The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
what can you do? what do you want to do? at one point in my recovery when my ah relaspsed i went running around crack town looking for him. at a latter point in my recovery when he relapsed i went to a meeting, made some calls and stayed put. and the final time my ah relaspsed i left because i knew beyond a doubt that there was nothing i could do for him but there was something i could do for me. what i am saying is you have to do whatever feels right to you. whatever will give you some peace. pray,talk,cry,scream. at him or someone who understands but try to think of something that will relieve your pain. it will get better.....
Hugs to you ... hang in there and take some time for you! Give yourself some pampering, have a hot bath with some candles, engage in your favourite hobby, read a good book. Just take care of yourself - try not to get caught up in his relapse.
Just deal with you. Take some time for yourself... a day at a museum, day spa, anything to help relax. Even if he isn't okay, that doesn't mean that you can't be.
Thanks for your responses. It's funny how you forget about things like taking care of yourself when you're busy taking care of everything else. It's 40 miles to the nearest al-anon group, so I was very glad to find this site.
I'm glad you found this site too. Remember you didn't cause it, can't control it and can't cure it. The best thing you can do is take really good care of YOU! You're in my prayers.
ya survive!!!! you work the steps, you call someone (reach out), go to a face 2 face meeting and ask for ESH (experience, strength, and hope). you come to this website and ask for the same. you read a book. you make yourself food. you give yourself a break and tell yourself "I didn't cause it, I can't cure it, and I definately can't control it!!!"
Then you make a Peanut Butter, Banana, and Syrup sandwich, and take a hot bath ---wink--- or whatever your fave thing to eat and then relax would be...
with love cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
Mookie, ask yourself this question as many times a day as you need to....
"What would I be doing right now this very minute if he had not started drinking again?"
Then promptly go and do that very thing. The best thing for you is to continue living. If you crawl down in that hole with him neither one of you will ever get completely out.
NEXT.........call your sponsor that's what they are for.
HUGS....sorry it has happened again but this time of the year all sorts of *@&# happens.
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Everything I have ever let go of has claw marks all over it.
