is starting to go down- over another Wednesday, here in my country. I did some pruning this afternoon. Nearly finished, and due to start on my own backyard trees. I find my higher power in the present moment these days. I manage to enjoy and to appreciate many things. I am contesting a by-elect...
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July 8, ODAT - Listen Well
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Todays reading challenges us to be discerning listeners. Listen to voices at meetings and experiment by focusing more on how they are speaking rather than what they are saying. Do we hear compassion, confidence and humility? Or do we hear anger, judgment, self-pity and/or grim determination? T...
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Hope for Today July 4
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the roles that intimacy and sexuality play in the lives of those of us affected by alcoholism. The writer describes how alcoholism created a fear of intimacy as well as a craving for it. The writer was often losing him/herself in another person, had dama...
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Group vote- on business page- new proposal.
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A vote is being held on the Business Page for members. A proposal from IAm. That we change our signature from:- The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level. To:- W...
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7/6/21 ODAT – When the Drinking Stops, Perfection?
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Surprising to some, challenges remain even after the alcoholic stops drinking. The adjustments in earning and household responsibilities made by both parties may now become apparent, must be addressed and possibly reassigned. This can be very challenging.Like any situation we encounter, Ala...
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...and more...
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Thanks Debb. I wanted to share, really on a completely different tack. At the age of 70 I currently take no meds at all. I am ready and willing to do so- when I need them. 10 or 12 years ago I was waking in the night- with my mouth full of stomach acid. It was terrible. Around then my higher power told me:- t...
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Alanon Concept 3.
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Alanon Concept 3. The right of decision makes effective leadership possible. Basically in Alanon everyone just pitches in. Someone bring coffee- if we have coffee. [Or tea] Someone brings the key and opens up. At our F2F meeting we select our chair on the night, usually. In our inland valleys we r...
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Remembering John...
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It is a cold brittle Sunday here in Aotearoa-NZ... Lots going on in my life. John was more CA, or NA, than anything else. The miracle- of what became Miracles in Progress happened under a bridge in Dallas. John told me about this- when I met him and spent time with him a few years back. John had dreams an...
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DavidG
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Notice of Motion on Business Board.
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Anyone can take on a service role here- with this group. I have had to learn a few boundaries, over the years- to even function well... But I have pinned up a topic on the business board- and pointed the way towards a process... The emotion does need a seconder- to have even a second thought. The kaupap...
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7th tradition
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For me being self supporting has been a long haul Getting to a point where whatever barrier I have come up.I have to deal with. That is of course some barriers feel insurmountable. Nevertheless I am certainly responsible for whatever I am dealing with Therefore now more than ever there is a need to le...
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July 2 - C2C - Positive Changes
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Today's reading in Courage to Change is about changing self-destructive behaviors. The author had a habit of procrastination, but when they used Al-Anon principles to focus on their own thoughts and feelings, they realized that putting things off made them anxious. They saw the benefits of cha...
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Freetime
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Feeling low
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Dear MIP family.
As I have shared before I am separated from my AH and have been making progress in my own recovery.
The challenge I am now facing is that my AH is spiralling rapidly downwards and it is so, so painful to watch, even from a distance.
I am practicing detachment, keeping to my side of the...
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what Is going on.
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Hi Everybody, and I am going to say "Everybody". I have been reading most of your sharings, and I am so very, very upset and am going to be very, very honest, I am crying at what I have read. I don't understand what has happened, and I don't want to know. But what I do know is that your are tearing each other apa...
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Woopers!!
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Just got home from our first face to face group in a long time....Thank you God!! Woopers another great one. Of course MIP was there with me in my heart.
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JerryF
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A Saturday Share
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Through the lock-down period I have realised that I am no longer a newcomer. I think I always had a newcomer spirit. Eyes wide open. Sparkling sometimes. I think that laughter comes much easier these days. In my F 2 F group there is an older timer who has as many years in Alanon. She had a maj...
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July 1, ODAT - Attending to Myself
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"This I learned in Al-Anon, that the man I married cannot be the source of my happiness or sorrow." Todays reading explains that whatever my Alcoholic is feeling, I am not responsible and do not need to go there with him. It also reminds me that through my experience living alongside him, I should know t...
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C2C, Monday, 6/28, what other’s think
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The reading for Monday, 6/28, is about the writer feeling that their loved ones drinking was a terrible reflection on them. They worried what other people thought, and they got bounced up and down as their loved one made attempts at sobriety. What the author learned is that their well-being cannot...
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For Those That Have Left
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For those of you that have chosen to leave your relationship(for good,not temporarily),I would like some ESH on how you finally got to that place. I'm considering it. I am not expecting or wanting advice,I am just curious how you got the strength to do it. How did you get to that place where you finally...
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The things we cannot change...
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1. Lock-down and the Covid-19 pandemic. Maybe a fair bit of "bear-cave" stuff happening? In this group- we have all been through this together. A w e s o m e ... The sun has just going down over my country. After snow yesterday, today was bright and clear, for the afternoon. ...
