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I have read every post and every reply in gathering up the strength to meet my AW to pick up my son today. She is picking him up from school and I am getting him at 6:00 when I get off.
I am glad they have some time together each day.
Today she is still upset about the situation... doesn't understand why marriage counceling wouldn't be a good replacement for this seperation. I just said I think it is the best thing for me right now.
She was upset, but she went back to the apartment and hasn't called me but once.
My son is asleep, and says he understands and "as long as she gets help, it will be ok". I told him I pray for her every night, and I believe with all my heart that everything will be ok. May not go the way we want, or the way we think it will go, but we will be ok.
He was out like a light in 10 minutes. The peace is deafening, but comforting as well.
I am going to try to get some sleep, but I just had to thank my (((((lifeline))))) tonight.
Thank you all. I only hope I can give back some small percentage of the support you have shown me.
Take care of you all!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Enjoy the peace. You must feel a little bit of relief. Hopefully in a few days you and your son will fall into a new routine. I know you've been through a lot in the past couple of days. Take time to relax and enjoy some quality time with your son.
Artygirl.
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Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.
We are all in this together. ESH to help each other. I have to say that reading your posts and following your story, I think that we women behave a little differently under the influence. We are not as strong physically and not perceived intelligent, so I think that we funciton sometimes in a subtle, under the table way. When I read what your wife said, it seems to come out sideways. And that can be crazy making. We say so many times to each other that this is not about you. With your AW she sounds so childlike sometimes and she could be carrying her childhood history with her into these confrontations with you. It is the same with my AHsober. It is like talking to a child. I know that this divorce stuff comes from his childhood but I am receiving the brunt of it because it is too painful for him to go back there. He is so afraid but outwardly belligerent.
Hello rt , its amazing isn't it just how quiet a home can be ? makes u want to turn up the tv and make some noise . I was so used to the constant bickering that silence just about drove me crazy for awhile. I was so used to living in chaos that serenity was foriegn to me. How sad is that anyway. The good news is u get used to it and truly find your comfy in your own skin .
I am glad your son seems to be handling things well , this has to be difficult for all of you. Thinking of you Louise
I am enjoying the same peace.. My children seem so at ease with this it is scary. I almost expected them to cry themselves to sleep but they havent.. I think they enjoy the peace even more than me. I hope you were able to get some sleep. I found it very hard to sleep when this first happened. I was so afraid that I made a mistake throwing him out.. I am sleeping better now but still having a hard time with the seperation. I am glad that you are in peace. Enjoy it my friend !!
I hope you were able to rest last night - for me those first few nights without the chaos were so unusual - I didn't know how to react.
I know that I draw from your strength and courage - because it takes strength and courage to seek a better way - that, my friend, is something I see you seeking for you and your family. A better way.
Wishing you peace & serenity,
Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
((My good good friend)) I want to commend you on exhuding class in a very class less situation. You are settting a wonderful example for your children. Please continue to be emotionally honest and vulnerable with us. Please continue to check in and tell us the truth about where you're at.
Some jokes to make you smile?
About 90 fifth-graders piled into the airliner I was flying, on their way home from a school trip. Once we were in the air and the crew began trying to serve drinks, I could hear them pleading with the children to settle down so the beverages could be served and the other passengers could get some sleep. No amount of reasoning seemed to help, until I thought of the solution that actually worked: I picked up the PA mike in the cockpit and announced, "Children, this is the captain speaking. Don't make me stop this airplane and come back there."
— Joke contributed by Skip White (readers digest)
Once Over Lightly
Volume 26 Issue 11 April 1970
DOCTOR: "I'll have you walking in a month."
LUSHY PATIENT: "How do you know?"
DOCTOR: "When you get my bill, you'll have to sell your car." (AA grapevine)
You do not have to feel selfish for wanting your life to be better .. more sane .. calmer. You do not have to live with anything that makes you feel bad, and changing your situation does not show intent to harm another or even to cause them discomfort. You have the right to find a peaceful place in life for yourself, the right to set aside misguided loyaties and love ... and place priority on loyalty and love for yourself.
I say this to myself as often as needed. It helps most of the time.
Your strength, and hope gives me courage to keep taking my steps forward. Thank you.
You and your family have my best wishes and prayers.
