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maire rua


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Today I have practised setting boundaries, in small things, like refusing to allow people to do what they like in the work environment that I am responsible for. In some ways I am paying for it with snide jokes and bullying behaviour which I am also calling up on. For instance, what do you mean by that is working wonders. I find it extremely difficult though and am thankful for this site. At the moment I am just filling in for someone who is sick but I really feel like just packing it in, I don't need this kind of hassle at present.

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Hate that you are having a difficult day at work - remember you are not responsible for someone else's feelings - You set the healthy boundary to take care of you!! If your side of the street is clean - the rest is all about them - not you. 


Just because they say it doesn't make it true.


Take care of you - Hope that you are able to relax and enjoy the weekend,


Rita


 



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work is huge for me. Recently I asked for some overtime and I was shocked when I got it.  I think it can be very very difficult when you are filling in for someone. I also think it can be very difficult when you have been "soft" on boundaries to go to being tough on boundaries.


Right now I am super tough on who gets to come to the house I live in. The A would have an open house with every tom dick and harry walking through and me feeding them. I stopped all that. Of course I don't have control when I am not here. But when I am at home I don't tolerate the kind of stuff he used to put on me the people coming in and using the place like their second home stuff.


I think it can be very very tough to find where our limits are. I know I cannot be micromanaged at work anymore. I know also there are certain situations I don't welcome.  At the same time I don't have that much experience of successfully setting limits at work.  I know I have experience of solving every crisis there is though! 


I am glad you are here and talking about it.  I think it may take some of us (me  



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