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This reading today is helping me with my situation, of constantly feeling pressured by my spouse to live full-time together again. I am not ready nor willing at this time. The reading says that it is important to pay attention to our own behavior thoughts, and feelings. The reading goes on to say we should not let others walk all over us. It doesn't mean we should ignore our loved ones, but we are encouraged to evaluate our choices. We need to rely on ourselves to make our situation better.
So this is what I'm trying to do. After 20 something years of living with an unpredictable, mean, and all the other things that go with the alcoholic, I got my own place near my son and live there half the week. I'm in my 7th year and I love it very much except for the travel. My spouse has about a year and a half of recovery and thinks a person is fully fine after this amount of time. So I have regular pressure to take an action I'm not ready to take. I don't know when I will be willing to live full time with my spouse again. I'm doing what's best for me, but it's not easy. Any ESH anyone has would be appreciated.
Hello anewdayeveryday. It's so nice to see someone on the board besides me! Yes boundaries are vital to my serenity and it's taken years to get them working for me most of the time. Progress not perfection. I heard on this board years ago, that someone said she had resigned from the doormat club. That phrase has stayed with me and always will. I used to be everyone's doormat and now I am no one's.
It is with great sadness that I tell you Betty passed from lung cancer right before covid. She had been my sponsor for about 7 years. Please feel free to write on this board. I try to check in everyday. You can also PM me. Welcome back, Lyne
