The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
As anyone who remembers I came in here over the Christmas holiday bereft. My A had as normal gone over to his mother's. I made a nice dinner and he was totally out of it. I vow now not to make another nice dinner for Christmas or even for Thanksgiving and just to take care of msyelf. I know this will be hard to do. I hope I may be working or something so I will not feel indescribably lonely.
I used to feel he so much prefered his mother and stuff to me. Now I think the "call" is his brother and the chance to get loaded. Well he can get loaded but I am not going to make myself miserable because he does. I am going to have a plan and act on it. In fact I am going to have a back up plan too.
I am tried of every holiday with him being absolutely awful.
In my family every holiday was a day to get loaded and celebrate. There reasoning was because it was a holiday? Whatever...it's just an excuse to get loaded! Just remember that you don't necessarily have to be home for Christmas if you don't want to. Do you have friends that don't drink or socially drink who would love to have you over...you can bring your favorite dish over there and just enjoy! Wait....christmas is really far away....One day at a time!!
I no longer wait for another to decide on what I will do. Making my own decisions is so nice -and liberating.
I have learned to be happy with me. Going to the movies alone is relaxing, a day by the pool reading, gardening etc despite what anyone does around me.
It did take a bit to get accustomed to this –not long tho.
Now when someone joins it’s a pleasant addition to my plans.
