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I posted this on my blog last night......I have realized that I am enabling on of my sons. I have asked him to leave my house for now and will talk when emotions have calmed down. He is spending his weekends drinking and smoking pot...I think that is all he is doing.....I will say that people who think they can smoke pot and continue to have a good life are lying.....the motivation that is lost is so sad to watch, especially for a parent.
From my blog:
19 1/2 years ago there was a little round baby angel with shocking white hair that was given to me to care for and to love. After he appeared in the world .... the doctors rushed to help this little angel....because he was not breathing nor did he have a heart beat. I know for a fact that those 6 minutes were the longest 6 minutes of my life! This little angel grew, he was loving, and at times very sad. When I was angry with him he always could make me laugh.....how can you stay angry at an angel with blue eyes? He was chubby and sweet and so very full of love. He was such a cuddler when he was little.
My angel has lost his way in the last couple years. He has stumbled and tripped, I keep helping him.....I am starting to think that because I am helping him to get back up that he can't get up on his own. My angel is so smart, he has such a beautiful heart and soul. His calmness reminds me of my father, his unconditional love for others reminds me of my mother. I want him to love himself, to see what he truely is....so I have to stop helping him up.....I DON'T WANT TO....but I know I have to so that he can find out how strong he really is.....I hope my angel knows how much I love him.....that my heart aches when he is unhappy......
Hate that you are dealing with this difficult time right now - it is tough to let our children learn to walk their own way. Keep reaching out for the strength & support you need - that's what we are here for - that's what your HP is for.
Progress not Perfection,
Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
I can totally relate! Tough love can be so difficult, but necessary. Plus I thinks it helps them to find their way. Once we stopped enabling and setting boundaries, that is when our son decided to get his act together and grow up. God has seen us through......it has been painful, but there has been growth. I will pray for your son....May God Bless.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. Your post was beautiful though!! Your son knows you love him (he may not see it right now, but deep down he knows)! I pray that you can keep your courage and strength up! Good luck to you.
