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His car was parked at the light waiting to turn left (golf course I am assuming) and I was coming from his right turning right. I saw his car, he saw me, he waved and smiled and I JUST LOOKED AT HIM AND LOOKED AHEAD AND MADE MY TURN!!!!!!!!!!!
This may seem like - so what - to some people but OMG it was a feeling of WOW for me! I did not give him even the extension of my arm in acknowledgment.
I looked in my rear view mirror to watch what he was doing, he was tapping his hand, the hand he waved to me with, the hand that was denied a wave back, he was just tapping on the roof of his car.
It feels so GOOD to NOT acknowledge him.
Oh, who am I kidding, the feeling only lasted for 35 minutes, then it was WELL maybe I better call and appologize for snubbing him...then a little bit of "wake up and smell the freakin coffee already Jennifer!" hit me, TO HELL with him...dont need his BS or his constant critisism, IF we were to get back together, he still would be an active A and that goes ONE way, downhill, sinking faster than the grand Titanic.
Thank GOD for MIP and AlAnon and All of my friends here!
OH, and that guy who came in a few weeks ago, that asked for my number and was like REALLY crazy about me right off the bat, wanting to send me flowers, telling me he cant stop thinking about me, telling me he feels like God sent him into my store to get directions JUST so we would meet, calling me 2-4 times a night afterwe had only met for 90 minutes, THAT GUY, HE called me today, first time in 2 weeks. Said he did not call me or take me out that Sat because his friend, who had a pacemaker had a heart attack and died - then his live in girlfriend set the bed on fire that he was laying in when she found him...bizarre....then he said ANOTHER friend died and he has been on a roller coaster with all of that and trying to run his business. He said he wants to take me out and appologized for the time it took to get a hold of me.....RED FLAG RED FLAG FLAMING RED FLAG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UUUMMMMMMMMMM, I dont think so Mr. Glass Company charming southern drawl brown eyed cutie who is MOST probaby married or at least living with someone...liar and a schemer...I asked him not to call me anymore, told him that I am 99% convinced he is married, that it only takes a minute to call me and instead he stood me up, and please lose my number, now.
I want to spend some time alone with just Jennifer....just me, my kids and make some new HEALTHY friends.
Hope this new found strength and clarity keeps up...and the weirdo's disappear.
See, your instincts were right the first time!! I actually remember thinking "give this guy a chance", and you knew better!!
The more "good" decisions we make, the more we regain the confidence in ourselves.... The cool thing about the "snub of your A" is that, as you get healthier, you will even go one step further - you will be able to acknowledge your A, and carry on!!!
All good stuff.... well done on both counts!
Tom
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"What you think of me is none of my business"
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(((((((((((((((((Jen)))))))))))))) I am soooooo proud of You~ Keep moving forward 1 2 3 I also see that you are so blessed to have your children to share this wonderful life with. Your DoingGreat !
Takin' care of YOU~ Let Go and Let HP/God take care of the rest~
KEEP WORKIN IT~ YOUR WORTH IT!(((((((((((BiGHuG))))))))))
Wow, Jen, I am impressed with your attitude! You rock! Hmmm, I woulda like to have been a fly in the car with your A, wonder what he was thinking????? I'm sure he was a little taken aback, being used to the old Jennifer.
That's how you take care of yourself, and you are doing a great job. We do not have to be the world's doormat anymore, we know a new way to live.
The other night I had stopped at the store, and after putting groceries in the car, I put the cart back. When I got back in the car, and moved my cell phone, I saw hubby had called while I was away from the car, so I called him back. He had just called 1 min. before. He answered and about bit my head off! Why don't you ever answer your phone...!!! Being hateful. I said You don't need to talk to me like that, and I hung the phone up and finished my shopping at another store. When I got home about 2 hrs. later, he was at a friends house across the street, and called me on the house phone Baby I'm sorry. Hmmm, nothing changes if we don't change, is so right. He never apoligized before, cos I would always allow him to make me feel bad. Why should I feel bad about missing a call, but calling him right back????
Keep working your program, you are improving by leaps and bounds! It works!
Jen you are too funny. I love how you brag on you for doing this or that, then you say yea right and say you were about to call and apologise for the behavior. hahaha you are so refreshingly honest.
Good for you yet again. See that pretty head of yours has a lot of smarts and skills in it. I am happy to say I did not like the phoney guy from the beginning and told ya so. So there. lol
Really, good for you. Getting to know you here and I see a very special lady who I am so glad thinks of herself and her family first. We don't need a man to finish us. I was so much better when I got myself together more, first then I found I attracted men that were really nice people.
You have so much to give to yourself first. Alanon has so much to offer to help us. I know you still hurt, and that is part of it, share it too. It is also nice to hear about the positive stuff too.
FLAMING
proud of You~ Keep moving forward 1 2 3 I also see that you are so blessed to have your children to share this wonderful life with. 
Your Doing Great !
Let Go and Let HP/God take care of the rest~
(((((((((((BiG
HuG))))))))))