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I got a horrible call first thing this morn. Mil's sister, who I have never met, was very rude to me. Telling me I was NOT part of the family and to BACK OFF.
All I did was call and leave a message that mil had no cloths at the nursing home, and that mil's friend tried to go to the house to get some and mil's meth daughter threatened to push her off the porch.
Not that I want to be any part of their dysfunctional family, but I am married to A and we have a son. Plus I was there with my bil when he died and we were friends since we were kids, and I paid for A's brain surgery. NOT once did the "family" offer to help me. NOR did they visit bil more than once.
sick sick sick.
I know it is that my A's disease poisoned what they all think of me. Ya know I just think I have been hurt by about everything I could. Then I see this too. When the sister of mil called I never had a thought in my head she had anything against me.
I called back after she hung up on me and left a message. It was totally appropriate. We teach others how to treat us. And I refuse to allow her to treat me like she did.
Then some business stuff came up. It was all still mess from the Aism. I am not kidding. All day long things happened that all had a primary source. My husbands aism.
I know many of you have wrote how A's family never accepted you. I don't get it. Mil's daughter has been stealing from mil, she has abused her and more. Yet they are proud to say she is part of the family????
A is in jail. He is still part of the family. But me, who does not smoke, drink, use or cuss, they don't want me to be part of the family??? sick. they also said the same about mil's friend. She was not welcome either.
Well there is a "family" meeting at the doctors Tuesday. MIl's friend and I and mil are going to the bank to make sure meth daugher cannot steal from mil anymore and mil's friend and mine is becomiong mil's power of attorney.
So if you here a "blast" in Oregon it is the "family" freaking out.
my mom would say. "this is why mothers hair goes grey" love,debilyn
You really aren't surprised are you? A-ism causes insane things to happen and mil's sister is cut from the same cloth as the rest of the family. They consider you a threat. And your right, wait till they find out you're POA..yeesh!! Take a shield with you cuz you'll need it when the sh*t hits the fan. It's gonna fly everywhere..lol
love ya christy
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You've had a few rough days from your posts, good job on staying on you and standing up for yourself.
Boy, do I understand confusion over our A's families and how they work. My A uses with is family at first, it is full of Aism and dysfunction from the plain old somewhat normal family dysfunction on up to everyone in the family being each others drug dealers. They do not like someone SANE intruding, it messes up the whole balance.
I wish you the best on taking care of the things that poa gives you and your mil's friend, you're in my prayers as always.
I agree with what was already said.. Usually, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree ( at least that is what my Mother would say ) .. My husband's family is addict too.. His mother died at 57 an alcoholic, his father is an active alcoholic, is sister and brother in law smoke POT like some smoke cigs and me.. Well, they cant stand me either.. I think they look at us and it makes them see what they dont have. They are jealous because to them we are "put together" ...
Dont worry about them just keep doing what you know is right !!
Sometimes when these things happen all h*** can break loose. When my dad got so sick he gave me the POA, every vulture possible came out of the woodworks. He was too sick and didn't inform me enough ahead of time. Unknownst to anyone that I know of, he left the supposed 20 yr friend lawyer as executor. He pulled every string imaginable to let chaois happen. With 2 Abros and divorced Amom coming back for 2nds, it was a nightmare horror story. Never imagined things could get so nasty. Especially when money is to be had. And oh yea, they have a way of turning anybody gullible enough to their way of thinking. And power in #'s too. Hope you are careful and hate to say it , but the unimaginable is very possible from the A's and whoever they have recruited to their way of thinking. My Amom had a way of controlling anybody she was around if she could. And if she couldn't, OMG war was on. My dads estate was worth more than a 1/4mil and they couldn't stoop low enough to get all of it and terrorize all that got in the way. It began after he got too sick to do anything about it.
Several yrs after I went to my Amoms where she was and stayed awhile and sheeesh. I couldn't even talk to the neighbors where I had visited my grandparents all my life as she claimed ownership of all of them and I wasn't even supposed to talk to them. She was so paranoid something would mess up the impression she want to control of herself even if it was to my detrament. I'll never understand some of it. It does seem to fit a pattern among alot of the A's i knew.
Hope things go better for you. Take extra precautions if you feel threatened. Be careful. I'll say some prayers for you. Hope you can sail smoothly thru it all.
PeaceCourageSerenity
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