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I feeling like my life just exploded. This afternoon I got a call from a nurse at a local clinic telling me that my Father was being taken by ambulance to the ER for a Heart Attack. My first reaction was where was my mother -- that was why she was calling. My mother has suffered for several years with something similar to parkensons and Alzhimers, my father is her caregiver. I rushed to their house to find her on the floor. augh.
I called my A brother, he went to the ER. He is there now, they are doing a quad bypass, he is lucky to have gotten there. He has 90% blockage in his arteries, one which is very close to the heart and they only told him this after my dad went back. I'm worried, scared. My mother needs full time care, I can't do all that is needed, to be honest I don't know how my dad did it.
If all goes well, and I'm praying it does, I can't even think that it wont, he will be there 5-7 days. I feel so overwhelmed, I don't know if I am able to do all that needs to be done for my mother, plus my kids.
I called my AH, to let him know to call the kids here for the next few days, told him I didn't want to talk about everything but did tell him what had happened. He said to let him know if he could do anything, that he'd be there...augh. I managed to say thank you. He hasn't even bothered to call the kids, they've left messages for him but he's out doing his thing. He is so hollow, makes me sick.
My Dad is the kids only grandpa, he is a dream grandpa, the kind every kid would wish for. He was just as good a father -- sigh, one day at a time.
((())Hugs Luna hope your Dad comes through everything okay. You don't have to do it all alone. Ring the Alzheimers Association or your local GP they may be able to offer an emergency respite carer for your Mum. Luv Leo xxx
i was in a similar situation. as my father was sick with cancer, my husband and i split and he basically abandoned the kids. my dad was the most incredible grandpa. i was so lucky to have him as a dad and i pray that he is sending the love and guidence to my kids. but while he was sick i became so overwhelmed. i had to cut my thoughts back to one moment at a time. what do i have to do right now so that i am ok and my dad is ok and the kids are ok. sometimes it worked and other times none of us were ok. but at least we were together. that was the most important thing. i just knew that i never wanted to regret. i will pray for your family. you are strong and you can do all that you need to do. hp never gives us more than we can handle....
Thank you for your prayers, I just got word that my dad has made it thru surgery, almost 7 hrs. Please continue to keep us in your prayers that things will come together here. I am truly taking it one day at a time.
My mom is only 67, we've been dealing with this for 8 yrs. It's been a long road. Now to have my dad ill too, everything has to be reworked. At this moment, I'm at a loss to how, but I know God/hp will help us.
I'm feeling really angry w/ my AH, lol, like this is his fault. Good thing he's not here I'd probably zap him -- just to feel better....augh! I don't think we're allowed to do that in al-anon, are we?!? Maybe I could just do it for fun, he he he.
((((debilyn)))) You are such a beautiful person, I'll PM soon.
Hello Luna , breathe , just breathe, everything that can be done for your dad is being done by proffesionals just pray and be there for him . Your mom may need special care for awhile and i agree u can't do it , I tried with my mother in law . It is a terrible disease too and unfortunatly there is no cure . but there is help for her ask her doc to put u in touch with people who look after seniors. with his help u can arrange care for her in her home,often people come in daily and make sure they eat etc. Easy does it . will be thinking of you talk to u soon . Louise
Love and prayers coming your way for you and your family.
I know how hard it is to be a caretaker to both your children, sometimes your A and a parent. It can be overwhelming. Just remember to take it one day or one moment at a time. As hard as this might sound to do, make sure you take some time just for you. This is so important for your physical and mental well-being. Because as caretakers, if we don't take care of ourselves, we'll be no good to those we are taking care of. I found that out the hard way.
Stay strong and remember we are here for you. Somehow, someway, we find a way with HP's help. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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