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Today is my 38th wedding anniversary and Im trying to work my program to not feel hurt and disappointed that he once again, he has not said or done anything to acknowledge the day. I should be used to it, but it still hurts. In the past I would plan things, buy him something or say happy anniversary. His response would be he didnt want to go sit in a restaurant, he didnt get me anything but hed thought about it, are you mad? I wish I had been in Al Anon then. I would have answered quite differently.
I would like him to say happy anniversary without me saying it first because if I say it first I wouldnt be saying it for the right reasons. I am talking with my higher power on how to handle this along with a few other things. I am much stronger than I use to be thanks to the program.
Thanks for listening/reading. I just needed to vent.
Today is my 38th wedding anniversary and Im trying to work my program to not feel hurt and disappointed that he once again, he has not said or done anything to acknowledge the day. I should be used to it, but it still hurts. In the past I would plan things, buy him something or say happy anniversary. His response would be he didnt want to go sit in a restaurant, he didnt get me anything but hed thought about it, are you mad? I wish I had been in Al Anon then. I would have answered quite differently. I would like him to say happy anniversary without me saying it first because if I say it first I wouldnt be saying it for the right reasons. I am talking with my higher power on how to handle this along with a few other things. I am much stronger than I use to be thanks to the program. Thanks for listening/reading. I just needed to vent.
Hi there.
You were heard.
I hope you're doing OK, it's times like these we rely on our al-anon program and our steps work. First things first, back to principles.
Remember the al-anon preamble, Let It Begin With Me.
Welcome Lotus64. I often regret not joining alanon much earlier in my life. I have 15 years in recovery now and thank God. Ive had so many disappointments and broken promises. But now I can say, better late than never. Because with recovery I am clear that Im not a bad person. I continue to grow and have such a better life with me, whom Ive grown to love and respect.
I hear you too! Keep coming back. Life gets better with recovery. One day at a time. :)
