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The visit with my mom was a success. I traveled by plane from Ohio to Kansas, and stayed 7 days with my little 85 year old mom. I usually dread the visit, altho I do miss her, because her ways of living, cooking, eating, are so different than mine are now.
Before I left, I decided to treat this trip as I would if I were going to an exclusive spa.....1 week of diet (my mom eats and cooks, and wants everyone around her to, very little), exercise (running up and downstairs getting stuff for mom), and education (going to bed early at night to read until I fell asleep).
I usually have to excuse myself to go in another room at her condo, and silently scream, cos I think I will lose my mind. But, I didn't do that this time. I was calm, even when she started asking in her concerned, motherly way, about my weight (OK, I need to lose about 30 lbs.).
I missed hubby so much, we talked every couple of days. When I came home, the house was pretty clean, the bed was made up with spanking clean sheets, the cats (he hates them) were well taken care of and happy. He hadn't even been drinking when he picked me up from the airport at 11 pm!
We spent a lovely morning in bed today, catching up. Now, he's across the street watching a race and drinking. But, that's his problem, not mine. I have the opportunity while he's gone to come here!
Guess that's what they mean when they say it works if you work it, huh? Missed you all more than I can say, I didn't have a computer available to me in Kansas. But, watch out, I'm Ho-o-m-me-e!
Thanks to all who posted here. I am so thankful to still have my little mom to go visit, but I sure am glad to be back in my own home. It seems like I usually revert to being 12 years old again when I go home, but I didn't do that this time for some reason....Mom and I had a lot of good conversations. After all, she had been married to an A, my dad. He never did find sobriety, tho he checked himself into the hospital now and then, and always talked about quitting. He died when I was 16, he was in his early 50's I think. They had gotten divorced about 9 years before. My Mom always said she loved him, and has never dated, and that has been 36 years ago that he died.
Well, enough about that. I am just so grateful for this program and for all of you. ((((((YOU)))))))
Welcome home Becky, to your own house and to here :).
One of the most inspiring things I ever read here, is the calmness that comes for roomies working the program, and the joy in finding that although the circumstances that used to drive us crazy may not have changed, we are not being driven crazy anymore, because WE changed.
Yay.
love you, look forward to being at a meeting with you. Cant tell you when that will be, but a hint will be 9pm tonite, and 9pm tomorrow morning:)
Welcome home sweet lady. Glad you had a nice visit with your Mom.
Remember the commercial "Never Leave Home Without It"? Well that's how I feel about this program. I may forget to pack it, or it may get lost, but unlike the airports, I know where to find it!
Can't wait to see you again. Glad the cats are still alive. I think deep down inside, our As love our pets and really don't want anything to happen to them. Sometimes it's easier to relate to our pets than our spouses. I know when hubby was active, he still tried to take care of Pipers Kitty. Now that he's sober, she gets even more spoiled by him now.
Love and blessings to you and your family. Pipers sends hellos to all her kitty friends.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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