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and says A husband is too sick for court, bellyache. I rage at the lawyer that
A husband will never be well enough for court. That he better figure out how to
get me divorced without A husband in court.
Then, me being me, I call A husband.
And say, I am sorry that you don't feel good.
He said, did you sign the papers? I said yes I signed them yesterday in
court.
He said can you come by and I will give you a check?
Well sure enough I went by and picked up a check which I then put
in the bank and let my lawyer know.
A husband looked awful and was ranting how once divorced he could not practice
his religion. I said it is 2006, they are ministries for divorced
Catholics.
He said will we ever get back together? I said, if you get sober and in a
program of rehab and then he says and you lose your anger and yeah, I hit
the road.
So the lawyer calls and I tell him I get a check so adjust the settlement.
He said how was A husband and I was honest. he said well if he is drunk and he
signed the papers they don't count.
I said well the surely he was not drunk, just irrational.
So lawyer gets edgy and I talk him down but who knows what will happen
next.
Oh the drama of an alcoholic divorce
So then the lawyer calls me at 2:30 and says the new date for divorce is
Friday at 3pm.
So today at 10am A husband calls and asks for a ride to the lawyer. I said sure thing what time is your appointment. He says what? I said call me with what time is your appt and I will take you there. So I drive him to his lawyer and we drive around with him looking for the place by looking for hospital signs and he is abusive as all get out and I m praying very hard.
I drop him of and it is my belief that he signed an affadavit so that he does not have to appear in court, the lawyer can represent him
So, God willing, tomorrow at 3pm I will get divorced.
Megan
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
I am sorry you are going through this craziness. It must be very difficult for you to supply him rides to get what it is you want/need to end this relationship. Just keep turning it over to your HP and he will supply the guidance and patience you need to get through this difficult time.
See you in a couple of weeks.
Karen
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Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care. Love you all!
Karen
How frustrating this must be for you! You are torn between wanting to avoid contact with him at all...and giving him whatever help he needs to get this OVER WITH.
You have already been through such a long haul with this...I will hope and pray with all my might that tomorrow will finally be the end of all of this.
You will be in my prayers very much tonight and tomorrow.
As always I am moved by the compassionate way in which you deal with people, despite how hurt you are. I am sure that you will be blessed for this Megan, for the kindness you always show to people no matter what the situation.
Keep your head up...your deliverance from this mess is getting nearer.
Remember, you have lots of people who love you and are pulling for you and praying for you, let that give you strength, you are not alone in this.
Keep reaching out to your friends for support...that is what we are here for.
More hugs and prayers and good thoughts for you...
((((((megan))))) I know how hard it is to deal with such difficult issues. I have had a similiar experience within the past 2 years. I ended up going to court alone fighting for what was right for me, while my A sat there with his lawyer. It is a scary place to be in, BUT , there is hope in sight once you get over these hurdles. Do what you have to do, keep your emotions and check, and try to think of this as "just a business deal". What I did was found a small round smooth rock in my back yard, put ODAT (one day at a time) on it with felt pen, then put clear nail polish on it. I then put it in my vest pocket, each and every time I went to court. When I started to waiver in my thinking or getting emotional, I would put my hand in my pocket and rub the rock. This helped me get back to task , and why I was there in court, and keep focussed on what needed to get done, without breaking down and getting over emotional.......Good Luck and always remember "This too shall pass"
What a phenomenal share. It is like the serenity prayer in action. thank you so much for letting me know this. I am so blessed to read this. There are times when I just want to rage, rage, rage and then rage some more at the A. I don't. But then I internalize it. I have to learn to live the serenity prayer in action.
with you.