The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
It is an eye opening book. I got it used on Amazon for $4. It was reprinted in 1992, but the symptoms and solutions contained are no less than amazing. I was awestruck by the depth of analysis that I can apply to myself. Friends, if you have not already, read this book. I'm sure it is included in many of the F2F literature libraries.
Love
Broken husband
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A friend of mine just gave me that book. I have not yet begun to read it but I intend too. I also have one of Melody Beattie's other books that I just picked up from the library when they were having a book sale. It's called "CHOICES" -Taking Control of Your Life and Making It Matter. Again, I have not read it yet as I am reading a book called "Tired of Trying to Measure Up". My counselor passed this one onto me. So far, from what I have read, I can see me in it.
I just read it and it is awesome - right on point with our behaviors, don't you think? It really made me see my own behaviors and waht I do to keep myself stuck in my illness.
It is a great book. My counselor advised me to get it. It helped alot--just seeing my part in my life--why things were going the way they were. I need to reread it--I think it is one of those you could read over and over again and get new things from it, since there is so much information inside.
Yes, this is an awesome book. There is also a companion daily mediatation book that is very similar to Courage to Change. I read that often too. Best wishes,
Great book. Recommended to me by a thereapist after seeing that I was realizing some of my codie behavior via Alanon.
I subscribe to an email that sends a the page of the day from the Language of Letting go if you'd like to check it out before you buy you can subscribe.
Send me a PM and I'll send it to you. I don't want to post the email on the web for fear of the address getting spammed. It's a yahoo group.
I'm also reading Codependent's Guide to the 12 Steps by Melody Beattie right now.
Bob
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Guide to the 12 steps is very good, also, but didn't quite give me the eye-opening insight that codependent no more did. Why I liked it so much is PROBABLY because I'm still NEW to all of the Al Anon family, therapy and information.
yours in recovery,
cj
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The Codependency Guide to the 12 Steps by this same author is one I have been perusing. I am enjoying it. It does have some helpful insights I have never really though of before. It sits next to the bed. I read several for a few minutes each night. I will soon be done and then on to Codeoendent No More.
Another book that has helped me alot is Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward. Opened my eyes to new perspectives of how and why things happen around me as they do. And, to be honest, was a bit of a mirror in how I try to get other people to do what I want....an even harder yet more valuable lesson.
keep coming back, CJ...you're worth it!
Susan
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Plan B? Yea, Plan B - sounds so official, especially when we're flying by the seat of our pants! (from Dukes of Hazzard, paraphrased by my teenager)
CJ, yeah Cody No More was the eye opener. the 12 step book helps me see how my cody traits will be hopefully improved by working the 12 steps.
A therapist I was seeing said that I was no fun. He said he usually gives his clients that are showing Codie traits the pages with the characteristics and watches their head to a bobble head but that I was talking about stuff coming out in my meetings and Alanon was really heading me in the direction of awareness, acceptance and action of those traits.
Bob
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I read that book a long time ago, I think I have another copy lying around I gave it to my daughter to read. Perhaps I need to read it again. I think I know my rules now about "helping" and "fixing". I just ordered "the sociopath next door" I'll let you all know how that is. It's about dealing with sociopaths and says that 1 in 25 people are sociopathic.
I tried to read it about two years ago....it was too much of an emotional journey, I was just coming out of the denial state...LOL but thanks for the reminder, maybe I will try again.
