The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I heard a great line tonight on a talk show. Ironically enough the show was about damaged relationships between fathers and daughters. There are no coincidences just "God"incidences.
The line is "Pain is the expectation of control". How true this can be for those of us who are so used to trying to control the relationships in our lives.
Karen
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Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care. Love you all!
Karen
I have been following your posts and I am shocked how much I relate. They are so close to home it was hard for me to reply.
My father moved to Vegas when my son, his only grandchild was maybe 5, I was newly divorced, living on my own and he was the closest family I had. However he never was a Dad.
He played the phone game for awhile, then calling me when he is very ill/sick with the disease.
Of course he is not an alcoholic or a gambler.
I cut off all communication new years eve when he was very harsh. The calls were less and less by then, it was last August I spoke to him when he called me on new years even screaming at me that I never sent a card for Christmas… But I did, with a yrs worth of pictures and a three page letter.
Well that was it, he made it easier to say goodbye. I was already detached. Yes, it is sad, my son is lacking a grandfather and me my dad although I do have serenity this way. Also sad for him -I sure pray for him.
