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I would like to offer my apologies, I thought I was doing something that felt right to me. In pointing out how It can be hard for males to approach Al-Anon.
I never thought I was doing any harm. I now know I named nicks on the board, without asking anyone how they felt about It.
That was a defect on my part. I would like to apologise to ALL men I named In the post.
I'm still learning and YES I can make mistakes, but In standing up and admitting them, It shows I'm moving In the right direction, on my programme.
This has been a lesson to me, about THINK before you Type (lol).
At least you made the error on the side of love and goodness and you weren't bashing anyone....lol Sometimes that room policy of "who you see here and what you say here, stays here" is kind of hard because it all seems like one place (the board and the chatroom). Plus, some men post here and some don't, some men go in to chat and some don't and it gets kind of blurry sometimes. If I wasn't a hen, I'd forgive you..lol
Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
I have "named nicks" on the board too without even thinking about it. I can tell you for me, you can name my name any time any where you like. I do not care who knows I am in al-anon. In fact, just last nite I was on the phone with a tech support person (my internet was down) for over an hour. When all was said and done, the tech says to me, sir, I admire your patience and the fact that you never once got upset. I just laughted and told her, you can thank my program for that.....a few years ago, we would have had an entirely different experience!
Anyway, no harm done here! And thanks for the post my friend!
Darlin girlfriend, have inserted foot in my mount many times.......lol......you are a kind and thoughtful lady...take it easy.....anytime you want to mention me.....just type away......
Ally, Being one of the guys in the room, I was never offended. I appreciated your honesty and appreciation for us being here. Most of us men have a hard time reaching out for help and when we do, to get the appreciation you showed us, helps us to it more in the future. To realized that we are not judged for needing help. So from me, even though I understand why you made this post, I never felt offended and hope that you I continue to learn from you.
As a member of the minority here... no amends required here. LOL I can't get into the chat from my pc, so the public board is all I have. My name is all over it, so don't fret that I might have been offended in any way.
I think you are great, and a our strength is in numbers. Keep on keeping on.
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
you have been a source of strength and education for me. i truly appreciate you being in here and making a difference in my life. feel free to use my stories/postings/gender anytime to better the life of someone. that goes for all you hens and roosters. the betterment of society is a personal goal of mine and probably that of all of you senior members... and probably will be for all the newbies that stick with our support group.
(((bro's/sis's)))
cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
So I went scurrying through the archives to see what you this was all about. LOL
My therepist said that guys in Alanon are in a distinct minority.
about 90% of guys that are with an A say FUDGE this and split. (I laughed, but he insisted)
Of the 10% that are left, a very small percentage of those actually seek help and/or Alanon.
I've always felt like an oddball. Hearing this made me feel oddly comfortable. Because I like being different, but I think also because it made me think I feel different because I am in some respects.
Bob
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You are a perfect child of God and God and I love you just the way you are! (added by me...in that special alanon way)
I don't know if I will stay with my AW, but the option is hers... here is why, I've learned through these great people and my face to faces that I CAN, maybe, be able, possibly, not likely, but maybe, a little.. get my OH SO Loving wife back to a warm place in my heart. Not that I'm riding the fence on this... but.. maybe
hehe
cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
To all who answered this post, a big thank you. I never knew what kind of response I would get to this one. I think I can honestly say I knew you guys would be like this.
This makes It sooooooooooooo much easier when saying sorry. (especially to the male species) lol