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Courage to Change June 30
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Hello mip!
In today's reading from c2c, the author shares about an experience walking in the woods. The author heard a child's voice and followed the sound until they found the child. The child was repeating the alphabet. When the author asked what the child was doing, the child said "praying" and si...
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June 24, ODAT - Personal Inventory
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Todays reading reminds us of the work we have done in cleaning up our past-cleaning house. In Step Ten (an essential Al-Anon promise), then, we must review each day to ensure that we do not accumulate a backlog of guilt to worry about. Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promp...
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Mental health and Alanon
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I have only read one reading recently that had to do with the obsession and compulsion of the alcoholic. Are topics of mental illnesses off limits in Alanon? I can see that you would not want to replace a doctor or suggest someone's A has a mental illness. But, many people that abuse alcohol and other su...
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Can someone take Thursdays ODAT Reading
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I cannot do Thursdays readings anymore, is someone up for the task? {{HUGS}}
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6/29/21 One Day at a Time – A Characteristic We Share w/Alcoholics
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Though we may be reluctant to acknowledge it, self-deception impacts how both alcoholic and Alanon members relate their experience to others. Both unconsciously hold back details that are unflattering to self, and magnify the fault of the other.Seeing the facts objectively requires a change of...
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ODAT in alanon, 6/14, A medicine to change your entire life
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The reading for Monday, 6/14, begins like this: If someone were to say to me: Here is a medicine that can change your whole life for the better; it will put you in a state of relaxed serenity; help you overcome the nagging undercurrent of guilt for past errors, give you new insight into yourself and y...
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how do you say goodbye?
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How do you you say goodbye to someone who has been a special & spiritual wise woman that has leave? I am certain that she will be moving on w/ the best of intentions. She is retiring & moving away on July 12th. I have mentioned her before. I don't really need to give too much detail but in the last 7 ye...
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Hoot Nanny
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A program like the Al Anon program, but specifically for people that have a loved one with MENTAL HEALTH issues??
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Hi - I am a great believer in Al Anon's approach, and I have been active in the program for many years - I have acquired a lot of ESH over the years from face-to-face meetings, and also from you fine folks here. My adult son has very recently exhibited some sudden onset mental health issues, and while ther...
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Tradition 4.
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Alanon Tradition 4. Each group should be autonomous, except in matters affecting Alanon, or AA as a whole. Before I arrived here, and became a member of this group- there was a move to join Alanon in an official way. This information is base don information that heard. This move was turned down. Th rea...
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Hope for Today June 27
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on tradition eight which states: Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers. While the main business of al-anon is non professional and there is no monetary compensation,...
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yanksfan51
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Ultimate Goal Is To Move On From The Past
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I just love reading the C2C everyday. I start on January 1st and read two a day. I just arrived on April 8th and so wanted to share this one because I feel that the ultimate goal of Al-Anon is to help us move on from the past. The reading says that "examining the past does have great value" because to exam...
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6/22/21 Courage to Change – Can Others Make Us Angry
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Today's writer recalls early Alanon shares describing how the alcoholic 'made' her feel various unpleasant emotions. A sponsor helped her 'begin with me' and see that her words conveyed power to others that they do not have: No one can make us feel something without our cooperation.Working on perc...
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A weekend share.
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I think that groups go through phases of development. I used to talk about my FOO. My family of origin. Also my GOO. My group of origin. I think there are boundaries, and ways of talking about group stuff. But I am very wary of the talk- for myself. I think that different members have different standard...
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DavidG
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Courage to Change June 23
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about the courage to be honest with ourselves. Being honest with ourselves can be quite the challenge! It can be difficult to admit that someone we care about has an addiction, that the addiction is beyond our own control, and that a power greater than...
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June 25 - C2C - To Remove Our Shortcomings
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Today's reading focuses on Step Six, "Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings." The writer calls these defects "roadblocks" that prevent us from freely traveling the roads of life, from growing as a person, and from having our dreams come true. When higher power helps us to see our defects as a w...
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Hope for Today June 13
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on step two: Came to believe that a Power greater than myself could restore me to sanity. The writer describes having difficulty with the world sanity as insanity was experienced in his/her childhood home, watching his/her mother taken to a psychiat...
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online vs live sponsor?
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Hi all. In recent months I've not attended my F2F group because my Q has no drivers license and my kid had an activity that required me to drive him to/from, and thus miss my meeting. I was literally about to ask a person in my group to be my sponsor, but now I've been away from meetings and I've since learned...
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Thursday ODAT Reading
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So pleased to let you all know that Thursday's ODAT reading will be done by Bbrave. So kind to volunteer to take my place, please give her your support!! {{HUGS}}
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ODAT in alanon, 6/21: character defects
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The reading for Monday, 6/21, says that after doing Steps 4,5, & 6, the writer felt ready to be relieved of their defect of character. Step 7 suggests asking God to remove it (them in my case!). So Step 7 does not imply removal of all shortcomings, but instead each one must be dealt with individual...
