I need Help! I am new!! - Al-Anon Family Group

s1234 · Newbie

I need Help! I am new!!

dori · Senior Member

Hi,

I am so glad you are here , welcome ...........

confused · Senior Member

Welcome to MIP and to Al-Anon, you are in the right place. You will find love, encouragement and hope here. The people here have been or might even be where you are today. The first thing that I can remember feeling when I first came to Al-Anon was that I was not alone. I thought for so long that I was the only with doing the crazy things that I was doing, having the crazy thoughts I was having. And then I came here, honestly, there has not been one thing, not one, that I have shared that someone has not said, "Yeah, I totally get that, I have done that, said that, felt that..." What a relief!

Another thing that was shared very early on with me was what we call the three C's

1. You did not cause it

2. You cannot control it

3. You cannot cure it

Another huge relief!

So, welcome, please check into the face to face (f2f) meetings in your area, the love and support that you will find there is like nothing else. You will also have the opportunity to get a lot of literature (CAL - conference approved literature) Reading the Experience, Strength and Hope (ESH) of other Al-anon members has often been life saving for me.

I am so glad that you are here. Keep Coming,

Lynn

debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

"Getting Them Sober," is a great book. It would help you immensly to understand what is happening and it gives you ideas what to do.

Alanon teaches us to take care of us. If you are being abused, it is up to you to leave, have him leave. Call the police and have him answer for his behavior.

I know it is hard to do. My first steps were to set my life up so I did not need him. Protect you and your kiddos. Have money, car keys, phone numbers, cell phone, whatever you need ready somewhere in case you need to leave quickly.

He has to reach his milestones on his own, accepting he is an alcoholic, accepting it is tearing his world apart. Accepting he is abusing his loved ones.

We cannot have any part of this. It does NO good, we cannot control the A and the only one we can change is us.

If you can, get to alanon meetings and there are ones on here too. You are super welcome to come back here and vent and learn whatever you need. It is a good place here and I promise it can help you.

Hope to see ya post again. love,debilyn

Dolphin123 · ~*Service Worker*~

((((s1234)))),

Welcome to MIP, glad you found us, you are not alone.

The others who have responded to your post have offered the same suggestions that I would offer you myself.

I encourage you to keep coming back. This program works. It has helped me to not let my husbands addiction problems continue to be an obsession of mine.

Yours in recovery,

Dolphin123

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand.

World Service Organization Website –

WWW.al-anon.alateen.org

Alanon meetings 1-888-425-2666

Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

Here are some things that have helped me since in the program.

Go face to face meeting & online meeting.

post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.

· In this program u learn that u have choices. In Alanon we don’t give advice but only suggestions.

· Set support system. people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first this program.

Have a sponsor. Someone work one on one with you.

You don’t have to do this the minute u come to the program but I suggest that u do it when u can. It help.

Meeting schedule: meetings are in here and run approximately 90 minutes from: Monday-Friday, 9 am and 9 pm EST, Saturday: 10 am and 9 pm EST, Sunday: 10 am and 7 pm EST. Topics are selected by participants at meeting time. UK +5 hours, central -1 hour, mountain -2 hours, pacific -3 hours. Open chat all other times.

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.