help and support dealling with 20 year old narcotics addict. - Al-Anon Family Group

artemis · Newbie

help and support dealling with 20 year old narcotics addict.

Andrea12 · ~*Service Worker*~

Drug addiction is horrible, they become liars, they can con you into almost anything.

If he wasn't working for his dad would he have a job?

Try and get yourself together, as much as humanly possible....He will have to be the one to decide when he is going to give the drugs up......Nothing you can do about that.......

I enjoy Na meetings, and coming here on-line to meetings. It helps me to see that I am not alone and than I can make the best out of my life.

My husband is a alcoholic/crack addict/ pill abuser. I have been married for 19 years, the drug addictions came lately in the past couple of years......It is absolutely hell living with an addict.

I wish I could give you some words of wisdom, all I can tell you that I know for sure is an addict will not stop until they are ready.....It is a game to them and most of them love it.............

Having this happen to your son must be horrible...I have a 14 yr old son....I can not compare my husband to your son, because being a mother myself, I know your heart must be broken...........

Prayers your way, one day at a time......

Andrea

artemis · Newbie

thank you for you input. no he wouldn't have a job . he had two other jobs that lasted 4 days total. he's a talented computer geek, but drugs rule

patience · Member

My son and husband are both addicts. I moved out. I couldn't take watching them destroy themselves any longer. And the lies are a sad part of their sickness. They don't see the hurt it causes. I was pretty naive for a long time and the shock of reality is a big blow. I'm new to this wonderful arena of friends and they have been a lifesaver. All I can say is take care of you - you cannot change anyone.

Let go and let God. For your sanity's sake, let go and let God take over.

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

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Rita G · ~*Service Worker*~

the disease of alcoholism and addiction has no limits - I like many here have family members that suffer from these diseases - some are in recovery some aren't (yet, hopefully).

Open AA meetings helped me understand the disease and Al-Anon helped me learn how to live sanely, hope they will help you with your struggles,

Rita

rosie light shines · ~*Service Worker*~

i have loved ones who are users too.....

i had to DETACH to keep my sanity....when the pain gets bad enough, they will get help......till then???? there is NOTHING one can do....

remember--------u didn't cause-----u can't control------u can't cure

we are POWERLESS over someone ELSES problems whether it is addiction or WHATever.....we are POWERLESS.........time for step one and really workin it...thats what i have to do when i face something i am POWERLESS over...............peace/ rosie

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