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Hi. Just looking for some ways to get through. My AH and I have been together for 8 years. We have 3 kids, I am a fulltime student (graduating with my Associate in Arts in 3 weeks!) and I am really praying hard I can tolerate him until I can find a job that will support me & the kids. He is outside in his "man cave" right now tying one on and I just don't know what to do. I have read some familiar posts tonight. "His drinking is not a problem for him, it is my problem, I just need to get over my control issues...blah, blah, blah....." I just don't know how long I can keep up the facade of the loving but angrily tolerant wife. He has me over a barrel and he is taking advantage of my financial situation. I just can't kick him out until I get my BA and get a good job, which will take another 2 years. Help! I need some grounding..
Hi bigwheel. Welcome to MIP. In Alanon we find experience, strength, and hope. We learn lots of tools. Probably he can see thru the facade. We are angry in these lopsided relationships. In Alanon we learn that we don't have to make any decisions until we are ready. Congrats on your degree. Keep the focus on yourself and your kids.
Welcome , well if u can find time the first thing I would add to your week is at least one al anon meeting u need support people who understand where your at , someone to pick up the phone on a bad day . Congratulations on your graduation in a few weeks , enjoy !!!!!
Keep comming here and things will get better for you . Louise
