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I am dating. I am on 3 different dating websites and my email box is full.
I have even progressed to meeting 2 people in real life.
One not suitable and the other makes my heart beat fast and my pulse quicken.
The one I like is eerily similar to my husband. Profession, interests etc.
Dating is scarey and exciting and it feels good.
I left my husband 13 months ago and filed for divorce last August.
I spent a whole year working on myself very hard and spent alot of lonely days and nights. I spent alot of time looking back into the well that was our marriage and the well continued to be empty.
When I left I gave my husband what I needed in order to reconcile - he would be sober 6 months and in a program but that did not happen. My own life was being destroyed along with his
It is hard to move forward but it is good for me also. New experiences, new people, new hope.
(This is NOT an advertisement to 13th step - meet someone, just a share on where I am at)
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
Have no suggestions, 1. my ah is in recovery and 2. we were able to save our marriage - but i do like to do a little fun thing-I love to "people watch" I have to travel sometimes for my job to go to trainings. I usually don't know anyone in these trainings, so I sit in the back of the room where I can see everyone, kinda survey the room - i usually see a few men that i think are attractive, well-groomed, nice spoken, etc. right - well then i listen to their conversations as the week progresses, who they go to lunch with, what they talk about in the morning, you know the "last night after dinner" stuff - do you know that i still after almost three years in recovery always pick the ones that went to the bar or happy hour etc - never ever do i pick the ones that say oh i watched a great movie last night or checked in on my family, etc. My picker is still broke!!! Put me in a room of 100 people - with 99 "normal" and 1 alcoholic - guess who I'll go talk to????? ha!
So my heart goes out to you - hope in the time you have worked on you - you have fixed your picker and seriously that your HP gives you your hearts desire as a mate in your life,
Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
Boy I can relate Dating is hard at any age. I have been on 3 or 4 of the websites and the rejection is more than I can handle right now. I have had more first dates than ever in my life! I liked a few guys but none that would reciprocate the interest. I have learned to say one word though...NEXT!
I'm just starting also. After over 18 years of not even considering another woman (well almost once, but even as drunk as I was I wouldn't allow it to go past a kiss). It is a little scary. But I gave my ex more than enough time to dump the other guy and she just couldn't. So now it's time for me to accept the fact that no matter how much I wanted it to work out, she had no desire to, and I'm moving on. Had a few first dates so far and a great one on Friday. Feels very strange, but I think I can get used to it. It's sometimes very hard for me to realize that I AM single and have no reason not to go out with different women. Even through the worst of my alcoholic episodes, I always honored my wedding vows, that was one of the things I always kept as a top priority in my life, even with the all my insanity. So now I am actually looking forward to finding out what an intimate, sober relationship can be like.
I am not a bit surprised hearing your e-mail inbox is full. The ocean is as huge –take your time reeling them in, enjoy the water and the butterfly in the stomach feeling again, hehehe :)
Any person would be lucky to have you in their life. I know I am! You are strong in spirit, heart and mind and body. That's a great combination. You are smart enough to know what you want, and strong enough to handle the red flags of the past life. You certainly haven't taken any prisoners in your recovery, and I am sure you will not do that in your personal life.
GO FOR IT GIRL! Have a ball!
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Good for you! I am with Jennifer on this one. The thought of dating makes my woozy. Of course, I am just separated from my husband. He says he is ready to date. Go figure.
How about an athlete? How about a fit, buff cyclist?
Dating is hard at any age. I have been on 3 or 4 of the websites and the rejection is more than I can handle right now. I have had more first dates than ever in my life! I liked a few guys but none that would reciprocate the interest. I have learned to say one word though...NEXT!
