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My family had a reunuion this week in my home town and I was looking forward to spending my first reunion without my A husband since I left him last fall.
My sister in law (sober 3 yrs) wanted to comfort me about my seperation as she had been through one several yrs ago before she met my brother. The problem was she was sucking down wine as she told me how she survived her divorce. So here's a now active A telling me how to get over my A husband! I wanted to kick her but I decided to hug her and walk away. Detach w/love, right!
Two days later she is driving the senior family members to get their hair done and scared them all to death with her driving, just missing other cars, driving in the wrong lane and almost making the beauty shop a drive thru.. Little did I know that she was popping pills too. So they finally got the car keys away from her and got home safe.
She spent that night yelling and screaming in the hotel room with my brother and her son. After she finally passed out the guys came and talked with some of us. They were hoping to take her to the hospital today but she had her pills taken away and had a small amount of wine tonight. They hope to get her home to FL before doing anything else.
The biggest fear I have around all of this is my brother's health. He's had several strokes in the last few months and the stress is incrediable. He's certainly taking it ODAT and he and his step son are very supportive of each other. The other problem is that his step daughter is in the same kind of shape with a druggie boyfriend and a 18 month old son. Now my brother wants to take in the boy while his mother cleans up her act. Both these women were in the same shape 2 yrs ago and I'm not sure my brother is up to sticking by them and raising the boy. He loves the little guy though and will try.
My heart aches for them and I'm sadden that my brother is struggling so.
I'm reaching out to my step-nephew and hoping he grabs hold of my hand for support as time moves forward. He's an awesome young man that thinks the world of my brother.
It sounds like your brother is a wonderful person, but if his health is at risk with all this stress he has to deal with in taking care of someone else's problem, he needs to think of himself first. Is there any family that the step kids can go to that don't have these problems? Can you step in and help relieve some stress off your brother? Take care, and keep praying
Luckily the two step kids are grown but the little one in concern is the step daughter's son. They live across country from me. I'm hoping the step daughters real dad will step in to care for the little one.It's such a confusing mess I can hardly keep it straight!
I am always sadden to hear when people relapse. It breaks my heart. I will keep you and your family in my prayers tonight. Your nephew is lucky to have you. You have a remarkable brother but then you are pretty remarkable too. Must run in the family.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Your nephew is lucky to have you. You have a remarkable brother but then you are pretty remarkable too. Must run in the family. 
