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Yesterday my siblings and I and our families gathered at my brothers house for a Christmas celebration.
My mother's best friend was there. (My mom is deceased 7 years now)
My mom's friend was happy to see a smile on my face and to hear my plans to move into a new apartment with my boyfriend of 6 months.
She said that my Mom would be so pleased to see me happy.
Then she said, "you did not have a normal life you know".
And I cut her off and got defensive a bit, became gentle with her and said "I did not know" Once I realized how out of control things were I left. Then I changed the subject
Tough stuff. I like to sweep those bad years when my ex ah drank 24/7 and was abusive and put it under the rug, glue the rug down tight and put an elephant on top.
I am grateful today for the return of my physical, mental and emotional health.
I am grateful for MIP and alanon.
I am grateful for my dear friends who helped me to help myself.
Thank-you all and Merry Christmas
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
I have realized this year that denial is kinda like an athelete on steriods. It covers certain pain, but allows you to really hurt yourself without knowing it.
I guess my only trick now is.... what is normal? LOL
Glad things are going well for you, you deserve it!
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
We can acknowledge it, only we don't have to relive it, rehash it, dwell in it or let it consume us. Acknowledging it was real and that it was part of life at one time is healthy. What you did was just that, that is so healthy.
Sometimes I look back, it gives me perspective -- that's not a bad thing. I just can't stay in the past, nor do I want anyone to draw me back there where life wasn't good. I'd rather live in the present Today is where I can be active in my life, yesterday -- was just that yesterday.
I couldn't have said it any better Lunamoth! So true!! It took YEARS and YEARS for me to understand it, just the way you said it!! As you know...I'm starting a new life here short-ly, and it won't always be easy trying to put this past 3 years behind me. But...I have learned from it, and became stronger for it, and I won't crawl under a rock and die because of it! I am moving on again...just like all the other times! I wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for some of the things I've been through growing up, and it'll be that way from here on too. Right? Hugs, Korinne
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Today, I am grateful to be on the path of dealing with my life and continuing to grow truly stronger.
I am so thrilled that things have worked out happily for you Megan. May the coming year, and all the ones after that be filled with joy for you and yours.
Hard to believe the road you have travelled. You have been such an inspiration to me. I am not sure that anyone has ever lived a "normal" life. I bet when taken a closer look at all those people who seem to have a "normal" life, they really don't. The difference is is how we handle them. Remember you did the best you could at that particular moment in time.
I am glad that you are moving in with your boyfriend. He's a lucky man.
Merry, merry Christmas sweet lady. Love and blessings to you and your guy. Enjoy your first Christmas together. May it be extra special.
Live strong,
Karilynn, Hubby and Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Today is where I can be active in my life, yesterday -- was just that yesterday.
It took YEARS and YEARS for me to understand it, just the way you said it!! As you know...I'm starting a new life here short-ly, and it won't always be easy trying to put this past 3 years behind me. But...I have learned from it, and became stronger for it, and I won't crawl under a rock and die because of it! I am moving on again...just like all the other times! I wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for some of the things I've been through growing up, and it'll be that way from here on too. Right? Hugs, Korinne
