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Well today was a true test....yesterday I called hubs counselor and told hm the truth about everything, I felt for me to move forward in my recovery that hub can not come home after rehab......
Counselor said, he would talk to hub, hubby called this afternoon, very upset and angry. He said, I'm going to a 3/4 house with a bunch of young heroin addicts....I said, nothing....he said, find me another place I will call you later......I did nothing.........
He got himself where he is, he can get himself out of it.....I really feel this way.
He also told me, i will always have my kids.....lol...doesn't he know they are pissed also. I don't know what will happen next...I do know that it took much strength to do what I did today...to tell hub that is what you have to do..can not come home....
I am thankful to the good Lord above for the guidance and strength. I am also, thankful to my friends for there support and wonderful words of encouragement. Also, my dear family here....thank you so very much, for being here in my darkest hours and the wonderful ES&H.
I know this is just the beginning, very long way to go. I feel like this is a new start and anything is possible.....I will be taking baby steps, minute by minute.......
I bet it feels good to own your own truth You sound good and strong. Maybe he will realize his gift of desperation (G.O.D) . Unless or until ..................... nothing will change. Stay strong. Keep us nearby.
yours in recovery, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
Good for you for standing your ground. I'm very proud of you. I know how hard that was.
I too had a talk with hubby's pyschaitrist. I told her it definitely is not safe for hubby to come home after the hospital for either of us. She liked the the boundary I set for at least 90 days sobriety. She said that was a reasonable goal, and he has not had it. He's never had it since we got married. She made a very good point: that just because the past 3 weeks he has not drank, in one way it wasn't reality. By that she meant, that he was too sick to drink. But what happens when he's healthy enough, and the everyday things kick in? Then what? That's so true. I mean talk about a reality check. : He went to detox last April for a week. The day he got out: he drank. He crashed his car because he was drunk, and he told everybody that the car was broke. (He walked away from the accident because he had been drinking.) The list goes on and on.....
Our lives seem be on parallel paths. Both hubby and I have to make some decisions. But I have to think of my recovery first. I am being selfish, but I'm entitled to it. My recovery is about what is best for me. Do I love him? Absolutely? Do I want him home? Yes! But I want long term sobriety. I know you do too. Thanks for giving me the ESH dear Andrea. You're one of the best.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
This is such good news for both you and your hubby. YOU are doing the right things.......hard things, but right. I am so so happy you were able to hold your ground and keep your boundries in place for you and your dear children. You all deserve to find peace in the midst of all the chaos of this insidious disease. You are and will continue to be in my prayers.
Good to chat with u a bit the other day! Prayers are being answered! God is seeing you through and will continue to guide and direct you. I will continue to pray and especially for your kids. I know it must be hard for them. Give them extra hugs!
You sound good and strong. Maybe he will realize his gift of desperation (G.O.D) 
. Unless or until ..................... nothing will change. Stay strong. Keep us nearby.
I'm very proud of you. I know how hard that was. 
She made a very good point: that just because the past 3 weeks he has not drank, in one way it wasn't reality. By that she meant, that he was too sick to drink. But what happens when he's healthy enough, and the everyday things kick in? Then what? That's so true. 
I mean talk about a reality check. : He went to detox last April for a week. The day he got out: he drank. He crashed his car because he was drunk, and he told everybody that the car was broke. (He walked away from the accident because he had been drinking.) The list goes on and on.....