The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Someone shared once that the AA/NA program shares the saying "Progress not perfection". Perhaps his is getting better, if you noticed a change, it may be real? His bender may just mean that he's not perfect yet.
My AW is active and not trying to get better right now, so I understand your frustration, but the share came to mind immediatly when I read your post, so I thought it might be something else to think about.
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown