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Well since my last posting my EX A, smashed a friends car into the back of a police van, demolished a row of road barriers and just missed ploughing into 20 people leaving a night club. Today he is in court for this offence. BUT just one week after that, he got mad because I would not answer texts or calls which was very intimidiating and as my new address is secret only my daughter knows it, he went to her house at 3.30 in the morning and smashed all the windows in on her new and beloved sports car. he did this knowing she has panic attacks in the night if she hears noises and she lives on her own with her 3 year old son. There was witnesses but he is denying it but the police are going all out to prove it, then they can also do him for a second drink drive.
I am just so glad to be away from all this, I never really expected this of the man I had lived with.
I'm new here but just wanted to wish you the best through this and for your daughter. My situation is not bad like this so far but I know how scared you feel. You're right, you can be strong through this and I'm glad the police are being supportive!
My father was an A. and speaking from experience I know what you're feeling. Betrayed, and shattered emotionally. This monster isn't some one you onced loved? It's so sad to watch the addiction take over the person, personality and all. It's like they just get swallowed up by it. Luckily I learned the art of emotional detachment at an early age to protect myself. It's hard to keep telling yourself, it's not my fault.
