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ZMrE2Me


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I found your Web site a few weeks ago, and have attended a few meetings now. At first I felt really awkward and out of place (I am a newcomer to Al-Anon), but that changed during yesterday morning's meeting. For whatever reason, the people in that room were suddenly transformed from anonymous words on a screen into human beings who understand exactly how I feel and what I am going through. I don't know why the shift occurred, but I am so thankful that it did. I have this sneaking suspicion that this place will become a lifeline.
Yesterday was amazing. For the first time in longer than I care to recount I felt centered, strong, capable of making the necessary change that my life has been screaming for. I have been so looking forward to coming back here today. Couldn't wait to get home from work so that I can attend tonight's meeting (not that I'll muster the courage to speak ...). But this night finds me numb and sliding back into the "oh, it's not really as bad as all that" mindset. The thought of losing more of my life to that black-hole thinking is too much to bear. But that is my way ... I hurt, I disconnect, I forget, I remember, I kick myself for being stupid, I hurt, I disconnect ... This time I don't want to forget. I want to look myself square in the eye and ask, "What do I get from this unhealthiness that I've allowed in my life? What is the payoff? How do I relinquish my need to walk this circuit over and over? How do I step off this path and begin to forge a new course? In what direction do I start?"
I think there is something to be said for stopping dead in your tracks and having a look around. When you are "running from" or "running toward" you often don't have time to see the whole picture. So tonight, that is my commitment to myself. I choose to stand still and observe myself and my surroundings. And I choose to remain in this place with others whose whispered and shouted truths will serve as reminders to my ragged, exhausted spirit that I too will recover and reclaim my self.
Thank you so much for being here.

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lin0606


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Welcome.
As you have seen, through meetings and reading the board, we are not all always at our best - some days we succeed, some days we don't do so well. Through seeing others strive and fail, pick themselves up and try again, go one step forward and two steps back, we can learn to be easy on ourselves, forgive ourselves for not yet being the people we want someday to be. I have found, through this program, that small changes I make, baby steps I take, have led to enormous changes in what I will and will not put up with.

You took a long time getting to where you are, you won't get better all at once, and that's OK. Looks like you're in the right place.

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twinkie


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Welcome!  You sound like you have a very healthy perspective and are asking yourself the right questions.  What I've found is that I am not alone and it is a blessing to know we can help one another one day at a time.  I hope you find the same to be true.


A hug to you, keep coming back! :)



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canadianguy


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Welcome, and hope you enjoy both the meetings and this board.  Posting here is a huge and wonderful step in the right direction as well.... It is said that we are "all right where we need to be" on our paths of recovery, and you sound like you are well on your way to getting yourself better!!  There are many great people here, with tons of similar experiences to share....


Take care


Tom



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Lexie


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Welcome! I'm so happy you found us.  I wish you well as you work your recovery and I look forward to getting to know you better.  Keep moving forward........one step in front of the other........one day at a time. 


Blessings to you ~ Lexie



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albertarose


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Welcome! I am very new to AlAnon as well. I have many of the feelings that you mentioned. Walking through Alanon doors two months ago, I am now changeing me and not someone else. I always felt responsible for the A in my life as well as others. I took on al their responsibilities so that they can feel better. I felt that I could do more or I could watch what I say so I do not upset th A in my life. The only person I was really hurting was myself. I was distraught. Alanon is helping me grow in new ways and I am now for the first time in years NOt taking responsibility for anyone but myself. I still have a long road ahead of me and I am looking forward to the journey ahead of me. Keep coming back and you will find your way too.


 


Albertarose



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nycbt


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Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html 


Here are some things that have helped me since in the program.



  • Go face to face meeting & online meeting.
  • post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.

·        In this program u learn that u have choices. In Alanon we don’t give advice but only suggestions.


·        Set support system.  people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first this program.



  • Have a sponsor. Someone work one on one with you.

You don’t have to do this the minute u come to the program but I suggest that u do it when u can. It help.


 


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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
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