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you guys something bad is happening. When I went to the doctor last thursday I was being followed by a new durango.
I thought I was over reacting. But I got lost in that city suburb thing and was back tracking and he was behind me.
Just sorta forgot about it. Thought maybe I was seeing a different vehicle but same color. I mean he was there before and after my app.
today I went to town. there he was behind me at the stops sign.I thought I was nutty. went to the gas station, thought the vehicle went on. I drove out of the station. HE was waiting, parked on the side of the street! I almost thru up.
I made a quick right and went back to a light, it was green. I called my son and I was losing it. I turned down a street, he was stopped at a red light. I parked and Mac said to come to his house NOW.
I saw the durango go on by at the crossroad, he did not see where i went. Mac wanted me to have him follow me to his house. But I was so panic'd becuz I just realized what was happening, it was lik all these pieces of coinsidenses came together.
I went to macs and he and his wife followed me home.
this person has to know me. ? I feel sick. I have a lot of dogs and they bark scarey. Mac left me his pistol and showed me how to use it.
I am scared. this is a new vehicle, not junk. same racks on top.
need to sleep so bad.
I thought maybe it was my disability people watching me. But my adoptive mom said no, becuz this person is brazen, they are not trying to hide. Why would they follow me around?
I did call the disability people and told them if it is them, this is stalking and illegal here and if they want to see how i have to live becuz of my problem, they can come into my home. I also said I have a pistol and will use it if I have to.
I gotta sleep to get stronger. I feel like a wilted flower right now.
NO I could not see my A. was late becuz of this mess. they would not let me see him.
If it is possible can you get the registration number and let the police know. Please take care it may even have something to do with your daughter is she still estranged from her partner? Don't muck around with this let someone know who can trace the vehicle for you. (((()))Leo xxx
I'm so glad you have all your favorite friends (animals) to help keep you safe in your home. If you see this Durango around your house call the police and stay inside. Please don't take it lightly until you know what the heck is going on.
Please call the police about this, let them say they can or can't help you -- don't presume.
Be with many friends and family, a couple of others at least. Have them over or stay at their place. That's strength. Pull together the ones who depend on you so you can see them and take care of them. Lock the doors, close the windows, and keep your phone close.
Deb, I agree with kent, ditch the gun. I would be in touch with the police. If you see this vehicle again, try to get the plate #. I once had someone following me, and I drove straight to the police station.....guess they knew then not to mess with me. Stay close to family and friends, as much as possible. And, please be careful driving under such stress....ok?
Will be thinking of you and sending positive thoughs your way.
(((Deb)))) (((((Deb's family)))) (((((Deb's pet community))))
This person who is stalking you is doing more than just stalking. It seems to me 'stalking' implys covert following someone. What this person is doing is overtly terrorizing you and that is the point of her or his being so overt. When you go to the police (not if!) tell them you want the person(s) arrested for terrorizing you and be prosecuted as such.
You do not deserve that. I cringe at calling this person a person... the so so creep!
debilyn, there needs to be an official record of these occurrences, so go to the police right away. Meantime, if you can get a license # or any distinguishing marks on the vehicle, that would help clinch it. This all could be entirely coincidental and innocent, but it's not worth taking a chance. Times have changed, and we all need to be very vigilant.
I agree, unless you are a good shot and completely familiar with handling guns, ditch the gun. If it comes to a showdown, he's more likely to hurt you with it than you are to hurt him. Which leads me to make a point. All of us need to know how to handle guns. Friend and I target shoot with my 357 revolver, which we load with 38s, and his 22 calibre rifle. It's fun, and we are both expert shots. Most police departments offer courses. Diva
-- Edited by Diva at 11:17, 2006-05-14
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Dear Deb: There are many many sick people out there who get something out of terrorizing others. I hope that it was a momentary thing and that they will not keep it up. Anyone who knew your home and your animals would be crazy to go there and entertain getting into it with the animals. I feel badly because I feel that the woman next door who had two small dogs was broken into. There are thugs in my neighborhood who break into people's homes. They would not break into mine because I have a large dog but my neighbor had two small pekingnese's. Nevertheless I have seen small dogs that are crazy territorial so I think some people who commit criminal acts get off on the "risk" obstacles.
I have been thinking about this a lot as I have a possiblity of working in a very bad neighborhood. These days as I live in a bad neighborhood the prospect of working in a much much worse neighborhood is not something I can embrace. Nevertheless as I am no longer eligible for uemployment I might have to. I do not like to have those kinds of choices.
From what I know of of surveillance on disability and workers comp the people who do that want to be as inconpicous as possible. They do not want you to know they are there because they are there to observe and photograph. They are not there to intimidate. They leave bureacracy to do that.
I am so sorry this happened to you. You have enough to deal with at the moment. There are such sick sick people out there who get off on other's fear. I hope that this was some stupid crazy person who was out for a momentarily thrill. They do exist. They do drive around and look to scare people. I trust you will not allow them to take over your life. You have done such stellar, incredible work on detaching from the A and all the other craziness in your life. I know your home is safe, no one can get past those pigs and the llama's and your dogs. I trust in time that you will feel safe inside and feel loved and cared for by this group and worthy of your struggle to have a life that you deserve and thrive in.
I'm kinda agreeing with Richard that this person is trying to scare or upset you.He has to know that you are aware of him.
Time to let him know you are not to be messed with.Get the license plate # and call the police.Call them now even without the plate number.You need to have a report on file anyway,but maybe they will watch for him to follow you again and pull him over to question him.Or,as Becky said,drive right to the police station next time he is behind you.Don't be scared,get mad!You don't have to take this crap from anybody.
I don't like guns either.Bad idea.I know your son meant well,he's worried about you.
