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i have the same problem,thinking of what the other person is not doing marty will,i also had had where i never measure up to my dad and it did not matter ,what i did,it was not good enought,but my dad been gone sence 84.i thought i tell you so you can get some back round on me and were i am coming from,it the same problem not getting this person to do what i want but as one of my good friends say you dont have this problem with other like you do with this one,i feel it a controll problem and how do i work on it,
I am a alcoholic i got a few years sober,and i got both ism alanon and alcoholic,i am in bad shape this is driving me crazy,
what ever you subjest i will do i am at the end of my rope? this person if
i sent them a message that i am mad i get a lot of message.
Marty, can you get to face to face meetings? This feeling of needing control is really common among those of us whose lives have been affected by alcoholism, and working the steps, going to meetings, and reading the literature will help.
There are meetings here, twice a day, and the chat room is always open. Also, you can post on the boards anytime, just to let your feelings out. Welcome.