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A friend of mine in the program is getting a divorce from her husband the A after 20 years of marriage. They are both known well in the local programs.
Yesterday I received an email from her announcing a divorce party when she gets her final papers.
I'm just not sure this is a good thing....what are your opinions?
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Everything I have ever let go of has claw marks all over it.
I look at this kind of thing as a way a person announces a new beginning. Kind of like a Mortgage Burning party -- in a sense.
If you know this person well, and you know they are grounded in their program, go and celebrate their new beginning. I wouldn't worry about it becoming a Roasting party of the other person.
Sometimes there is a need to make a final break with the old, this maybe their way of doing it. If you want to go, go. If you don't, offer her/him a hug of support and friendship.
Who knows - some divorce parties are a lot of fun, some dissolve into bitterness. If you feel uncomfortable, don't go - show her your support in some other way.
