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Well I made a counter offer on the house and the buyer came up a few thousand so we would actually walk away with a few thousand dollars from a house we only owned for 6 mos. I have not been able to reach the A, he is on a runner again. I got a call from his boss yesterday asking if I had seen him. He had been drinking with some coworkers earlier in the day and then disappeared. I decided that I am going to file for divorce and get the state involved in seeking support. I had been working on that yesterday. I cried and cried in the morning over the loss of the man I used to love and the life I used to have and the dreams that have been smashed to bits and the hope that we would reconcile AND AND AND. But my day got much much better and at the end turned out to be a great day! I am worried about my financial situation now. I don't think he's gonna have a job anymore and when he finds out that I have involved the state in child support I think he will disappear! I guess that's not really a bad thing at this point if he does! Things are hard right now but I'm trying to keep my head up and get thru it!
Well upside--you are making a few thousand on the house. Yeah!!!
I'm sorry about the loss of your dreams, I wish dreams weren't so hard to let go!! We all may feel like we were further along in our recovery if we could let go more easily. I'm glad your day turned out to be good.
You might want to look into organizations that help find people who skip out on paying child support. In case your ah does run they might be able to help if you want to go to that trouble. (I don't really know much about that so it could be worth it or not) (WOW that sounds like great help from me doesn't it!)
I hope these next few days, weeks, months go relatively smoothly for you! Going through a divorce is the pits--but we are here to support and love you!
I am sorry, I know it isn't easy. You seem to be handling it very well as best you can. I read a lot of acceptance in your post. I am sure the rest will work itself out.
What big decisions you are making! What big progress! I am so proud of you! I hope you and your sponsor have been in communication as all this has been going on. This is a very big process you are going through--and I'm SO PROUD you are keeping it simple, ODAAT as best you can. You are right, a lawyer will help you sort out finances, attending to the children's needs, and getting professional help for all of you. If you want, I'm sure she could also give you the name of a councelor for yourself. (((MONSTER HUG))) Honey, I'm so proud of you. REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY RALLY Proud.
