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afmom03 · Veteran Member

hippietippiechick! Read this!!

afmom03 · Veteran Member

OOOPS!! Forgive me hippietrippiechic!!! I spelled your screen name wrong in the Topic block! I'm s~o~r~r~Y!!! <LOL> Hugs, Korinne

CJ · ~*Service Worker*~

"because you don't need it anymore"

Perhaps, hanging on to it could do you good in the future.

love

cj

ZiggyDoodles · Senior Member

She has an ODAT in route. I agree with CJ in hanging on to it. I didn't get healthy over night.

Ziggy

irish54 · Senior Member

We get "healthier" but we never reach the point where we don't need the program.

Please take care of yourself and "keep coming back"!

Love,

Irish

hippietrippiechick · Senior Member

I receieved the ODAT book Saturday in the mail. I am so relieved, but tonight I am really dealing with some shit sorrry for the bad language. I am going to my parents for the first time in a few years tomorrow and he will not leave me alone. a fly on crap. I think I would be better off if we separated. Maybe he is buying time. He just asked me to pour beer out for him. I did one then said that will only work if you pour it yourself. Now he is going shopping for more beer.

Cunning baffling and very powerful.

Sometimes I wishI would just be taken to heaven in my sleep.

Thanks to all for the help.

If anyone has any other books I would be good to read let me know. Not trying to be a bum.

Fifi · Senior Member

hi
i know what it feels like to wish change could magically come overnight
we can't count on that
my advice is don't wait to go there in your sleep...what is heaven in your heart?...what makes you feel calm and true and strong?....do that right now....take one step towards it. good advice for myself at this moment too :)

gayle · Veteran Member

Pour the beer out or don't......but if you do......don't lecture him or scold him. Remember the do's and don'ts....nagging, scolding, complaining, self righteousness.....all Don'ts. If you pour his beer out.....just do it. If you don't want to....then don't. Nothing you say or don't say to him will get him sober.....only his sincere desire to stop drinking, and you can't instill that in him unless you ask him to leave......then he won't have anywhere to sleep, then he MAY stop drinking and go to AA. As long as you continue to enable him by giving him a place to live, you will suffer consequences. Nothing any of us on the message board can say to you, or do for you....you must be honest with YOURSELF about the situation. I would start going to alanon meetings, and get a sponsor, and learn about detachment. Otherwise, you will continue to vent about things that you are completely powerless over, and nothing will change. Our enabling of the alcoholic is just as bad as the alcoholic's drinking.

ally · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((Afmom))))

You are having a laugh, right? You are giving a NEW member a book to help them (wonderful of you to do). But, Hey. Al-Anon Is a life programme.

I am totally gobsmakes here. PLEASE think about where your life Is going. You don't give up Al-Anon because you are leaving the A. You continue to work your programme, and Improve your life, for your benefit, your satisfaction and your happiness.

I'm sorry If you don't agree with me here, but c'mon, did Al-Anon not teach you anything (lol).

PRAYING you stay In recovey

Love

Ally

hippietrippiechick · Senior Member

Ally, that was very true, insightful and helpful even if you may not have meant it to be directed to me personally. I want to learn to live my life in peace with the A or not. I think I will hang on to this beautiful program a while longer--one day at at time.

But did you mean that sending someone a book was a bad idea?

debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

noooo hippiechickeroni, she meant when we have books, we never know when we might need them again... speaking from experience....I sent mine becuz someone was in real need, i can get more.

I wish I wasn't so darn poor, I would send you some. I don't know if you can afford it or have an checking account, but you can put the name of a book in the search engine and it will take you to wear you can get them online, even very used ones cheap but still great.

Remember I suggested calling an alanon number? You could talk to someone and see if they would be willing to bring some literature by to you. I sure know I would. Most would be happy to or even mail it to you.

You keep coming here and venting too, that is a big part of our recovery, letting it out, the more we let it out the better we feel. And you may get responses about your vent that might help.

much love,debilyn

gardengal · ~*Service Worker*~

I would just like to add that most libraries carry alanon literature,,,and it can be borrowed read,,,re-borrowed and read as much as you need it. Something to think about if you cannot afford a book at this time!

ally · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((((((Hippietipplechick)))))))))))))

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooo I never meant sending you a book was a bad idea. I apologize If I gave you that impression. I'm glad you got the book and you have Al-Anon.

I was simply refering to giving away a book as In NOT longer needing It.

Hope you stay with Us Hippi, and I'm glad I was able to give you Insight.

Your friend In Recovery

Ally

hippietrippiechick · Senior Member

Please pray for me that I can have the nerve to call the number to see if someone from Al-anon will visit me. Pray for me that I will have the faith, courage, and strength to let someone in. I let you all in and I don't know you all, but we all share a common bond. That is the "glue" that holds Al-anon together, relating to each other's experience. Thanks

lin0606 · ~*Service Worker*~

Meeting others in the program face to face is scary, but it also is very freeing - when you say these things in real life to real people, they lose so much of their hold on you. There is a reason why in so many traditions of healing - from confession in the Catholic Church to psychiatry to 12 step groups - telling your 'secrets' out loud to another human being is central.

I would be very surprised if there is no way for you to get to meetings, if you reach out and call. Someone will be happy to drive out and get you - in fact, the 'mini-meeting" that the drive would provide may prove as helpful as the actual meeting.

In real life we are not very scary, just a group of women and men with a common problem. We're from all walks of life, from all social and racial groups. Some of us are articulate and verbal, some have a hard time talking. The only thing you need to do to fit in is to come.

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