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How do I know when I have had enough. When will I be full and not take anymore. The cycles make me feel insane. I am tired of the I'm sorrys, I wasn't doing anything wrong and the famous....your the one I want to be with. I'm so tired, with my mom dying I can't deal with the crap that living with an A brings with it.
yes, i know. it is so confusing. my ah was doing his "thing" while i was dealing with my father dying. i asked the same question. when would it be the final straw? everyone in meetings kept saying that when the time is right i will know. that the answers would be revealed to me and i would just know. and soon after that he relapsed and i knew that i was done. i was not angry like i had been in the past when i had left. i just felt peace with my decision to go. it has been hard don't get me wrong. painful and i have been feeling lately especially loads of resentments. but as i took care of my dying father it really became clear what was important to me. my focus changed from him to myself and i was able to see what all of this was doing to my kids. i miss the person he used to be, the person he wanted to be. but i don't know who he is today and i don't know if he'll ever get better. but i am. now i am aware. which gives me hope and courage that i can change. the support here is invaluable. i hope you find peace with whatever you decide. good luck and know you are not alone...
Hello, marmare, I'm so glad you are here. Keep working the program, and keep the focus on yourself. You will know when it is time. In the meantime, as I say to the people I sponsor: what do you want? what are you feeling? how do you feel when you hear the same things over and over? how do you feel when there is no space for you and your needs? As I have worked the program, these things become easier and easier for me to answer. But it does take work, going to meetings, having a sponsor, working the steps, over and voer, and sponsoring others too. Blessings and prayers to you. mebjk
Is it time? Only you will know when you are ready.
I crawled to these rooms deperate to fix my husbands drinking. I was at the lowest point of my life. I listened and learned from so many wonderful people.
Soon into MY recovery I heard a woman share while crying that she had to leave her alcoholic husband. I felt so bad for her and knew that I would never leave my husband, I loved him too much.
I am now, getting a divorce. In the end, in my situation, I had to save myself.
I will pray for you and your family
In support
Megan
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
(((((((Mary))))))) I do relate to what you are going through. I am unsure how to answer right now -thought you could use extra hugs for support, and a suggestion to try and be gentle with you at this time. lots of care and wishes, t