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Hope for Today June 20
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Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the influence of other people in our lives. After considering the amends of step 9, the writer wondered about ever repairing the relationship between she and her mother. One member of alanon suggested thinking about what talents had been received fro...
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yanksfan51
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A Saturday Share
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I have made an independent share here, fairly regularly. I enjoy responding to the topics from Alanon's three readers. I really enjoy participating in the topics and discussions. If y'all don't know me- my name is DavidG, and I am a proud member of Alanon. In this group I have created different sign...
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June 18 - ODAT - Moral Inventory
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Today's reading suggests that Step Four -- "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves -- is a way of doing what Socrates is said to have recommended: Know Thyself. We can get away from rationalizing or blaming others for our faults, overcome what blocks us from seeing the truth,and...
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Dealing with the impossible?
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My SO volunteers at the small local cinema- and was out last night. I watched a programme on TV, based in Las Vegas- about a police and probation worker dealing with people with substance abuse. The guy said the recidivist rate was 97%. I had a nephew overdose and die in a house at the back of us here. And...
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DavidG
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How do I know if I'm dealing with a Narscisist?
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I've spent a lot of time with my husband but we've just been married 2 weeks. I have been reading some posts and this scares me but I never thought about this. Sometimes he can seem like he's doing things for me but I question if he really wants something in return. And if I don't always do some things I get so...
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June 17, 2021 – ODAT – Step Three
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In todays reading the author "challenges each of us to Let Go and Let God in all of our affairs." To let go of our self-willfulness to Gods care.Step Three, is a compilation of centuries of philosophical wisdom that are suggested to be greaterthan what we could image. Todays Reminder:"The words, "...
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Having Difficulty With Family Gathering
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Greetings MIP Family! I know that the stress I have been experiencing has to do with a number of annual physicals coming up in July. They are stressful because I had two cancers so this time of year is not always pleasant. Couple that with the fact that I have to drive two hours to see my Mother & Father...
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May 28 - ODAT - Resentment
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Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon talks about resentment and the desire for retaliation against someone who we believe has hurt us. It asks if we really know the other person's motive, and suggests that in some cases the hurt might have been unintentional or we might have been over sensit...
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Sibs. i.e. sisters and brothers.
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I have to apply the serenity prayer. And grieve for relationships. Our parents split up whenI was 26. Mum left home the day after our youngest brother left home. She went through some tough times- but survived and thrived, in the end. Our dad stayed on in the family home until he died. It was a small far...
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DavidG
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Enmeshmebt no differentiation between self
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As you all know whenever I have an opportunity I try to go to classes on recovery I have always struggled with boundaries because of course there were none in my family of origin. Thete were no.boundaryes to protect me and my siblings One of the core issues in my family of origin across the board is enme...
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Maresie888
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Losing My Sister to AA?
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Hi, all. I'm new here. I've been in Al Anon for about nine years (I'm late to the party...see next paragraph)...but there's so much I'm still not able to put into practice. My qualifier -- my twin sister -- has been sober for more than 25 years. I had hoped that, by this time, her life wouldn't still be com...
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Courage to Change June 16
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Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the necessity of detachment, a topic that we tend to talk about a lot in Al-ANon. One kind of detachment is detachment with love from those dealing with addictions. The author shares that many alcoholics need to "hit a bottom" and become uncomfo...
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Learned helplessness- old habits die hard.
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We didn't take our kayaks out once this year- they still sit on the garage floor. Fact is that we went to rowing six or seven times. We have an old English caravan- and hauled i dover the pass into the next big valley. Two of our grand-kids are rowers. Both were in the national champs- and we ended up goin...
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briefly I don't like change or challenges
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I don't like to have to adjust myself to whatever comes my way! I am very stubborn & really don't like change at all. I know that the only constant thing is change. I have tried to work the Program on these issues & lately I can't stand the way I have been thinking. I am managing to live one day at a tim...
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PTSD STRUGGLE
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Good morning family. I am very rocky this morning and dealing with PTSD which originated from way back when as I fought the insanities not only of alcoholism and drug addiction and also the start of the war in Hawaii and over my home town. It has carried on till the present on a daily basis and fortifie...
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JerryF
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Sad and missing my sober spouse...
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Well, we made it nearly 2 months and now he has relapsed. I'm so exhausted from these ongoing highs and lows...sober 2 months/relapse/sober 2 weeks/relapse on and on. My kids are devastated that he is drinking again, especially my oldest. And I die inside a little more every time we go through this...
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Need support and probably advice
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I pretty much knew some of what I was getting into. I married my boyfriend who I guess it's 'right' to call him an addict as he's smoked pot 50 yrs. Overall maybe it doesn't interfere with our relationship but I don't know enough to realize it is. I have seen him in stressful situations where I see how it aff...
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Scheduled for rehab
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My son is scheduled for in treatment rehab. Please pray he doesnt change his mind. He is killing himself. I know I have no control and I put it in Gods hands, but all prayers are appreciated. Just joined this group last night but I belong to others also. Thank you
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Micatee54
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