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Something seems to be happening with my A son! And....I have nothing to do with it!!!
I can really see this program working big time for me. I think when I first came here I use to think that I would never get to where most of these folks were if the A was to continue drinking. I was doomed to a life of worry, anxiety and unhappiness. With these boards, f2f meetings and now, my sponser, I am truly getting better. I have bad days but I think I have many more good days.
I was speaking to my son last night while he was drunk. He seemed to really want to talk which is very unusual. He told me he needed to do something with his life. He has decided to give himself a deadline to quit drinking. He said it will be New Years. He also said that he thinks he can do it on his own (yeah right) but if he can't he would seek help. Now...the miracle of this is that he came to this decision without any input from anyone. He wasn't going to be thrown out of his home for being a drunk, he wasn't going to be disowned by his family...this was his decision.
Now, I know he cannot do it on his own but I must stay out of his business and let him do whatever he must. He said he knows God has a plan for him. I told him he needs to pray to God to have that plan revealed to him. He says he has been doing that. I know that God is with him and working on him. He has been seeking a job and he is in the restaurant business. This was the first time he has sent out resumes and did not get 1 call. He just doesn't understand it. He says he really wants to get out of this business but knows nothing else. I believe that this is his HP working.
Anyway, he called again this morning because he has not been able to sleep the last couple of nights. He said he knew I would be up so he called me very early. He talked about so many things that has gone on over this past year that I did not think he was ever giving a second thought to.
I just have to keep strong with my program no matter what. Nobody could ever tell me that alot of his thinking has nothing to do with me working a program and not rescuing him this time.
I am just so thankful for Alanon this year especially. I am going to stay out of his way because I now have proof that this is what it is all about.
He told me not to tell anyone about our conversation and his plans to quit (on his own) in January but I felt that I was fairly safe in telling you guys. I had to tell someone of my little Thanksgiving miracle that my A son is in there and thinking about getting back out. So, even if he cannot do it...I know he wants to.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone and I truly love you all.
Wow Gail - that is great about your son - sounds like he may shortly be on the path to recovery.
But most of all, that is awesome about your recovery!! The ability to just listen when our A's decide they want to talk is a wonderful quality that this program gives us. So glad that your HP gave you this glimmer of hope & I'll join you in prayers & good thoughts that your son will find the help he needs to for a better way of life without the drinking & to develop a deeper relationship with his HP.
Wishing you a Thanksgiving filled with serenity, love, peace & sanity,
Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
Awesome that you have that glimmer of hope. Sounds like a seed has been planted. I hope it works out for son. Whatever happens keep the focus on you. You are doing great.
