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It has been a very crazy week for me...so many things are happening...I know we are not to focus on the A but, I feel I need to for a minute...the reality of my husband is that he is homeless...he is living in his truck...he is dirty...same clothes for days now...omg I just keep thinking...how did I stay married to this man for so long....since he has been gone he has lost over 30lbs....he is litterally living every moment of every day chasing his hi and that is all he can see....and I think that is just so damn sad.....
Things are getting better for me and the kids a little baby step every day.....but that is progress and I will take it....Zach is finally going to friends houses again and having a social life...I am really happy about this......Samantha never stoped having a social life...that's a 16 yr old girl for ya.....
Anyway, my thought was....how sad.....how sad to let someting take control and not be able to fight back....how sad for us the families to feel the pain for the addict....how sad watching famalies get destroyed day after day.....just how sad....
Thanks for listening, I so appreciate your warm thought and kind words....this has been a wonderful place of support.....and I thank you.....
It is sad to see the disease win. I am so glad you are here with us dearest friend. Nice to know that Zach is getting out there again. That makes me smile. Hope his football is going good too. Samantha just keeps on going, much like her Mom. As always my family is holding you close in our thoughts and saying prayers for you and your family. We love you dearly.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It sounds like you are doing exactly what you should be. Good for you.. !! I am so sorry that your husband has allowed this disease to win. That really stinks that he would walk away from his children for the feeling of getting high.. !! I am sure he hates himself for it but until he pulls the strength from within it will continue.. In the meantime you focus on your kids and doing things for YOU.. I found it so interesting that my children havent really missed a beat.. My son is 18 and my daughter will be 16 in just 2 months and they are still going strong since my husband has been gone. I try to talk with them but they are like.. Its okay Mom, we understand :) I get so much of my strength from them !!
How sad is so true. I know how difficult this is for you, but you are doing so well and staying focused. I admire you so very much. You are an amazing woman. You are showing great strength and know that your kids are drawing theirs from you. You deserve so much credit.
And Chuck......oh, my gosh! To be so low, when he had so much. What an incidious disease!! It is beyond words!!
Keep your focus on you and your kids, Andrea. You deserve to be peaceful and happy, my dear friend. And you are working hard on it, too.
I am here for you.......praying for you and loving you through it all.
I read your posting and thought about my first husband's life.....I married an A twice...the first one barely makes it every month, we don't talk or email, he doesn't see his kids or grandkids, every once in a while that same thought crosses my mine.."how sad" but then I think of me and the kids and their kids......that's not sad...it's wonderful! All of those things in my life had to happen to get me here where I belong.....Be gentle with yourself, and know you are a compasionate person to think of him, you are loving, caring, and strong, you are a work in progress and you are doing great!!!!
The disease isn't winning completely hon. All it takes is one person to seek recovery and that makes a change in the whole family. I am so happy for your Zach too. I remember when my children began to ease off their vigilance and begin living again.
You are an incredible woman, doing what she has to. I admire you for taking care of you and your children.
Stay strong my dear, love Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
It is so very sad....this disease and how it consumes the addict. But God is helping you move forward with His guidance. I'm glad that your kids are doing better and you are as well. It seems like for too long we give this disease our entire focus and energy, but God has so much more for us. That is what we (I) need to cling to......God's promises. I made a decision to separate myself for a time from my son.....not that he has been back using, but because I needed to take the focus off of him and start living as a family again with more than just his concerns. It has helped having him out of the home....we've been able to experience some much needed peace. I think the two other kids are much more relaxed as well. Tyler keeps in touch and I know it bothers him that I'm keeping some distance, but I think this is what I need to do for now. I have much hope! You continue to be in my prayers, and I'm so glad you are doing ok. I pray for your husband too.....I hate this disease! Take care friend and I hope to catch up with you soon.
