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Where does my anger come from? I don’t have a lot of experience with it until recently. I feel like a marionette, completely not in control. I’m a SHREW! Hating it, too. Any ESH is welcome. Tonight was bad!
Jill, not sure exactly what you are facing today, but know you are not alone.
When I first got here I didn't realize I was so angry. But by coming here I realize I'm not alone.
Not everyone here has walked in my shoes(or yours), but they have walked a simular path..
I am reading a book Of Course Your Angry by Gayle Rosellini, it has helped me to identify what I am angry at and why. (Now if I hurry and finish, maybe I'll know what to do) - LOL -
Hope this has helped some. Just remember you are not alone.
Jill wow can I relate. My friends used to be amazed how easy going I was and took things in stride. Now I'm a walking time bomb. I do not like this anger at all and wish I understood it.
I'm ok until I'm around a certain personality type. I remove myself from these folks as I well up with angry feelings that I do not like at all. My best plan for now is to avoid known triggers until I'm better able to understand myself and the anger.
thank you both. yes that makes sense and helps a lot. i need to be more aware of the triggers. i'm on my way out of town to a family wedding - will be using the principles in my affairs this week for sure. thanks again --Jill
You may be out of town now, but just thought I would tell you that is exactly what I am going through right now. I went through the devastation of crying and just being so pathetic and hurt, now I am just seething with anger. I brought it up at my F2F lastnight and got some great advice. Remember that perhaps you are angry because you expect things to be different than they are. That helped me a lot.
Also, exercise and writing out the anger really helped these people, they said. It is a horrible uncomfortable feeling, isn't it? I am usually a pretty mellow person too, and I don't want to turn into a bitter old lady, and that's exactly how I am feeling lately. Too much energy wasted on this emotion, and hopefully we can help each other to work through this!!!
Thanks for your post, and have a good time at the wedding...
