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hi everyone, i wanted to write about resentments today and share about how we can let them go. why are we holding on to them anyways? resentments get us no where and hurt ourselves more then anyone else. we are all aware of this but yet we still hold on. so what can we do about it? we can practice forgiveness but why are we still not forgetting? just wanted to throw a topic out there and hope you will all share on how you deal with your resentments and how you let them go. take care everyone and have a good day full of serenity!!!
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stay in the now...dont look forward, dont look back....your life is what you make of it
One thing I learned about me and resentments.... if I was having trouble letting go of the resentment, it was because I wasn't practicing Acceptance. In some form or other, I was still trying to control, wanting them to change, holding expectations. When I really started working on simply accepting them for who they are, then the resentments began to fade.
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Let your light shine in the darkness. "I can't just bring my mind to meetings...I must also bring my heart."
wow! this is the third time tonight i have heard this as a topic! must be something hp is trying to get thru to me! when i start feeling resentful i try to think of how i have hurt others. how i am also not perfect and how whoever i am feeling resentful towards is human just like me. kind of brings me back from my holier than thou place and lets me take responsibility for my feelings. not sure if it is the healthiest way but is working for me right now. i am very interested in others replys. great topic!!!
So you caught me! Yea, resentment means to refeel something over and over and not let it go. I have finally figured out that playing my angst about my husband over and over again gets me nowhere. He doesn't know and it doesn't solve anything for me. It just get upset over and over again. I say my mantra and if that doesn't work I say the 12 steps, the serenity prayer, and on down the list.
