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I have posted before about my younger son (age 30) having a drinking problem. I don't want to label him as an A but I would say it is a problem.
He is one that will drink on a Friday night and want to continue on when he wakes up on Saturday. By Sunday and probably thru at least Tuesday he feels like crap and says he is not going to drink anymore....for awhile....hah! Well that will last until the next time...usually a couple of weekends down the road... and then the cycle starts over.
He has a wife of almost 5 years that moved here from Japan. She has no family here except us so I feel like I have to be there for her. Sometimes, I get the feeling that she is not comfortable with what I say about the situation and will make excuses about him. And...sometimes she likes to drink with him. It seems to be okay at those times.
My son use to call us late at night when he was drinking. He is the type of drunk that wants to talk to his family. his long lost friends or anyone that will talk to him. I think we finally got him to stop calling us. One day...since Alanon...I grabbed the phone from my H and said to him..."don't call here when you are drinking anymore" and hung up the phone. He then called back...we didn't answer...and left a message about how much that hurt him and that he would just never call again.
Anyway...whether he is an A or not...it is not my business anymore and I feel so happy inside that I am way ahead of the game now.
