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Akasha


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I did it - didn't back out.  I had every excuse in the book prepared and ready to use - but I didn't.  It was my children's lunch time - it was their nap time - I was there and no one else was (rare that I'm early!  LOL).  I didn't pull those out and use them - although I desperately wanted to.  I sucked it up, I stayed, people began arriving.  Small town, small meeting - more intimate, so very real.


One member took my boys for a walk - they found a playground and I had some happy boys for a little while.  The youngest ended up having a fit - very much unlike him.  That one member was so good with my boys and I'm so very grateful for his efforts.  His aim was to allow me to get the most out of the meeting.  My aim - not to make him have to deal with children that weren't his own. 


I got to spend a good 20 minutes in the meeting and even allowed myself to share.  From the One Day at a Time book, todays reading was powerful and I did something I had convinced myself I wouldn't permit to happen - I broke down.  Not wailing...but those tears that just are forced out of you - that you cannot control.  I recognized myself in those words.  It was a mirror reflecting what I didn't want to see.  I shared my thoughts on this passage.


I somehow managed to tuck my fear aside and go into this meeting with an open mind, with the hopes of finding myself and making myself better.  I intend to catch these fears and tuck them away so that I continue to go to these meetings (although I will have to find a sitter LOL).  I am important.  I didn't realize...I just didn't realize that I AM in here and I do exist and I deserve the serenity I am now seeking.


Thank you to all who have encouraged me to go and have consistently been pillars of support.  I am amazed and in awe.  I still have fears - no matter how much I wish I could perform magic and make them disappear - and I'm under no illusions that these fears will vanish all of a sudden.  I look forward to having more control of them and not always submitting to them and accepting that I am something that I CAN change.


Thank you ALL,


~Laura



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debilyn


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Gtood for you. See how courageous you are? That is not easy to do. After awhile it will feel like home, and you will welcome someone else who feels like you felt.


Alanon is really so full of miracles. I love it when I realize no matter what I do, what decisions, how I respond are all due to my skills I learned in alanon.


Keep coming back. love,debilyn



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canadianguy


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Awesome stuff Laura, and way to go..... It feels good to read posts like yours, and you are soooo right - you faced a fear, and will be a lot better off for doing so.... Hope you keep up on all your recovery - F2F, online, etc....  Way to go...


 


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Christy


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WTG Akasha!!!

It's a big scary step isn't it? But now you can share with others that those fears are just that....some scary monster WE make up.

I can truly say I love my home, they are my second family. Everyone one of them had a part in my growth to this point. Through their shares, their ESH, and especially their support through crisis. I grew to love every one of them. Even the dorky nerd guy..lol I get a hug from him every week and would miss it if i didn't.

Keep going back,
Christy

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Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand.


 


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  • Go face to face meeting & online meeting.

  • post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.

·        Set support system.  people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first this program.



  • Have a sponsor. Someone work one on one with you.

You don’t have to do this the minute u come to the program but I suggest that u do it when u can. It help.


 

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