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I had begun to think that maybe he wasn't an A. I had even stopped refering to him as an A. Tried working on me and my attitude. And things have improved greatly, so much that when he asked me again to marry him, I said yes. We were planning an Oct. wedding.
Last week he got a call that his oldest son is in jail in a differant state. He can't seem to handle stress with out a bottle so he got really drunk last night. So now I believe he must be an A even if he drinks on rare occasions. He drinks to drown his sorrows away.
I feel I did good. I didn't go into "crisis mode" when he started ranting about every little thing wrong. Before I would have cried a river of tears and took it all personal. But this time I kept my peace and let him rant til he was done.
They come in all shapes and sizes- I hope you two getting married does'nt put more stess on him and you- My husband has drank for at least 11 years that I know of, the last two things have been slipping away- he was arrested recently for owi and refusal, we have two childern or I would have RAN not walked out- Not tring to tell you what to do but just remember if he is an A things WILL get worst before they get better, and it cost a whole lot more to divorce than to get married- I wish you and your A the best i deffinitly believe love is important just don't let it blur your vision-I will keep you in my prayers!!!!
