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Today, for the first time since I remember I stood up for myself when treated in a shabby way. I feel nervous, and have a knot in my stomach as I sent my response by email and said what I meant in an honest way. Will this get easier in time? Sometimes I feel like such an imposter.
You have answered your own question "I was treated in a shabby way". This time you were strong enough to do it by email eventually you will have the courage to say it in person. You looked after your needs first. Fantastic. Leo xx
Leo said what i was thinking, you stood up for yourself and that's fantastic!
it feels very scary to stick up for myself. i've had to learn to detach from my expectation of the result, and be happy just that i stuck up for myself. it's really hard!
wow you go girl as you practice yes it gets a little easier.Do something nice for your self you deserve it ..and the knot in your stomach cause it was new it will pass.
Good for you. I have a lot of trouble sticking up for myself, too. Afraid I will make things worse. But that is not true. I make it worse if I don't stand up for myself. If I don't no one else will.
You deserve to be treated well. We all do. Even our A's deserve to be treated well. Can you imagine how the world would be if everyone could treat each other well? Wow.
Yes, do something nice for yourself today. It will get easier the more you do it. I used to have knots in my stomach all the time, and my heart would beat so fast, and I couldn't breathe. Just a reaction from fear, I believe.
Just continue to be honest with yourself, and others, and the knot will go away. When I am dealing with my A, when he says crazy stuff, I make sure anything I say is completely honest, that way I have nothing to be ashamed of, and nothing to hide.
It does get easier w/time! Go for it. Take care of YOU, that is what you are supposed to do. I know for myself, I used to feel bad. It was only because I allowed others to walk all over me for YEARS. Now, I don't just lay down the rug and allow people to walk over me. I have stood up, and now I speak up!
