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I hated being controled at any and all times by events outside of myself so I adopted the slogan "Don't react" as one of my prime slogans. With it I can stop myself from rising to the occasion. I learned from my sponsor that when I get angry at any person, place or thing I give control of myself over to that person, place or thing...that I have not accepted. This is what I wanted soooo bad because I hated being under the control and being the victim of ________.
I read this yesterday and really thought about it! Isn't this true? I so wanted alanon to be a quick fix. Step one I am finished, Step 2 got it, Step 3 complete....15 weeks to a new me! I thru in a couple of extra weeks just in case something came up! LOL!
Now I realize I am learning a different way of dealing with life's terms. I am learning how to be aware of my reactions. Aware of my attendance at commitee meetings, and who's choice it is to attend. Aware that if I am confused about something it is usually because I am struggling with acceptance.
When I read Jerry's post I thought he had written "Prime Time Slogan" LOL I think that is what I will call my favs now...When I am loosing my sanity I will think...It is prime time slogan time!
I have been thinking what is your "Prime Time Slogan" Greta?
The answer I have come up with is How important is it?
So many things that have taken away my serenity, on a second look really were not that important. The months I sat on the pity pot stewing over blame, restentments and anger were a total waste. I think now of all the time I gave to those thoughts, days, weeks, months......I sure missed alot of todays...
Now when I start to feel my self getting worked up into a reactionary mode I think...Do you want to go there? Is it that important to you? Do you really need to decide now?
This is where I am at in alanon...Trying to be aware ...Trying to stop bad behaviors...before I have a major slip...slowly I am getting there.
I just wanted to ask u...What are your Prime Time Slogans?
Thanks Jerry! I might not be your Not ready for Prime Time alanonette, but one day at a time...
I am going to have to go with "Mind your own business"
I am a professional busy body. I want to fix everything for everyone except me. If I have learned one thing here it is that if I continue to not allow everyone to be responsable for there own _________. I lose.
Thanks for putting that out there!
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Good post. I would have to say Live and Let Live is becoming my prime time slogan.
As I work toward acceptance and forgivness I am learning to let go of the way others choose to live.It is really not my business.We are all struggling with so many of the same issues.A's, non A's,codies,etc.We're human and this is what it's all about.Trying to find our way.I must not interfere with another's progress.
Actually, I've stuck with the same one since I've come in here. Maybe that's not so good. But given how the drama's never changing in my life, just I'm changing how I respond, I'm sticking with JUST FOR TODAY. And I adapt to "Just for today god, I'm gonna respond to my parents in a loving thoughtful way, in a way that's giving accepting and kind, no matter what happens. Please help me here. Because I always wanna kill'em. "
Keep it simple .... I tend to overanalyze (if y'all haven't noticed that already *sheepish smile*) so being able to stop and focus on the few simple points of any situation brings me the most peace.
The slogan that really affected me was "Would you rather be right or happy?" It was like a slap in the face when I first heard it -- I was making myself miserable trying to be right all the time. Now, after many years, I really don't give much thought about being right -- nad as soon as I do feel my temper or sense of self righteousness rise... I remember that slogan... and I start to let go of it. Being happy is my choice these days. I realized that being happy was my choice, my responsibility, that my happiness wasn't being held hostage by others' actions.... I thin kit was Eleanor Roosevelt who said something to the effect that no one makes you feel a certain way without your permission.
Today, being happy and raising happy children is my goal in life. I would rather be happy than right, any day of the week! :)
As you know I too was one who thought ,,,"Oh I would go to alanon and everything including the A would be back to "normal". Here I am many years later, still going! This program along with its slogans is something that is not a one time deal it is a commitment to live a better life whether the A is still drinking or not. It offers new tools to deal with the anxieties, the ups and downs that life gives us. Progressing further into my recovery, I forget to use such simple slogans that I first used and repeated so desparately when I first started alanon. Thank you for the reminder to use these slogans when needed!....................gardengal
I like the bible passage about not trying to take the speck out of another's eye when you've got a log in your own.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Actually, just about anything Jesus said is good to remember. Jesus said something about not being like a Pharisee and praying loudly out in public for everyone to see you so they will think you are a good person. I like that too.
There's a slogan about doing quietly for others and not looking for your rewards here on earth. That's a good one too.
I am sure there are some Buddhist and Hindu and Confucian religion slogans that I liked if only I could remember them right now.
