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Hi again. I wanted to share my story. My user name says it all... I am sensitive. VERY sensitive. As is my mother who is the alcholic in the family. She was bout 10 years older than I when she started to drink. (I am 32) and she was really upset bout work and then thought the booze would help her nerves (she worries like me). Anyway her mother and her mothers mother were both Alcholics. Well my father lives in a "dream world" meaning that he refuses to see that my mother is a drunk. That have estranged me cause of my faith and my low tolerance of her cold behavior when she is drunk. Anyway I met this girl online last year on a sensitive message board. just the other day she Ditched me for a minor disagreement AND ASSURED me that she wants nothing to do with me cause of an insecure thing. She even called me her best friend we talked for hours every day. IT really crushed me soooooo much that I felt depressed (i am generally a happy upbeat person). WEll when this happened I could not sleep nor eat. I have to be honest last night I took 2 Advil PM and I felt kinda out of it. I liked feeling that way... AM I turning into my mother. I have to admit this is not the first time. work was stressing me out and for a week or so I have been taking 1 Advil PM...but this online friend hurt me so bad I wanted to be sure that I would be numb. I need your help, cause I want to have that feeling again tonight! AGAIN am I turning into my mother is this my highly sensitivity or anxiety???
Welcome to MIP, this is a great place to share and learn about yourself. You've already started it seams...
Personal honesty will do wonders for your growth. If you feel that this might be, or become a problem. You now have the ability to make a choice.
You asked "am I turning into my Mother..." like it is something you have no choice in the matter. I am not trying to be ugly or hard on you, but you are blessed with the ability to make the choice not to.
Nobody here can answer your question but you. We on the other hand can support you and your decissions, and give you the information you need to understand that you can do anything, and the most important person in your world ... is you! That's a big responsability, but you can do it.
I hope you will stay and post often. There are wonderful people here, and they and this program have literally been a life saver for me.
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Sorry about what happened with your friend. People here in the meeting room are often good listeners; you may want to try it out.
As to the advil pm, they say addiction and alcoholism runs in families. It certainly does in mine. I know when I was younger and went out drinking with friends I could certainly see the appeal of mind altering substances such as alcohol. I also knew the drawbacks from my family which is loaded with alcoholics and drug addicts. I only have 1 or 2 drinks at a time and I cannot remember when I had more than 10 drinks a year.
I have taken antidepressant medication for clinical depression also. But it was under a doctor's care and by prescription.
I guess, like rtexas said, no one can make the call but you, if it is a problem for you to take the medicine. My understanding is that there is ibuprofen and benadryl in advil pm. I am not exactly sure. These are for inflammation and/or pain and allergies usually but together they can provide temporary relief to sleep. If you start using them "to feel out of it" be aware that they probably won't have that effect for long. Perhaps you should check with your medical doctor about using them for sleep. Good luck.
You are completely powerless over your mother and her addiction. You did not cause her to drink,you cannot control her drinking and you definetely cannot cure it. You do however have control of you and your actions. I know you do not want to be like her so you have the choice to seek help if you need help with your advil usage or you can stop on your own. Don't let it ruin your life. There are other alternatives of numbess. Writing is on of them. I speak from personal experience. When i felt the need to take a pill which i sometimes still get i would write poetry. It helped me a lot. It is just a suggestion. Just know there are other coping mechanisms out there and you are never alone.
Lauren
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I believe anytime we try to numb our feelings with a substance it is a red flag and should be adressed. Pills will never make the problem go away. These are issues carried within. Most likely the friends "ditching" you is not the core problem, how you feel is a reaction to past events.
When we can discover the cause, we then can recognize the "why" and deal with it accordingly instead of letting it get larger.
Letting it get larger without help can be like shaking up a soda can and letting it spray out every which way. For instance, people can become so needy they will accept bad treatment and call it a friendship. They make up stories and lies for attention and pity from those friends, thinking it will keep them close. People eventually see right through it and feel manipulated. The very reason for doing all this is to keep friends but becomes the reason there is none.
The 12 steps of Alanon help us work through these "core" problems, whatever they are. We become much healthier inside and out.
Keep coming back Christy
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That is such wonderful insite to that friend who ditched me. Others (a Preacher, my Doctor and a counselor and a best friend) has told me that she was never my friend in the first place to do such a hateful thing to me! You really pointed that out well my dear friend!!! Thank you
I also want to thank Athena, Lauren and Rtexas for your kind words and support.
YOu all have made me feel welcome here. I cant wait to write more!!!
When my father was struggling with dementia and then lung cancer, I would sometimes take a half dose (one tab) of tylenol pm to get a good night's rest. Especially on Sunday nights, after commuting 300 miles to his house for weekends and trying to prepare for work the next day. I felt fine about it, I had to get caught up - I had my job waiting for me on Monday mornings. I needed to rest.
Now, I deal with my A, god love her, and it is stressful. My husband and I do SLEEPYTIME tea in the eves, and we have our favorite comfort foods for dinner, on tough days. I read. We watch tv. We listen to music. We talk. We go to Alanon. Call friends. Paint a wall (we're into home improvement over here.) My husband will have an inch of red wine (he has no alcohol issues, so it's cool..)
Have you tried B12 everyday? It helps me with stress.
When my father was struggling with dementia and then lung cancer, I would sometimes take a half dose (one tab) of tylenol pm to get a good night's rest. Especially on Sunday nights, after commuting 300 miles to his house for weekends and trying to prepare for work the next day. I felt fine about it, I had to get caught up - I had my job waiting for me on Monday mornings. I needed to rest.
Now, I deal with my A, god love her, and it is stressful. My husband and I do SLEEPYTIME tea in the eves, and we have our favorite comfort foods for dinner, on tough days. I read. We watch tv. We listen to music. We talk. We go to Alanon. Call friends. Paint a wall (we're into home improvement over here.) My husband will have an inch of red wine (he has no alcohol issues, so it's cool..)
Have you tried B12 everyday? It helps me with stress.
Good luck, and RELAX. You deserve it.
Best wishes, Kabbie
Hi there, and thank you so much for your kind words!!!!... Yeah I just may try to take B-12. Do you know what foods have B-12. BTW I have a horrible sweet tooth!!!...
