the alanon speaker at our convention this past winter was incredible (ofcourse) and she had these steps which continue to crack me up and make me think. it is so close to who i was and who ican slip into being. i hope y'all enjoy them too!

 1. discovered i was powerful over others and your lives were certainly unmanagable

 2. came to believe that i was the power that could restore you to sanity

 3.i made a decisionthat i was the powerthat you should turn your will and life over to

 4.i made a serching and fearfilled inventory of everyone that i knew and found them lacking

 5.i admitted to God, to myself and to anyone who would listen the exact nature of your wrongs

 6.i became entirely ready to assist you in removing all your defects of character

 7. humbly (ha) assisted you in removing your defects of character except when to do so would cause me harm

8.i made a list of all persons who had harmed me and vowed to get even with then all

 9. i waited and waited and waited and waited for everyone to make direct amends to me

 10.continued to take your inventory and when you were wrong promptly pointed it out

 11. sought thru mothering, martyrdom, managing, and manipulating to improve your conscious contact with me asking only that you read my mind and carry out my wishes

 12.having had a complete physical, emotional and spiritual breakdown as a result of this type of living i tried to drag all those i loved down with me and get sympathy and pity from anyone who would listen

    man, forget about the alcoholics and their "similarities" everytime i listen to this tape or any alanon speaker i am amazed that i am not unique and comforted that i am not alone.....