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I went over to my new one and only friend's house Sat. nite for margaritas. I brought all the stuff to make this great soup and she was supplying margaritas and all the kids came too. She also has 3 kids. both she and I are recently separated. Everything was great until the neighbor woman came over who apparently wishes she was separated. She decided to get totally drunk and then go home and abuse her husband. Her kids were also in and out of the house. Finally there was talk of the police being called so I gathered up my brood and we went home. My friend was sucked into the whole mess between her neighbor and the husband and she loves their kids too.
Moral of the story, I am glad I didn't get sucked in a walked away (more like RAN). I was proud that I didn't try to do anything but get my kids out of there. I observed what it was like - actually worse than it was when I was with my A and my kids did too. My kids go to school with the drunk woman's kids and are friends. Now they know they're not alone for sure! I probably could have left earlier but wanted to feel safe to drive home and give some time for the alcohol to wear off. I don't think I'll be hanging at that friend's house anymore, she can come to mine.
I did get a chance to talk to the ex bf on the internet and then by phone and he was happy to hear from me. The only one I ever dated long term who wasn't a drunk or druggie. I left him because he was too boring and didn't have enough ambition. Still lacking in the ambition but I know he's safe and not an A or addict. There I go putting the cart before the horse again. ODAT!!!! Today and only today!
Daughter likes me when I drink... so she says. I smoked too and they were mortified by that. Think next time I'll just leave them home and go out somewhere. I thought it would be fun for them to have some other kids to play with. They had a good time and were outside most of the night. Then it started to go down hill and I made a point to point out to her that she's not alone. Her friend was very upset with her mom and called her a drunk and walked home. Maybe they'll talk about it together.
