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I am still battling feelings of lonliness; especially this time of nigt when I feel like it's too late to be calling normal people. I am trying to make friends in the program, but reaching out to people is very difficult for me. I called my sponsor early this morning and she hasn't called me back and it's after 10pm. My husband is on the phone with his sponsor. 1) Being with him doesn't relieve my feelings of being alone 2) I'm jealous that he has someone to talk to late at night. There are guys in the program I could call about recovery at this hour, but I am trying to stick with the women. I wonder id these feelings will ever go away.
I am sorry that you are having a hard time tonight--so am I--so you know that you are not alone!! And you should be proud of yourself, you did reach out to others, you posted here!!
I don't know if the feeling of lonliness will ever go away completely, but I realize now that it ebbs and flows, and if I can get though it one hour or one minute at a time, that it will pass.
In the meantime, you could try some of the things that work for me to get me out of my head and off my pity-pot: a long, hot bath or a good movie or book with some popcorn...
Hang in there-- you may not realize it, but as each minute passes, you are getting stronger!!
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Do not be anxious about tomorrow; tomorrow will look after itself. The Bible, from Courage to Change, p.138
I struggle with loneliness too. Especially with my AH gone. I read a meditation thing that said that loneliness is feeling not connected to the universe. So for me I try to connect to something that is always there: my cat, the stars, the millions of people on earth. It seems to help me knowing that I really am not alone.
hi, it is awful isn't it to be more lonly with some one there. Well sorta there.
I sorta giggled when ya wrote,"normal"people. smile.
I know whatcha meant. Lonliness is a hard thing. I almost think it is not so much from anything but our hearts needing attention, someone we can be intimate with and tell everything to.
We wish it were our spouse but if they are the A, does not usually happen.
For me, I got so into things that I loved, besides the A, that I realized I was not lonley anymore. If I do get lonely it is for my mom or someone else in particular.
Do you have any friends or family you can go to? There is nothing wrong with that. If someone came to my house and said I am lonely, you can bet I would welcome them and make them feel precious.
Which is, I am sure, what you need. I know that empty feeling, hate it. Find myself chasing it away with being busy. I work so hard I can't stay awake.
Nights are hard it sounds like for you. I remember learning when it is like that, do what you love, or do something normal like the dishes or fold cloths or mop. Paint if you paint, read, cook, bake...
I do know ya feel crappy and don't want to do anything. For me since I could not get what I really needed/wanted I did what was next best.
