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rtexas


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(((((Everyone)))))


The holiday season is upon us, rushing around decorating and shopping and cleaning up to get ready... whew I am bushed.  But an oportunity came up to go out last night with my AW came up last night and I jumped on it.


We had a nice time, she was in a good mood.... and she didn't drink at all.  I was shocked.  It is the first time in years that we have done anything together til late evening and she was not drinking.  Seriously at least 5 years.


She had a good time too.  I am trying to not read to much into it and just be grateful, and I am so very grateful.  It almost seems a little sad that "that" was enought to make a fuss over, but it is a huge thing. 


I do love her so very much, and I am so glad to see why every once in a while.  Through all the raging, threats and manipulation.... there is a truly wonderful person in there.  I just don't get to see her very often.


I hope everyone has a wonderful Holiday! You are all a precious gift to me.  Thanks for being here.


Take care of you!


 



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Right on , Don't miss the good days !!

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(((RT)))


So glad you were able to enjoy your wife sober.  It is great that she also experienced a good time without the alcohol.  I think its those small bursts of seeing ourselves doing healthy things together that keeps the hope burning within us.  Your AW should feel good about herself that she was able to have a good night without the drinking and the negativity that seems to follow for her after.  I hold on to those times; especially when things get tough. 


Have a blessed day,


Twinmom~



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(((RT)))

that is so great!!!

You are the ultimate example of how this program should be worked. Newcomers should read all your posts from the beginning. I know it has been a bumpy road for you and that you love your wife very much. You have done all the "next right things".

I hope your wife seeks recovery and the two of you can reunite.

Have a wonderful holiday season.

Gail

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(((((Gail)))))


Way to put me on the spot... LOL 


"You are the ultimate example of how this program should be worked..."  I don't know about that statement, but with your help I haven't killed anyone ... yet,  including myself.  LOL


((((TM))))


I think that is a great idea... make a small pile of the good times in a place where I can find them easilly... for those days that aren't so great.


(((((Louise)))))


Thanks for all your support... couldn't do it without you.


Take care of you!



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I am so glad you had some "good time" with her. I was always thankful for that.


I also hope you have more. Because you are using your alanon skills, you will be able to appreciate the good in your AW.


It is hard for others to understand that we love them. To have a bit of a remission from the Aism is precious.


much love,debilyn



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(((RT)))

She gave you a great gift!! I'm even proud of her! LOL!!
and you too of course :P
It's wonderful when they give a glimpse of the person inside.

Christy

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Hey I agree!  Take what happiness you can get!  Have a great holiday!  You are doing so great!


 


Julia



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Rtexas,


Did you write a letter to Santa? We all know that you have been a "good boy" this year!! 


 Sounds like a wonderful gift.  So very glad both of you were able to enjoy the evening.  Will send out prayers & good thoughts that soon you will be sharing many, many, nights like that together. 


Thanks for sharing your recovery with us,


Rita



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RT


So glad that you had a nice evening with your A.  My very best days are when my AW decides not to have a drink - doesn't matter what we do - it is just a wonderful day!  I'm happy for you.  Best wishes,


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That is so awesome!  You deserve it - I'm very happy for you! What a miracle, eh?  Enjoy your holidays and thanks for the positive and upbeat message - so glad you had a good day to balance out the others.


A big hug



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Brother rTX,


Truly, sounds like a great time.  I hope you can detach the night, like a scratch and sniff, and put it on the fridge.  These were the times that kept me plugging through the midst of the muck; not to be a downer, but don't let the boundries you have worked so hard to set slip. She needs them, as well as you, to get healthier --- I know that is something you've already learned, but thought perhaps a reminder is due (as I need reminding about every 5 minutes of how good a manipulator my Awife is)


In the meantime, 3 cheers for a whole date with only a tail and forget the cock..... oh, wait.. hmm


cj



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